Text Me When You Get Home by Kayleen Schaefer

Text Me When You Get Home

From Girls to Parks and Recreation to Bridesmaids, the female friendship has taken an undeniable front seat in pop culture. Text Me When You Get Home is a personal and sociological perspective - and ultimately a celebration - of the evolution of the modern female friendship.Kayleen Schaefer has experienced (and occasionally, narrowly survived) most every iteration of the modern female friendship. First there was the mean girl cliques of the '90s;...

Details Text Me When You Get Home

TitleText Me When You Get Home
Release DateFeb 6th, 2018
PublisherPenguin Audio
GenreNonfiction, Feminism, Audiobook, Sociology, Adult, Womens, Relationships, Autobiography, Memoir, Gender, Womens Fiction, Chick Lit

Reviews Text Me When You Get Home

  • Betsy Kipnis
    Ugh. This book was a complete waste of time. The author is self indulgent and weaves her fantastic state of friendship affairs in and out of historic discusssion of the evolution of feminine friendship as represented on television. I read to avoid television and reading this book is like watching all the television shows I’ve avoided (sans Sex In The City). The author/s replay way too much of the episodes and as a premise this hardly reads as a...
  • Danielle H
    I feel it's appropriate to say that I texted one of my friends while reading, "I am legit holding back tears reading this book at work because a girl's best friend died and I can't process the idea of you being dead". She is a person I text when I get home. There are so many more of her and I am so incredibly lucky to have all of these women in my life who support me and love me and get me and let me tell them in so many ways, "Let's keep talking...
  • Jaclyn Crupi
    Perfect Galentine’s Day reading! This book makes you want to grab your gal gang and hug them hard. Female friendship is a force and I don’t know where I’d be without the ladies in my life. I love how this book celebrates everything that female friendship is and the love we have for one another. As Keira Knightley put it, ‘Female friendships are fucking extraordinary.’
  • Marta
    This book is just a buzzfeed article about 20 reasons Your Galentine's Day Gal is More than Your BFF She's Your LITERAL SOUL MATE (no homo). But instead of Galentine's Day GIFs the author writes things like "'Galentine's Day' was introduced to the world by Leslie Knope, a fictional midlevel bureaucrat in an Indiana parks and recreation department on the NBC sitcom Parks and Recreation."The real question this book-shaped listicle poses is - who, o...
  • Stacey Kimmel
    I wanted to like this book, but I was hoping for something well-researched and thoughtful. Instead I found it repetitive and sophomoric. I returned after the second chapter, which focused on, of all things, the movie Beaches. I would not have thought this movie worthy of more than a paragraph, but she spends a CHAPTER on it, recounting the plot, how it differs from the book, and actor/actress reminiscences of its making. She claims that there are...
  • Dina
    I couldn't figure out what about this book rubbed me the wrong way until after I finished it.The (incredibly patronizing) author really doesn't have a clue.There were parts that resonated and made sense, but the author kept going on and on about how she shunned female friendships her whole life, how she looked down on women who had "squads," and how she was more of a "man's girl" and related to men more than to women. Then one day, she meets a gi...
  • Vanessa (splitreads)
    A mix of memoir (Schaefer's personal friendships as well as those of friends she knows), some discussions about recent friendships in pop culture (Parks & Rec, Insecure, Broad City, Big Little Lies), and some history/biology on female friendships. It was a charming book that related the importance of female friendships and made me think of my own friendships. There is nothing mind-blowing here though, but the audiobook was a nice listen.
  • Leigh Kramer
    An examination of the importance of female friendship, Text Me When You Get Home is sure to inspire a reflection about the role of female friendship in your life. Part memoir and part social history, Schaefer's stories and illustrations show the many ways female friendship has evolved over the years."Text me when you get home" is a statement women use for many reasons. It's to make sure our friend is safe or because we want an update on the cute ...
  • Jen
    I wanted to like this book but I just.... didn’t. It was too chatty, anecdotal, heavy on pop culture references and felt very specific to young, white privileged middle or upper middle class women’s experiences. I don’t know, I’m not sure what I wanted from this book but I didn’t get it. Like, obviously female friendship is extremely powerful and rewarding and my best friend is basically like my life partner but this book didn’t reall...
