I Should Have Honor by Khalida Brohi

I Should Have Honor

A fearless memoir about tribal life in Pakistan--and the act of violence that inspired one ambitious young woman to pursue a life of activism and female empowerment"Khalida Brohi understands the true nature of honor. She is fearless in her pursuit of justice and equality."--Malala Yousafzai, winner of the Nobel Peace PrizeFrom a young age, Khalida Brohi was raised to believe in the sanctity of arranged marriage. Her mother was forced to marry a t...


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TitleI Should Have Honor
ISBN9780399588013
Author
Release DateSep 4th, 2018
PublisherRandom House
GenreNonfiction, Autobiography, Memoir, Cultural, Pakistan, Feminism, Biography, Biography Memoir
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Reviews I Should Have Honor

  • Diane S ☔
    2018-11-02
    For those of us like myself, who feel helpless to change things in their lives or their country, or those who think that one person cannot possibly make a difference, this book may change your mind. Khalida Brohi, grew up in rural Pakistan, with a very unusual father who cherished his daughters as much as his sons. Who thought education was very important, a way to move ahead in life, to open oneselves up to a wider world. So while Khalida wss al...
  • Ina Cawl
    2018-09-09
    my your daughter be in house or in graveold Somali proverb" Honor is not murder. And dishonor is not a girl who goes to school. It is not a girl who plays outside. It is not a girl who refuses to marry at a young age. It is not a girl who speaks, laughs, and takes the opportunities that come in front of her. Instead, honor is identity. Honor is dignity. Honor is serving those we love with integrity and hard work; it is respecting one another, wel...
  • Marialyce
    2018-10-03
    4 courageous starsMy reviews can be seen here: https://yayareadslotsofbooks.wordpres... If ever there was a place a culture, a time where women were dominated by the men in their family, that place would probably be in Pakistan. Kahlida, as a young girl wanted the things that all the young strive for. She wanted freedom to chose her life's direction and the man she would marry, to find her own way, to be a person who did not have every hour of ev...
  • Kristy K
    2018-08-22
    3.5 StarsWhat initially drew me to this memoir was the cover: it’s stunningly beautiful and I desperately need a physical copy to grace my shelves once it’s published. But the cover is also deceiving. Because inside its pages is not flowery prose or a whimsical tale; it is a story of strength, of heartbreak, of strong will and meek upbringings and yes, of honor too. Brohi examines her life and those of her parents and others in Pakistan to ex...
  • Fareya
    2018-09-11
    Powerful and heartfelt, I Should Have Honor tells the story of how a young tribal woman from Pakistan stood up against honor killing - a widely accepted tribal tradition in rural Pakistan, and struggled her way to bring justice to thousands. When Brohi's cousin gets murdered at the age of fourteen, in the name of honor, she is repulsed and sickened by the brutality and unjustness of the violence. Determined to fight against this injustice she ta...
  • Jill Dobbe
    2018-06-12
    I Should Have Honor tells the story of how the author fought against honor killings in Pakistan after learning early on what happens to her female friends and cousins who don't follow the centuries-old rules.Brohi gets invited to conferences around the world to speak about the inhumane practices that women have to endure-married off at early ages, beatings by their husbands, and unable to leave their homes without permission. She also attempts to...
  • Lori
    2018-08-23
    2.5 I felt so many things reading this book. Anger, frustration, helplessness (hopelessness), etc. Many of things the author wrote I had already heard (or read) about. I'm not sure if she brought anything new to the table. But I tried to see things from her point of view and the points of view from others she wrote about; however, I was lost. I did not come away from reading this book enlightened. Would have liked the book to read with a better f...
  • Novels And Nonfiction
    2018-08-27
    https://novelsandnonfiction.com/2018/...What I LikedLearning more about the treatment of women in Pakistan. As I mentioned in the intro, I’ve been trying to educate myself about the treatment of women in those Middle Eastern countries where they are discriminated against (and neighboring countries in the region as well). I had already read Malala Yousafzai’s memoir I Am Malala about her near-fatal experience fighting for her right to be educa...
  • Diane Yannick
    2018-10-06
    I probably should have known about honor killings in Pakistan, but I didn’t. I did know that is a patriarchal society that believes in arranged marriages. The men had to figure out a way to punish the women who dared to disobey. This way the honor of your family could be restored. Imagine having the audacity to fall in love with someone of your own choosing. There were also planned marriage exchanges between tribes. Often daughters were promise...
  • Homeschoolmama
    2018-09-20
    I received this book as part of the early reviewers through Librarything, though it doesn't seem to be an actual ARC. It was published on Sept 4th, and this copy does seem like a final copy. I enjoyed reading Khalida's story of her fight for women's rights in Pakistan, in particular, the campaign to draw attention to the horrid practice of honor killing. Khalida is a brave woman with fierce determination and imagination. Her upbringing was unusua...
  • Karen
    2018-09-07
    This is the memoir of a young girl growing up in a tribal area of Pakistan. Khalida's father was sent to school as punishment, but instead found freedom in education. He went against his father and moved his family to Karachi so that his daughters could have an education. Khalida began to question what honor meant for her family when a cousin was murdered in an honor killing. Khalida became an activist to empower women within their tribal communi...
  • Marika
    2018-06-23
