Love the One You're With by Emily Giffin

Love the One You're With

The New York Times bestselling author of Something Borrowed, Something Blue, and Baby Proof delivers another captivating novel about women and the choices that define them. This is the story for anyone who has ever wondered: How can I truly love the one I'm with when I can't forget the one who got away?Ellen and Andy's first year of marriage doesn't just seem perfect, it is perfect. There is no question how deep their devotion is, and how natural...

Details Love the One You're With

TitleLove the One You're With
Release DateMay 13th, 2008
PublisherSt. Martin's Press
GenreWomens Fiction, Chick Lit, Fiction, Romance

Reviews Love the One You're With

  • Jillian
    I was very disappointed by this book. I really liked her other novels and found them to be quick, fun, beach-reads that still conjured up some feelings and life lessons. I felt nothing with this book except anger towards the main character and sort of annoyed at certain scenarios that were so incredibly far fetched that it made me say "Are you kidding me?" out loud. I wasn't rooting for anyone; I wasn't happy at the end of the book, or sad that i...
  • Sarah
    The thing I like about Emily Giffin is that she doesn't talk down to her readers. Nor does she assume that everyone who wants to read a light, fun, chick book gives two hoots about what brand of clothing the heroine wears. Her books aren't cerebral by any means, but they're smart. This is a story about a happily married woman who runs into the One That Got Away. The encounter brings up a host of memories and feelings and is the catalyst to a seri...
  • Sarika
    This book was awful. God, it was so awful. It isn't even worth a full review and so I will try to summarize it in a few lines.Ellen: I love Andy SO SO SO MUCH!Andy: I'm practically the epitome of a good person, and the author paints me in a way that makes me seem perfect. So yay: the story should just finish at this point.Leo: *glances at ellen*Ellen: OH MY GOD OH MY GOD. SWOON!! No no no no no I love andy yes yes yes yes yes I love leo.Andy: Let...
  • Emily
    Possibly never have I disliked a book more than I did this one. If possible- I would give this book a negative star rating. Unfortunately goodreads will not allow me to do this. So instead I’ll describe why my initial response upon finishing this book was one of depression at the realization I’ll never get the time back in my life that I wasted reading this book. My extreme distaste for this story stems from a number of things. To begin, I pr...
  • Angeld01
    This was another great book by Emily Giffen staying true to her form of regular people making some tough and non-conventional choices. I both disliked, and related to Ellen. I also liked how the scope of this book covered both the modern love story (in that the one we end up with is rarely the 1st one we have loved) and how losing Andy would have meant losing so much more for Ellen.It's hard to say what I would do if a smoldering love from the pa...
  • Jennifer
    Love the One You're With is a standalone, women's fiction/chick-lit novel written by author Emily Giffin. Ms. Giffin's novels have been hit or miss with me, and when they miss, they miss big time. I have zero appreciation for marital affairs or romantic deception in general that end in happily-ever-afters, so when the married female lead began making cringe-worthy choices when an old flame resurfaces, I considered doing a one-woman boycott. I fin...
  • Danielle
    First off, I couldn't put this book down, I started it on Sunday (late morning) and finished it Monday evening.This is my second favorite Emily Giffin book (behind Something Borrowed). There was a similar dynamic between Ellen and Margot, much like that of Rachel and Darcy in Something Borrowed. While the premise of the book wasn't the same, you get the same test of loyalty since Ellen is married to Margot's older brother Andy. In fact, I would s...
  • Christina
    2.5 stars.Love, not as a surge of passion, but as a choice to commit to something, someone, no matter what obstacles or temptations stand in the way. And maybe making that choice, again and again, day in and day out, year after year, says more about love than never having a choice to make at all.I've done it. I've now read all of Emily Giffin's novels (so far). I avoided this one for a while though, because from the description, you get a bit of ...
  • Karina
    I remember when Emily Giffin's first book came out, and since it dealt with cheating, I did not pick it up for the longest time. Then I read a thoroughly positive review of it (I think on, which may no longer be around) and I decided I had to see what the fuss was about.The reviewer did not do the book justice. It grabbed me from page one and wouldn't let go, even when it was dealing with messy topics such as betraying your best...