  • Simone
    I had really high hopes for this book and I was so looking forward to reading it. I think it was a case of the subtitle overselling whatever the book was attempting to do. Instead, the book reminded me a lot of Life Moves Pretty Fast: The Lessons We Learned from Eighties Movies and not in a good way? For one, she seemingly implies that female friendships didn't exist before the 1980s, or maybe the 1950s? Or at least she starts the book talking a...
  • Olivia Garant
    I really wanted to like this book. It just did nothing for me. The impacts that my female friends have on my life are huge. For me, the type of relationships described in this book are vital. Here is the problem I have - so are ALL of my other relationship types. Whether it be my female friends, my family, male friends, or the relationship I have with the individual I am sharing my life with. I feel these are equally important and have all impact...
  • Carey Gibbons
    Pretty excellent meditation on female friendships and how they should be just as important as marriages and children and cats. I especially liked the early chapters that talked about being a young woman in high school and college and how a lot of us are taught that our female friends are just stand-ins while we wait for marriage. Oh holy hell, I was guilty of this. This book doesn't aim to bash marriage or say that friendships should replace it (...
  • Michelle
    I won this book in a raffle and read it quickly. I like the premise of this book (YES to female friendships!) but it was a huge missed opportunity to go much deeper in many parts. I feel like more than half of it is a recap of movies and TV shows (many of which are very white and I have not seen so it was wholly unrelateable), with the other half personal anecdotes. It is very repetitive, and could have been condensed to a longform think piece. T...
  • Kelsey
    Rarely in recent memory have I had such strong feelings about a book, both positive and negative. While reading, I kept texting a friend of mine to tell her about the various anecdotes and stories laid out in this book, sometimes in frustration, and sometimes in joy. If nothing else, this book is compelling.The author, Kayleen Schaefer, does an excellent job of weaving her own memories and stories of her friends in with an exploration of female f...
  • Deedi (DeediReads) Brown
    All my reviews can be seen at https://deedireads.com/. "'I love you,' one of us will say. 'Text me when you get home,' the other will say. We're saying the same thing." This was a great book! Schaefer is compelling, entertaining, and moving. I've read a lot of nonfiction books, and they can often move slowly, even if they are saying important things. Not so with Text Me When You Get Home; I zipped through this one in just two days and truly en...
  • Kourtney • kourtneysbookshelf
    The women I love are like a life raft I didn't know I was looking for before I got on it." -Text Me When You Get HomeThis. Book. Y'all. I highlighted so many passages in this book that are relevant. I rarely read non-fiction, I rarely choose to read memoirs. I read the synopsis for this one on Goodreads and basically sprinted (figuratively, of course) over to Dutton to request a copy. In a nutshell Text Me When You Get Home: The Evolution and Tri...
  • Bri (girlwithabookblog.com)
    Text Me When You Get Home's title is based off of how lady friends will often end an in person hang out by telling each other to "text me when you get home," like a subtle "I love you" and acknowledgment of the potential for danger that lurks beneath any women's experience moving from one place to another. As someone who does this regularly with my friends, I LOVED the premise of this book (anecdote: I also paid more attention to how my friends r...
  • Meg
    This read like friendsplaining 101, instead of the deeper exploration I'd been hoping for. Something about it felt very "You remember friends, right, Mac?" "Yeah, I have friends every day of my life."
  • Linh
    An interesting and fun look into why women need women friends.
  • Kelly 💜☕️
    I enjoyed this nonfiction memoir about the evolution of female friendship. The book opens with this:Blythe Baird, a poet in her early twenties in Saint Paul, Minnesota, wrote, in a poem called "Pocket-Sized Feminism":We accept this state of constant fear as just another part of being a girl.We text each other when we get home. Text Me When You Get Home: The Evolution and Triumph of Modern Female Friendship is a mix of the author's own experience...
