Redefining Realness by Janet Mock

Redefining Realness

In 2011, Marie Claire magazine published a profile of Janet Mock in which she stepped forward for the first time as a trans woman. Those twenty-three hundred words were life-altering for the editor, turning her into an influential and outspoken public figure and a desperately needed voice for an often voiceless community. In these pages, she offers a bold and inspiring perspective on being young, multicultural, economically challenged,...

Details Redefining Realness

TitleRedefining Realness
Release DateFeb 4th, 2014
PublisherAtria Books
GenreNonfiction, Autobiography, Memoir, Feminism, Lgbt, Glbt, Queer

Reviews Redefining Realness

  • Raymond J
    I'm not the biggest fan of memoirs per se, and many trans memoirs are pretty dry, redundant, and focused on white trans men. I even *am* a white trans man but most of them exhausted me. I transitioned about 14 years ago, have worked around the queer community for nearly 20 years, and have recently felt a bit jaded and exhausted by the work. But in the past year, Janet Mock has really exploded into the cultural landscape and I couldn't be more gra...
  • Wart Hill
    A beautifully written, achingly honest story of one woman's struggle to understand, achieve, and own her truth.Janet Mock, I salute your courage and your honesty. Thank you for writing this. I hope your story reaches Trans people - and especially Trans women - everywhere.
  • Heather K (dentist in my spare time)
    I've been interested in Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More by Janet Mock for quite some time, so much so that I bought the book in paperback (a rare thing for me). I was hoping that the book would blow me away, and it truly did. I consider myself well-educated on trans issues, though obviously I'm approaching them from an outside perspective. I've read at nearly three dozen books with transgender main charact...
  • Evelyn Woagh
    Note: It has been three years since I read and reviewed this book. Re-reading my review and the comments now, I think there are a couple points where I was bit too relentlessly critical, even a bit petty. For the most part I still hold my disagreements and opposition. But for context, I would like to add that at time of reading, I was homeless. And the best thing people could offer me were useless transgender memoirs, rather than something practi...
  • Carol.
    I’ve been interested in this book ever since hearing Janet Mock talk on The Colbert Report (segment here). I loved her willingness to laugh at herself, her attempts to focus the disconcerting Colbert, her willingness to articulate identity issues on a show that specializes in sarcasm. Only in her late twenties, she’s written the story of her process of gender identity to date in Redefining Realness, an autobiography that is occasionally as te...
  • Tori (InToriLex)
    ind this and other Reviews at In Tori LexWe can all benefit from educating ourselves more about what it means to a Trans person in our society. Janet details her evolution from being a boy who knows she's a girl, to living in her truth and learning what that is. It was really jarring to imagine having to hide facets of your personality, because society doesn't believe you should have them. The violence that is committed against Trans people shows...
  • Danika at The Lesbrary
    This would actually make a great introductory book if you want to learn more about trans issues or want to give it to someone you know. Mock is careful to explain concepts and doesn't assume the reader is familiar with vocabulary or basic premises. It's also, of course, well written and honest even in extremely vulnerable, difficult moments. Definitely recommended.
  • The FountainPenDiva, Old school geek chick and lover of teddy bears
    This is a story of triumph over adversity. Of being true to one's self in a culture that devalues the lives of ALL black women. Mock stands tall, shines bright and demands RESPECT. If that bothers you, well, go read Fifty Shades of Grey.
  • Diana
    Fantastic memoir of a woman who was confident in her gender identity from a young age but struggled with family dysfunction, poverty, gender dysphoria and racism. Am absolutely brilliant study of trans living in the United States. I learnt a lot about trans phobia, appropriate language and everyday acceptance.
  • Spider the Doof Warrior
    Read this book. It tells about Janet Mock's journey to self acceptance and womanhood. The way her family learned to cope. She realized she was different from an early age. Her family tried to stop her from being feminine, especially her father. She tried to repress it to be the perfect son, but it didn't work.Soon she was able to get hormones and get closer to who she really is. It's interesting to finally see a book from a transgender perspectiv...
  • Karina
    It was great getting to know someone I admire so much on a deeper level. An incredibly raw story of finding one's own most authentic self.
  • Kara
    I tried this one on audiobook: Janet Mock narrates her own memoir, and she's wonderful.Mock was born a girl in a boy's body, and this is her story. I'm from Hawaii, where Janet came of age, and I learned so much about the trans community in Hawaii, and what it was like for a trans woman of color to grow up there.Mock's story is breathtaking. I don't have the words to describe how great this book was or how much I got out of it. I would recommend ...
  • Sarah
    Who thinks Janet Mock could pass the Bechdel Test? Not me.While I appreciate and respect the vulnerabilities she shares in this book, I find it really hard to swallow that the premise of this books existence was basically built on the support (and need for romantic love) of a man.
