Like a Mother by Angela Garbes

Like a Mother

What to read after What to Expect . . . . A badass, feminist, and personal deep-dive into the science and culture of pregnancy and early motherhood that debunks myths and dated assumptions, offering guidance and camaraderie to women navigating one of the biggest and most profound changes in their lives.Like most first-time mothers, Angela Garbes was filled with questions when she became pregnant. What exactly is a placenta? How does a body go int...


Details Like a Mother

TitleLike a Mother
ISBN9780062662965
Author
Release DateMay 29th, 2018
PublisherHarper Wave
GenreNonfiction, Parenting, Feminism, Autobiography, Memoir
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Reviews Like a Mother

  • Jaime
    1970-01-01
    This. Is. Excellent. I say that as a mother, as a maternal-child health MPH, and as a woman. This tells it like it is, with the science and research and sociology to back it up. I laughed, i underlined, I wrote in the margins. I only wish I’d had this when I was pregnant. She writes about that dreaded postpartum poop with a candor that I loved. This should be mandatory reading for pregnant people. And anyone who loves them and cares for them.
  • Jaime
    1970-01-01
    UPDATE: For those who want more info on breastfeeding - and why pushing new moms to nurse is misguided - check out this article on the Daily Beast: https://www.thedailybeast.com/the-bre... As a new mother and feminist killjoy, I was so excited to read this book. Everything about its premise perfectly encapsulated where my mommy brain now resides. There were so many wonderful parts of this book. The chapter about the placenta was utterly fascinati...
  • Samantha
    1970-01-01
    There's a pretty good consensus nowadays that pregnancy guides are problematic in various ways. They're condescending, judgmental, and aren't very informative. There's a real need for books that speak more to the science of pregnancy and don't infantilize women when offering advice, and Angela Garbes's book is a step in that direction.While much of this is personal narrative, Garbes does some deep dives into subjects most mothers encounter during...
  • Jaci Millette Cooper
    1970-01-01
    Motherhood- it's an unfolding. Of course, I don't know this firsthand- I cannot relate, but Garbes’ use of the literal unfolding of paper as a metaphor for the transformation of motherhood, gradual and all at once, makes me almost believe I can empathize: “At first, I see the unfurling of tissue and viscera, the way our placenta, unraveled, would occupy miles of space. Then, the image gives way to a paper fortune teller, the intricately folde...
  • Katya
    1970-01-01
    There is some great stuff in this title, and I enjoyed reading it. Garbes is a thoughtful and illustrative writer--she really digs into imagery and detail. I wish, though, that this book had been more heavily edited. There is no clear throughline, and subjects thus receive a random-seeming amount of attention, which varies quite a bit from topic to topic. While of course Garbes makes no claim to having written a comprehensive book, I feel she cou...
  • Sarah
    1970-01-01
    I wish this had been longer, because I feel like it touched on so much and could have been thousands of pages. But it’s great and worth reading.
  • Meggie
    1970-01-01
    4.5 starsI wish I could have read this book before giving birth to my son. Garbes—a journalist—writes about pregnancy, childbirth and postpartum life as a mother in an equally informative and emotional way. I found myself resonating with a lot of her observations about having a child, and I also learned a great deal about pregnancy and being a mother. Garbes’ in-depth research about a topic she was highly interested in—she had just given ...
  • Ms. Yingling
    1970-01-01
    Public library copyThis made me really glad that I am old, and that I had my children long enough ago that maternity clothes were tents and there were topics that just... weren't discussed. Now everything needs to be discussed, apparently. Still, I learned a lot, especially that people talk about miscarriages now. I don't want to be completely out of the loop if my one daughter ever has children. I need to read enough to know what to keep my mout...
  • Darcy
    1970-01-01
    Since becoming pregnant and then becoming a mother, I have had lots of moments where I’ve said to myself, “Why doesn’t anyone TELL YOU about this??!” This book, more than any other pregnancy/parenthood book I’ve read, tells you those things: the gross postpartum issues, the lingering aches and pains, the incredibly complicated emotions, etc. There’s also a lot of really neat-o science throughout! I just thoroughly enjoyed reading this...