  • Lisa
    Kayleen Schaefer has written an interesting and heartfelt analysis of female friendships and its significance. She uses both real life and fictional accounts to demonstrate her points, which include the judgments passed on female friendships, as well as the growing trend of women choosing to rely mainly on friends instead of husbands/spouses. The stories make you feel good and remind you of the positive ways that women exist without men. Unfortun...
  • Emily
    I really wanted to like this, but it just did not work for me. It combines elements of cultural criticism, psychology/sociology, and memoir, but the balance is off - too much memoir, not enough of everything else - to make Schaefer's argument compelling. Instead of a study of the evolution of female friendship in contemporary culture, it reads like one woman's struggle with (and basically triumph over, so good on her) internalized misogyny/patria...
  • Julie
    Kayleen Schaefer never considered herself a “girly” girl. As a child and pre-teen, she felt largely excluded from other girls her age. As she reached adolescence, Kayleen had a bit more luck developing female friendships, but began to see them as little more than way stations and stop gaps en route to her next boyfriend. This feeling continued for Kayleen through college, prompting her to leave her sorority for a guy she was currently seeing....
  • Lawral
    I loved this book. I read it mostly on my lunch breaks, and I would have to go back to my office early to email my friends. It made me homesick for certain people and college and the easy way we built the friendships that still get me through both my hard and my wonderful days. I recommended it to everyone while I was reading it. Told my friends I loved them and told them to read this book. It's pretty heteronormative, chapter 3 is titled "All Ab...
  • Shigufa Saleheen
    I got this galley over the weekend, finished it within the day, and then immediately sent ‘I LOVE YOU!!’ texts to all of my best friends. Like, think of your closest girlfriends. The ones that immediately pop into mind, the ones that have been with your through everything, the ones that just thinking of them makes you feel an overwhelming wave of love. This book is 298 straight pages of that exact amazing feeling! It was a day of reading and ...
  • Sarah Ames-Foley
    01/18/2018Relatively fun read, but lacking in direction. RTC.02/06/2018(This review can also be found on my blog.)I was stoked when I saw this book on NetGalley, a feminist book about how important female friendships are? It was right up my alley. Unfortunately, I ended up being somewhat disappointed by the content. Overall, the book is well-written and makes a lot of important points. But these points are surrounded by a meandering narrative tha...
  • Courtney Hurley
    So disclaimer: I am not a girl with one (nor many) super strong female friendship bonds. So my review may be a little jaded perhaps. BUT if you’re a girl who fucking LOVES friendship & girlfriends & being obsessed w/ your BFF, you WILL enjoy this book.I really enjoyed most of it, I appreciated the cultural references and background on lots of friendships depicted in pop culture. (Except no mention of ‘The First Wive’s Club’?! Hello, Frien...
  • Jessika
    This was a lovely, warm book, and I saw so much of myself and my friend group in these pages. As I get older and remain steadfastly and enjoyably single, it's a relief to read about other women who also aren't focused on romantic relationships, deciding instead to cultivate friendships to give them support and joy. Schaefer also touches on how dangerous it is to put all your emotional needs on one person, as well as how that's mostly a modern dev...
  • Lily
    Complete female-bonding loveliest. This was an incredibly sweet read, closely linked with Rebecca Traister's All the Single Ladies. Kayleen Schaefer traces female friendship in society and media across decades and throughout life stages. She discusses mean girls, "you're my person" type dependency, and the uniqueness of having a best friend you can tell anything to. She references some Lily Glickstein favorites like Parks and Recreation, Amy Poeh...
  • Corinne Keener
    Inspired by a phrase that many women leave one another with after a night out, or in, Kayleen Schaefer’s new book Text Me When You Get Home is a veritable catalogue of female friendships in movies and television of the last 30 years. The themes from media are paired with many anecdotes from Schaefer’s life as well as those of women she interviewed including her mother, a ‘mean girl’ from her high school days, and Judy Blume. What it doesn...