There Are No Grown-ups by Pamela Druckerman

There Are No Grown-ups

The best-selling author of Bringing Up Bebe investigates life in her forties, and wonders whether her mind will ever catch up with her face.When Pamela Druckerman turns 40, waiters start calling her "Madame," and she detects a disturbing new message in mens' gazes: I would sleep with her, but only if doing so required no effort whatsoever.Yet forty isn't even technically middle-aged anymore. And after a lifetime of being clueless, Druckerman can ...

Details There Are No Grown-ups

TitleThere Are No Grown-ups
Release DateMay 29th, 2018
PublisherPenguin Press
GenreNonfiction, Autobiography, Memoir, Humor, Biography Memoir, Biography, Parenting

Reviews There Are No Grown-ups

  • Sonja Arlow
    As I am 42 I am at the beginning of this decade that the author wanted to make sense of. To be honest I have no idea why I picked this up. I don’t feel as if I am going through a mid-life crisis, I don’t break out in a sweat when someone asks me my age and I don’t have this uncontrollable urge to go bungee jumping or sky diving (I did all that in my 30s)Each chapter ends with “You know you are in your 40s when….” Followed by little ge...
  • Rebecca Foster
    Druckerman’s French Children Don’t Throw Food (U.S. title: Bringing Up Bébé) was a surprise hit with me in 2012, the sort of wide-ranging, witty book anyone can enjoy, parent or no. Earlier this year I read her first book, Lust in Translation, and was disappointed that it lacked a personal component; it read like pure journalistic investigation, and was weaker for that. Here she’s back with what she does best: slightly neurotic reflection...
  • Kate
    2.5/5This book is written by an American expatriate who lives in France. It essentially compares and contrasts how life lessons experienced by adults in their 40s / midlife differs between Americans and the French. Although it is partially a biography, which livens it up a bit, I found it rather dry.
  • Cristy Jimenez-Shawcroft
    I couldn't put this book down. Entertaining, quick read. I like how the author writes; she is completely honest and very reflective, telling about everything from ménage à trois she planned for her husband's 40th birthday to her bout with cancer to how she became a journalist to figure out what is going on (she had felt clueless about aspects of the world around her previously, in part due to her parents sugar-coating everything when she was gr...
  • Mehrsa
    This was exactly the book I needed right now. Though I don't share all of Druckerman's concerns about aging, she's very likable and insightful. The book is part memoir, part self-help, and part just chatting with a friend. It's a fun and quick read
  • Lindsay Nixon
    It’s possible that I’m the wrong demographic... I loved her book on French parenting, not only because it was insightful, fascinating, and smart, but because it was funny, and captivating. I loved her personal memoir bits mixed into the info but this book is dreadful and p-a-i-n-f-u-l-l-y boring. I’m not in my 40s, so perhaps that’s the problem, though I’ve read and loved novels and memoirs about / by women in their 40/50/60s and connec...
  • Merry Miller moon
    Thank you to Goodreads for the free ARC of this book. The author is giving advice/life lessons on how to deal with life when you reach your forties, which is so appropriate for me, since I am a forty something. In one chapter, she describes how she made her husband's fantasy come true for this birthday-having a threesome, with another woman. Kudos to you, Pamela Druckerman! for not only doing this, but writing about it so bluntly. Pretty amazing ...
  • Janssen
    It wasn’t as good or as fun as Bringing Up Bebe (review here: but still interesting and entertaining with some very insightful parts. It felt somewhat uneven to me, though.
  • Johnette
    I tried to slog through this book but I couldn't. I just couldn't. It seemed like a lot of random thoughts that didn't go anywhere, except for the part about the threesome. That was interesting. I hate to give a bad review because I'm sure there's a piece of the author's heart in every book but this book bored me to tears. I'm still trying to figure out the premise exactly. It's not a how to manual for aging women. I just didn't get it. There are...
  • Christine
    Thank you to Penguin for providing an advance reading copy, won via a GoodReads giveaway. (Thanks also to GoodReads!) Druckerman has a great voice, which makes for an easy read - conversational, though she mixes in facts and quotations. I was predisposed to like this book, as the premise hit a note with me. (I've come to believe no one knows what they're doing.) It was enjoyable, and I particularly liked some parts, but it felt sort of surface-le...
  • Carrie
    Do you like to read about self involved and self obsessed average looking 40year old women ? This is you book. Ugh -why did I waste precious time of my own 40 year old life to read this drivel? Gah! Go for it if you have a long flight and an empty brain. Self centered author who-oh how awful-lives in Paris, with a seemingly selfish husband. Rants annoyingly about her first world 40 year old probs.
  • Chris devine
    So, I'm definitely not the intended audience for this book, but it sounded interesting so I gave it a shot. This book seems to be geared towards rich older women, who have problems with shopping and packed schedules full of lunches with other rich women. I don't know this woman, but I just hate her for some reason. She thinks of herself as an expert in both french and american ways of life, but she doesn't seem to know that the vast majority of p...
  • Donna
    The author realizes she's lost her 'young face' when waiters in Paris start calling her madame rather than mademoiselle.Good thing: I can relate to this book. I'm in my late forties and there were several times while I read this that I thought "Yes, THAT". It was interesting to see this through the lens of how French women differ from the U.S. (the author is living in Paris), ranging from fashion, expectations for aging, and social connections. B...