  • J.M. Cornwell
    A modern yuppie romance.Newlywed Ellen bumps into Leo, her old boyfriend, in the street in New York City on a rainy day. Stunned, she goes to a nearby coffee shop to gather herself. Leo calls her cell phone and asks where she is, showing up a few moments later. They have coffee and she tells him she’s married. He touches her hand and leaves but Leo doesn’t leave Ellen’s thoughts, not even when she’s with her husband, Andy, the man she lov...
  • Sara
    Emily Giffin is a very talented writer. Her first two books were nearly impossible to put down, she wrote the main characters so sympathetically and realistically that the stories truly came alive. Her third book was decent - not as mind-blowingly good as the first two, but still okay. This one, unfortunately, I couldn't even finish.My problem does not stem with the plot - a married woman runs into an ex-boyfriend and starts wondering about him a...
  • Kelly Lamb
    I had both good and bad reactions to this book. Good: it definitely sucked me in. It was hard not to be constantly wondering what choices Ellen would make next. The last 30 pages were impossible to put down. I also though Giffin did a good job of examining love and choice from a variety of angles. A very multi-facted way of viewing the storyline.Bad: Sometimes Ellen just STRESSED me out. She had great internal dialogue, but the fact that she woul...
  • Ben Babcock
    So I started sticky-noting this book on page 8. (Well, I started on page 12 and then retroactively stickied something on page 8.)I will sometimes mark up books I own when I feel like it, but I usually prefer to use sticky notes if I find something I really want to reference in my review (they are easier to find and allow me to be more verbose than scribbly margin writing). But I don’t do this that often. When I sticky-note, it’s usually for n...
  • Jeanne
    So, I was totally psyched to read the latest offering from Emily Giffin. I loved, loved, loved her other novels. But her latest is different. It starts out slowly, almost slow enough to make me quit. And the protagonist, Ellen Graham, isn’t exactly likable. She is a photographer and a newlywed, and she has just run into her ex, Leo. This is where the story gets good!Running into her ex leads to both physical and emotional reactions in Ellen. Is...
  • Rupa
    I have to admit that I do like some "chick-lit" and that I have read all of Emily Giffin's books. That said, I really didn't think that this book was anything special. The plot was predictable, and the characters weren't particularly memorable. Giffin's first two books, "Something Borrowed" and "Something Blue" were certainly more engaging; I wasn't as impressed by "Baby Proof" or "Love the One You're With."
  • Jennifer
    This book spoke to me because it mirrored my own struggle with my decision to end my marriage. At times it was as if the author was in my head, telling my story, although unlike Ellen, I didn't stay with my husband.Overall I really liked the book. However, there were a few things that bothered me. I thought that Ellen and Margot were too cliched. Ellen was the poor girl from Pittsburgh whose best friend Margot is the picture perfect Southern girl...
  • Jessica
    I'm curious to know whether Emily Giffin can write a book without a destroyed marriage or infidelity. Because every one of the books that I've read of hers include this, and not just as a secondary theme, but as the main plot of the book. Honestly, its monotonous. Infidelity is not at all something that I agree with, but granted, she writes the situations in a way that you can sympathize with the characters. That being said, every author has to h...
  • Lucie
    please, please, please don't bother...the in demand shelves at the library beckoned...i listened...and am now a national spokeswoman to say, please do not bother. save yourself. re-read an old favorite book & you'll be oh that much happier, i guarantee :)
  • Bree
    It took me days to read this book which a chick lit book takes 1 or 2 days to read. I found the main character Ellen as a whiny, ungrateful brat. That is funny because the author wrote a sad background story for her: poor, pittsburgh breed, lost her mother as teen. However I felt angry as I read the book that she was such a bitchy woe is me kind of girl. I tried to think about my past relationships to connect with her feelings of her ex but I jus...
  • Leah