  • Chinook
    1970-01-01
    I learned a lot, I cried a lot, I contemplated a lot. It’s a good look at the realities of giving birth in America right now, a good exploration into interesting things going on in a mother’s body. It centres the experience of the mother, rather than the child which is refreshing. I think she lost a chance to bring up how flawed some of the studies surrounding claims for breastfeeding, but in general reading this was a healing experience for ...
  • AnnieLiz Love
    1970-01-01
    I wish I could give this book more than 5 stars! I’m currently 29 weeks pregnant and this book has been a revelation in the best way possible. I laughed, I cried, I was shocked- Thank you to Angela Garbes for writing this book. It meant so much to me.
  • Rachel
    1970-01-01
    Local author! Wacky true science facts! I endorse this.
  • Sam Southerd
    1970-01-01
    Hated her 30 page discussion on alcohol and pregnancy but the rest was interesting. The book is more her story and experiences than true scientific facts but she did try to weave some science in. Nothing new for me but still enjoyable. Might be too much for a first time mom? Lots of worst case situations graphically described.
  • Amanda
    1970-01-01
    This was lower on science than I would have liked, especially because I found this book after so enjoying her article on the science of breastfeeding, but it was fascinating and honest account of one women's experience finding her own way through pregnancy and motherhood.
  • Hannah
    1970-01-01
    I have two children, 3 years old and 18 months. So my days are full of diapers, making snacks, so much laundry and someone is on me constantly. So when I read a book in two days, it’s a Big Deal. This is the book pregnant people should read. This is the book their partners and support people should read. This is the book every human who has grown in a uterus should read. It made me cry. It made me laugh. It made me raise my hands and go yes yes...
  • Jennifer
    1970-01-01
    This is an incredible book—a mix of wonderfully poetic language about pregnancy, birth, and the body; a real passion for the science behind bringing a new life into the world; comfort for women and the various struggles they face in trying to and then becoming a mother; and a wonderful feminist thread connecting everything and pointing out all the various places women's issues and rights have been ignored. Angela's book is part memoir, part hea...
  • Bonnie Limbird
    1970-01-01
    Even 12 years past pregnancy, birth, and breastfeeding, this book was fascinating. It triggered memories I had long since forgotten, as well as several "aha!" moments and a few "Wow!"s. I wish I'd had this to read during my first trimester and through the first few years of motherhood. At it's most basic, it's a pregnancy book, but really it's a call to arms for healthcare to do better by women, to research and learn our bodies and the amazing th...
  • Lynn
    1970-01-01
    Very informative, well written. Wish I’d had this when I was pregnant and had become a mother the first time. I found I could relate to a lot of the descriptions of a new mother’s postpartum mental, physical and emotional states. Also, science! Loved the detailed (yet not bogged down by scientific jargon) descriptions of the miracle of breast milk, the fascinating placenta, and most of all, microchimerism research. I love the idea that we all...
  • Lauren
    1970-01-01
    I listened to the author’s interview on Fresh Air with Terry Gross and immediately downloaded the book, speeding through it in two days. It is the book I didn’t realize I was waiting for in pregnancy and preparing for childbirth. The author is candid about the physical and psychological challenges and triumphs of pregnancy and childbirth. I thought I had read and learned a lot over the past few months, but was blown away by her chapters on br...
  • kaylin
    1970-01-01
    Finally a book about pregnancy that does not exclusively center the experiences of middle class white women!! After slogging through a lot of crappy pregnancy books this one was such a welcome change. Not only does Garbes talk about outcome inequities during pregnancy and birth (black mothers are FOUR TIMES as likely to die in childbirth in this country) she counters the traditional Western medicalized narrative with real expertise and experience...
  • Jordan
    1970-01-01