  • Brenda
    I enjoyed this book, as I did Bringing up Bebe. Pamela has an excellent sense of humor and it shines through in this book. Although I'm probably 15 years older than she, it was still quite interesting to read her thoughts and research.
  • Josh Puetz
    Meh: exceedingly Ave age. Started out strong with some interesting insights into aging, but quickly became a memoir of the author’s extremely niche experiences. Are you a middle aged white woman expat living in Paris? Then this is book for you! If you liked Bringing up Bebe this is a fun follow up, otherwise skip it.
  • Alexa Kozlov
    I won this book at a Goodreads giveaway. I'm in my 20s but I really enjoyed this book. I loved the writing. The humorous portions actually made me laugh out loud. Other portions were really heartfelt. I recommend it. It is an easy and interesting read. I can already think of a few girlfriends who would love to read this next.
  • Marla
    There are funny points in this book and times I could relate. Interesting book about what it's like when you hit your 40s.
  • Jaclyn
    I picked up this book because I read an excerpt published in the New York Times and was totally hooked. I resonate with the idea of looking around and expecting what I call "certifiable adults" to enter a room, only to realize that my peers and I are the adults. Druckerman's book focuses more on being in your 40s, but I, as a 30-something, still found her thoughts and anecdotes relatable. That said, I don't think Pamela and I are meant to be futu...
  • Jennifer
    This had some wonderful snippets of wisdom on facing middle age (which: gulp, I guess I am). I actively skipped the parenting chapters and clutched my pearls a bit during the threesome encounter, although I appreciate the factual recounting (I'm trying to be positive). Regardless, the chapter on fashion, wisdom, and how to say no were particularly insightful. I saved my notes from the wisdom chapter and hopefully the fashion one is another positi...
  • Jen Ifer's Inklings
    Meh. First, this was not what I thought the book was going to be. It’s a nonfiction, memoir type book. I was expecting a contemporary fiction. Second, I felt very disconnected from the book. I’m just starting my 40s and I am already past almost all the stages covered in this book. Now, on my 30s I probably would have related way more. Finally, it just wasn’t all that. It reads quickly, but it’s hard to find reasons to pick the book up. If...
  • Julie
    There were some moments in this book that did make me laugh out loud, as Pamela Druckerman explores what it means to be in your forties, and how it maybe finally makes you a grownup. Living in France, she finds that she is now getting ignored by men and waiters address her as Madame. I know it is mainly tongue in cheek, and after a brush with serious illness she is able to address being older without being too whiny. I did find that I wanted to f...
  • Alexandra
    This is new Bridget Jones' Diary, but for better or worse, this time it's not fiction but a real thing. Don't expect it to be about age or aging, it's about one thing only - the author. You will learn all about her - from childhood to ancestry to all her friends and marriage issues.But if you ever wondered who are those people that write Cosmopolitan, Vogue and Marie Claire articles, now you get the idea. OK, there were some good pieces. The thre...
  • Doris
    I felt like I could be a kindred spirits with Pamela. This book perfectly describes many of my emotions during this middle age time well except for the chapter on threesomes. Having said that I don't think this book is relatable to those in their 20s and 30s, which is why the low good reads ratings. Highly enjoyable quick read.
  • Jennifer
    Not worth getting library fines for. This one felt more memoir than topical point of view. These kind of books should be a quick read and I could just not get into it.
  • Flora
    I'm not sure I'd read this book again but it offered some hours of amusement. Druckerman shares relatable and diverting stories about her life, especially about growing into a middle-aged woman. At certain points, she is effortlessly humourous, when at others, she comes across as trying really hard to be funny. The former suits her and the book very well, the latter was a bit disappointing.Yet, I enjoyed to read her take on aging and (even as som...
  • Reese
    The book started out okay, though incredibly shallow, that earned it one full star. Then it turned into something that seemed like the author had researched dozens of articles and dumped them all into a book and tried to tie them together by claiming they had something to do with age. There's also way too many grammatical errors to ignore. Oh, and if someone is constantly telling you they are not a narcissist, they're a narcissist.
  • Rebecca
    Goodreads First ReadsAs a woman in my early forties it resonated.Interesting observations.
  • Aria
    ---- Disclosure: I received this book for free from Goodreads. ---- This was a fair read. Not too heavy. Didn't take too long. I only found myself drifting off a couple of times. I set it down & came back to it in a couple of hours & all was well again. More than a few accurate insights about being in one's forties. I can't say that I came away actually remembering much of what I'd read. That could either be a pro or a con, depending on what yo...
  • Meredith
    Not at all what I expected. More interesting, more wisdom, more sanity.
  • Andrienne
    Really has plenty of insight for the nearing forty and for the forty plus. I liked her stories about sexuality, owning up faults, and of course the cultural differences that still mention her life living in France. I especially enjoyed the idea of cultivating perception and the stories around it.Access to review copy provided by the publisher.