    I love Emily Giffin’s writing and rank Something Borrowed as one of my favourite chick-lit books ever. I also enjoyed Something Blue and Baby Proof and was excited when I finally saw Love the One You’re With at the second-hand bookswop I go to.I quite liked the idea of the story: Ellen is married but after 100 days of marriage she bumps into her ex-boyfriend Leo. It seems she isn’t over him so the question is: who does she want to be with?I...
  • Claire - The Coffeeholic Bookworm
    The story began with Ellen Graham, who reasoned she’s got OCD and thus counted the days since she got married with Andy. And it had been eight years and sixteen days since she heard his voice again. And bumped into him while walking the streets. Her ex lover’s voice. Her former flame. The one that got away. Her Leo.Ellen got great taste in photography, she had the talent and skill. So when Leo offered her a job to take pictures of celebrities...
  • Stephanie
    Emily Giffin could very well be put in the category of genius women writers. When I was growing up, my mother would devour romance novels by Danielle Steel and Barbara Delinsky. When I asked her why she read so many of them, she told me that each of the books had a resonating undertone of the married life and the feelings that all married women feel at one point or another.So, now, after I have devoured all of Emily Giffin's books, I feel the sam...
  • Jessica
    A fine example of the current state of "chick lit" as the protagonists move from the search for the soul mate to what happens after the wedding. Here, our plucky girl in the city has just married a smart, successful, rich, nice, handsome guy who adores her and who happens to be the brother of her best friend from college. A chance run-in with her ex-boyfriend on the street somehow (inexplicably, in my view) leads to months of subterfuge and guilt...
  • CupcakeBlonde
    I really enjoyed this book. The subject matter really hit home for me. Having been in a simialr situation as Ellen I could relate to her plight and understand how confused and in turmoil she was. That first love who you love with such passion and then who breaks your heart is tough to forget. And like Ellen, I never really got closure so there was always the what if questions. But as you get older and more experienced in ways of the heart, you re...
  • Taylor Flor
    This book was a very interesting story where Ellen, a woman in her 30s, realizes she still has feelings for her ex from many years ago. One day she runs into him in the city and is met with a challenge of who she wants to be with more: Her husband or her ex. I found this book a little slow at times but it was a good story. I recommend this for anyone who enjoys romance stories. This book was a very interesting story where Ellen, a woman in her...
  • Aeren
    Es como si alguien hubiese decidido coger todo lo que detesto y hubiese escrito un libro con ello LOL, qué malo por merlín. Lástima que no se puedan dar estrellas negativas porque esta cosa las merece.
  • Kim
    I'm unsure about this book (but I REALLY wanted to love it)...part of me wanted to give it 4 stars and then there were times when I was thinking 2-3. I probably would have given it 3.5 stars, but that option isn't on goodreads. I don't want to say too much because many of you are planning on reading this book...and I honestly can't pinpoint why I wasn't as big of a fan of this book as some of her others. I do think that as far as chick lit goes, ...
  • Angie
    2.5 starsI didn't like this book... The characters were unlikable, shallow, stupid even. It put me in a bad mood just reading it. At which point I ordinarily would have just stopped reading. But a friend from work had loaned it to me and I hated to not finish it. (I really enjoy Jill Mansell's chick lit books, so she thought I might like this author too.) Once I got past halfway, it got a little better. But still not something I would recommend o...
  • Sara
    This book had me from page one and kept me there until the end. It is filled with suspense and anticipation, at one point I was truly dreading what would come next and couldn’t put the book down. I simply love it when it’s like that.Also, there is the happy ending! With Leo or Andy? This I will not tell…
  • Jessika
    I don't know about the rest of you, but as for me, I love a good chick lit every now and then. And oh guuurrrl, does Emily Giffin write good chick lit. Her books are smart, first and foremost. Many people disregard chick lit as pure fluff, but I think Emily Giffin definitely breaks that mold. Whether it's a girl in love with her best friend's fiance (Something Borrowed) or a married woman given the chance between her fairy tale husband and the "o...