    This book was exactly what I needed! I am currently nearing the end of the second trimester of my first pregnancy. “Like a Mother” inspired me and made me fall in love with my body. I have been finding myself quoting facts from the book daily to whoever will listen. My own mother, who gave birth to 5 babies, told me she had no idea about much of what I was telling her. I am so grateful that I heard the author read the placenta chapter on a po...
  • Sai
    1970-01-01
    This was an honest and thoughtful personal research driven book which is much needed in the societies we live in - where women are expected to ‘naturally’ take on lives and roles which are difficult to transform into, and traumatic, despite the miracle and joy factor that exists for some. I have often thought we never gave the opportunity to actually understand our reproductive bodies despite the often-default of eventual pregnancy. I do also...
  • Ruth
    1970-01-01
    I'm so glad this book exists—it's a fascinating account of the biology of pregnancy and goes into much greater depth (in much fewer pages) than anything else I've read. Her discussions of the culture of pregnancy are also much needed—it's the first book I've read to address pregnancy explicitly within a patriarchal, white supremacist society. It's also one of the only pregnancy books I've read by a woman of color. Finally, I learned far more ...
  • Ali Bickford
    1970-01-01
    I loved some chapters of this book that were about the science of the body ( Breast milk & placenta ) and I appreciated the real life examples from all the other women she interviewed( it felt like ethnographic research). At other moments it was very focused on the authors experiences in a memoir tone and the science to back up her experiences...Thus the 4 stars and why I set down this book and took a month break before finishing. Overall :Will I...
  • Jenny
    1970-01-01
    Highly recommend this book to all expecting mothers. This book made lots of good points, debunked myths and gave me a clearer idea of the horror of what’s going to happen to me. No matter what you’re looking for in the internet, you’ll always find the answer you’re looking for- is wine bad during pregnancy? Yes it is. Is wine safe during pregnancy? yes it is. She goes into depth about topics such as this, the role of the placenta, miscarr...
  • Amanda Layton
    1970-01-01
    I really liked the mix of science and narrative Ms Garbes uses. The world could use more books like this and I hope she keeps expanding on the topic--especially with a focus on science. I did find, like many books on the science of being a woman, that I was left with not much hope for the world prioritizing women's health. That said, it exposes some truths that need to be out there -- for example, there's more known about ACL tear recovery than c...
  • Carrie
    1970-01-01
    Fascinating combination of personal memoir and science-y stuff about pregnancy and the female body (as a non-pregnant woman I really enjoyed it). A reminder that we know so little about the female body and pregnancy. I’m so grateful for the researchers out there that choose to study the placenta, clitoris, uterus, pregnancy, etc with little fanfare and less govt $$. If those parts/processes were connected to the male body we’d have started th...
  • shanna washington
    1970-01-01
    Smart, relatable, relevant to the modern day motherGreat mix of memoir, science , and contemplation. I'm six months pregnant with my first and I feel like it jump started my brain into working again. The writing style is very enjoyable to read. It is full of really interesting information that I've not read anywhere else. It made me feel powerful and have new appreciation what the body can do. I loved it!
  • Erin
    1970-01-01
    This book was incredibly interesting. It's about pregnancy and birth from a feminist perspective. I was taken aback by how little I know about this stuff. For example, the placenta is an entirely new organ that your body grows! I guess I knew this but like...never really thought about it. I haven't had children so I couldn't relate to everything in the book but I feel like it will help me be a better friend to my friends who are pregnant.
  • JoEllen
    1970-01-01
    In the same way of thinking as Expecting Better, this book cuts through some of the generalized, moralized, fluffy pregnancy advice to focus on the proven facts. I really appreciate the fresh look at the science of pregnancy and childbirth, especially the focus on the often-overlooked topics like the placenta and breast milk. The culture was also interesting, to hear how the American medical industry has treated childbirth through history. It cou...