I Know How You Feel by F. Diane Barth

I Know How You Feel

An expert's rich exploration of the intense, complicated landscape of women's friendships. “Do I have enough friends?” “Why did my friendship end?” and “What makes a good friendship work?"These are questions that F. Diane Barth, a psychotherapist widely recognized for her expertise in women’s relationships, fields all the time. In I Know How You Feel, she draws out engaging stories from a lively and diverse cast of women, many of w...


Details I Know How You Feel

TitleI Know How You Feel
ISBN9780544870277
Author
Release DateFeb 6th, 2018
PublisherHoughton Mifflin Harcourt
GenreNonfiction, Psychology
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Reviews I Know How You Feel

  • Michelle
    1970-01-01
    For decades, NYC psychotherapist F. Diane Barth has specialized in women’s counseling and studies. Our valuable and vital connections to others are explored in “I Know How You Feel: The Joy and Heartbreak of Friendship in Women’s Lives” . Over time as women mature and experience personal growth development, the changes and impacts of women’s friendship are significant.In our mobile and fast paced society, it seems to be a rarity to main...
  • Sharon
    1970-01-01
    A scholarly examination of the way in which women's friendships differ from men's, this book seeks to provide insight into how and why friendships occur and change. I'm not entirely certain that the author achieved this goal. She used a meta-analysis of media (including TV shows like "Gilmore Girls") and interviews to reach her conclusions.I found the chapters on boundaries and grief to be most enlightening, as they examined the importance of set...
  • Lori
    1970-01-01
    Before: I won an advanced copy through Goodreads and the publisher and I can't wait to get it because the older I get the less I think I understand. My female friendships are very important to me. Aren't we all a little Complicated?During: So far this book is a little scattered and mostly seems to be focused at moms. There are plenty of women without husbands or children and female friendships are important for them as well.The book also jumps ar...
  • Christina
    1970-01-01
    I enjoyed this book. It's worth a read.This book is written by a psychotherapist who specializes in women's relationships. It delves into all the nuances of female relationships. I liked how it brought out that some women feel if they don't have that close we -share -everything-and-talk-everyday kind of relationship, one that is often idealized in movies and TV, there is something wrong or they did something wrong and they don't have real friends...
  • Kathleen
    1970-01-01
    Just shy of my 21st birthday, I was told by a woman, seven years my senior, that she "had enough friends" and would only add "acquaintances" from that point on. I was surprised at her comment because first, I hadn't been thinking we were becoming friends; second, I wasn't really interested in becoming her friend; third, was she considering me a candidate for the "acquaintance" category?; and fourth, who thinks about having "enough friends" anyway...
  • Carol
    1970-01-01
    A thoughtful book by seasoned psychoanalyst F. Diane Barth, based on interviews with other women ( their names and other details are altered for anonymity). One interesting section is on when a woman should or shouldn't let a friendship end, and how this decision might vary according to individual needs and wants. Another point is that we may need to broaden our definition of friendship -- if a friendship is fulfilling for us, even if it is meeti...
  • Meghan
    1970-01-01
    I received this book as an advanced reader's copy and I was waiting for a book like this to be created. This is the ultimate guide for adolescent socialism. This book provides a full depth analysis on the social problems and complexities that everyone faces everyday and the reasons provided are good thoughts to remember such as social media friends vs. Real Life Friends and the whole chapter on cliques. I highly recommend this book to not only st...
  • Karen Day
    1970-01-01
    As someone who is fascinated by women's friendships, I enjoyed this thoughtful and insightful look into the complications, joys and sorrows that women experience with each other. I thought the use of reoccurring characters to extrapolate points was well done. And I especially liked sections (Disillusionment, Betrayal, and Rejection) dealing with the less rosy parts of friendship. Diane Barth has a comfortable, non judgmental writing style that ma...
  • Betty Mintz
    1970-01-01
    I found the book insightful and relevant to my personal friendships. I have a friend with an eating disorder and now have a better understanding of her situation. Ms. Barth discusses how friends from childhood are links to the past and help one remember her parents. For only children such as myself these links are invaluable. Her comments about the sense of loss we feel when a friend dies are relevant to those of us who have lost a friend of any ...
  • Molly Sutter
    1970-01-01
    While I think this book touched on some ways in which female friendships are special, this book really seemed to be more about the nuances of personalities meeting and meshing (or not) in general. The book touches on a number of topics, including how friendships begin and end, and even what exactly constitutes a friendship--but what I enjoyed most was reflecting on my own female friendships while I read this book.
  • Ruby
    1970-01-01
    "It is not always easy to know when to offer advice, when to make an active intervention, when to keep your opinions to yourself and simply offer support and comfort. Or when to simply give up - a solution that could mean leaving a friendship altogether.":if a woman is going to be my friend, she's going to have to like herself enough to be able to be pleased with me when I'm successful."
  • Betty
    1970-01-01
    This book explained, with examples, how women develop and maintain friendships. I believe that the book would be great for a book group-- not only for adult women, but for young adults.
  • Dana
    1970-01-01
    Less scholarly than I’d hoped. Definitely brought awareness of friendships that have disappointed me, or disappeared. Didn’t really offer remedies, either. Left me sadder and only a little wiser.
  • Leslie Jonsson
    1970-01-01
    First great non-fiction book I've read this year (yes, I realize the year has just started). A thorough evaluation of women's friendships, why they last; and why they end. Very informative.