  • Janani
    A raw and touching memoir, Janet beautifully intersperses basic knowledge of the trans experience with her own personal narratives. It's impossible not to be moved by her story.
  • Karen
    It just didn't seem well written to me. Too many sweeping statements about life lessons that she conveyed in grandiose sentences. I feel like what is unusual about her story is that she came out post-transition, after establishing herself as an adult woman, rather than most trans celebrities I can think of for whom coming out meant announcing the start of a transition. It would've been more interesting to read about her adulthood than her childho...
  • beatricks
    TW for child sexual abuse, drug abuse, dysfunctional family junk, forced sex work, and of course transmisogyny, cissexism, and racism! Janet Mock is not a perfect writer. I grimaced my way through the first quarter of the book, which is full of unnecessary descriptions and awkwardly overstuffed phrases. I was puzzled by her professed love of storytelling and professional writing experience when her prose was so distractingly clunky. Those concern...
  • Shannon
    I read this book because I thought I would enjoy it. I had no idea that I would relate to it. At the crux of this story, we can all relate to hiding some part of ourselves and being afraid of what will happen if someone finds out. Although this can be viewed as a heavy topic, this book had me laughing throughout. There certainly are many parts that are not laughable, but Mock does a brilliant balancing act with the content in that regard. Tenacit...
  • Melissa
    Honest, open, unabashedly raw account of one transwoman's journey from awareness, through her evolution into womanhood. She also isn't afraid to reveal all the pitfalls and traps for young woman with little to no resources and very little family support or understanding. You will want to weep for her even as she details how much worse things could have been. This audiobook was all the better for being read by the author & told in her own voice.
  • Alice Lippart
    Honest, compassionate, fascinating and well worth the read.
  • Lindsay
    Wow...just incredible. I enjoyed listening to Mock tell the story of her youth growing up trans. This was one of those books that addressed questions I never knew I had. I want the world to be flooded with the voices of trans people.
  • Siria
    Redefining Realness is Janet Mock's account of growing up as a poor, multiracial trans woman in Hawaii. It's a very honest and moving account of what she went through in order to fully transition and gain the life she always wanted: a successful college graduate, she now lives in New York City with her partner. Mock writes both about her particular experiences and about the broader experiences of trans women, particular trans women of colour, and...
  • Shan
    Janet Mock's memoir of growing up trans is certainly compelling, extremely brave, and undoubtedly important -- and while I'm glad I read it, I found myself struggling throughout with how little I enjoyed doing so. There are moments when the story really comes alive -- for example, the vivid scenes of hanging out with her friend group of young trans women and Mock's fascinating exploration of the fluidity of gender in Hawaiian culture (I'd read a ...
  • Smash
    Check out my review here:Janet Mock is a transwoman author who has strong opinions on gender and the sex industry shared in this memoir. Mock discusses many topics, but this review will cover five: essentialism, the term “cis”, the term “fish”, hormone blockers for children, and the sex industry. http://liberationcollective.wordpress...
  • Jai Danielle
    Such a brave, beautiful book. Perfect read for me at this point in my own journey of self-actualization.
  • Barbara (The Bibliophage)
    Anyone who's ever stepped outside the norms of the community they were born into will appreciate this book. It's a defining memoir for the 21st century. I listened to the audiobook, read by the author, whose narration is terrific. Janet Mock is a woman with a deeply intersectional life experience. She was raised in poverty, is both multiracial and transgender. She embodies resilience and strength, telling her story with heart and grit. She says, ...
  • Vivian
    I hate to be cliche but wow, what an incredible and powerful read.
  • Kurt
    I was introduced to Janet Mock through a fascinating interview that she did on the Intersection podcast. When I learned a few months later that she was speaking on a nearby college campus, I sat enthralled through the event and bought this book so I could use an autograph request as an excuse to say hello. I'm not trans, but increased trans visibility in the last few years has encouraged me to make efforts to understand people whose stories are s...
  • Caiti S
    Compelling, brave, important, and affirming. Janet Mock shares her story of growing up as a poor, multiracial trans woman in Hawaii and explores the varied and nuanced parts of her identity and history. I appreciated how she balances memoir with educational/informational context, so this book would be great for people who don't have much experience with issues affecting the transgender community. Intersectionality is stressed throughout the book,...
  • Spider the Doof Warrior
    This book is so good.I wish it was longer. I learned a lot and her perspectives were extremely interesting as a woman of colour claiming full womanhood for herself her way. Excellent story. I kind of want a sequel though so I can know she's still doing OK. Living her life, surviving. It's awesome how her parents eventually accepted her on her terms too. It's great to see a book in the perspective of someone transgender and not a parent or a child...