    Author Khalida Brohi is on a mission, a dangerous one. She was born in Pakistan to a tribal family who observes tribal customs, but she was blessed to have a father who defied those very customs. She was taught to read, and had a loving father who told her that she should have honor. While SHE had honor, she was appalled by honor killings and it is her life's mission to teach others that the old ways are not the best ways. For readers who were in...
  • Julie Giehl
    2018-11-04
    Brohi writes that those who sit far apart do not understand each other. Her book gives you a seat next to her and it’s a worthwhile read. As an activist fighting to end honor killings in Pakistan, she shares a personal story about how education gives her and her family a chance at a different life. Easy read and well worth the time.
  • Aly Olson
    2018-10-14
    This book reminded me a lot of I Am Malala, which I enjoyed more. The most poignant parts of the book are when Brohi examines how honor killings were rationalized by people in her community, but I wanted more of how different people internalized these experiences and comparisons to how every culture does this with certain behaviors.
  • Bookworm
    2018-10-12
    Don't recall what brought me to this book but I was excited to read this. I'm not familiar with Brohi but I am familiar with some of the topics her book discusses: arranged marriages, honor killings, cross-religious and cross-cultural relations and her mission to educate her people and country. After a couple of tough weeks I was looking forward to reading a book of a woman activist.The book is Brohi's life and work: her background, her family, h...
  • Sherie Lundmark
    2018-09-30
    This book opened my eyes to Pakistani culture. Richly steeped in tradition and honor, A culture also in many families repressive and abusive to women.. It was very refreshing and inspiring to hear the path taken by Khalida, and the support and love from her family that is still at work today trying to improve the lives of Pakistani women.
  • Carol
    2018-10-16
    Inspiring!
  • RaeAnna Rekemeyer
    2018-09-07
    As a little girl, her father wanted her to be a doctor, but she grew up to heal what doctor’s cannot: a healer of souls. A tragedy that began in love lead Khalida Brohi down a road that would help her change her family, change her country, change the world, and bring her love. Read my full review at: https://onthebl.org/2018/09/07/i-shou...
  • Michelle Arredondo
    2018-08-06
    Beautiful cover, I Should Have Honor: A Memoir of Hope and Pride in Pakistan, also great content. The story and life of Khalida Brohi, trials, tribulations, struggles to survive in a world that is not kind to women that don't follow harsh and strict rules that have been set in place for years and years and years. Author Khalida Brohi invites us into her past. Born into a tribal family with strict rules that have spanned generations. Her father......
  • Sherry
    2018-09-17
    I probably have read over 30 memoirs in my life and this is the ONLY one that made me tear in the train and then at home then again at the ending and then again while writing this. As a Pakistani woman following khalida on social media, tedTalk and finally realizing she wrote a memoir made me refresh the ups track website over and over. I read the first half on my long commute to my traditional Pakistani family and her description on how her 9 ye...
  • Laurel
    2018-10-11
    I Should Have HonorI Should Have Honor: A Memoir of Hope and Pride in Pakistan is Khalida Brohi’s book about two kinds of honor, the honor that is dignity, honesty, and justice, the meaning espoused in the Holy Quran, and honor killings, the horrific practice of killing women who have supposedly brought dishonor to their family by glancing at a man, choosing another man over one they are promised to, or any manner of infractions a man of the fa...
  • Nelda Brangwin
    2018-09-30
    Khalida Brohi could have her picture in a definition of courage. Born in a Pakistani family where women were valued, she experienced more freedom than most girls in her society. Yet, as she reached puberty, her options became less and she used her voice to speak out for the women of Pakistan. Using the internet and social media, as a teenager she spoke to the world about women’s rights. When scorned she continued her fight and ended up being in...
  • K.H. Leigh
    2018-09-23
    Powerful and personal. Brohi's strongest accomplishment with this book is the clear distinction she makes between her culture and the barbarism that threatens to destroy it from within. She strongly conveys that, despite our outsiders' perception, the rampant violence against women in Pakistan is not part of the culture itself, but a cancer that infects it. It is a disease, and like any disease it must be identified, treated, cut out, cured. The ...
  • Mackenzie Newcomb
    2018-08-23
    I cannot stress enough how eye opening and important this book is. Khalida is a gift to the world. Though the content of this book can be extremely heavy, it is written in a way that is extremely digestible (despite the disturbing content.) This could easily be read by someone with a middle school reading level (which in my opinion is a good thing for a book that should be widely distributed.) Khalida incorporates humor when appropriate. I laughe...
  • S
    2018-09-02
    I was intrigued by the cover of this book and the title. But once I started reading this memoir it was captivating yet heartbreaking . Being from the same country as the author and knowing how honor killing is part of culture in some parts of the country. Not experiencing anything like this it was truly an eye opening experience and at times sad at how some people in the same country our living with such orthodox mentality where as for us who are...
  • Steve and Tanya Panella
    2018-09-13
    As a read the book is easy, simple, yet descriptive. As as a story it is amazing. What the author has accomplished for herself, her community, and in a ripple effect for the world tremendous. What Brohi has accomplished is inspiring, especially from such humble beginnings and against so many obstacles. Its especially encouraging to read what empathy, selflessness and determination can accomplish and perhaps we can overcome what we are faced now w...
  • Penny
    2018-10-14
    A quick and easy read, a memoir somewhat reminiscent of Malala, of a young Balochi girl, Khalida, encouraged to get educated by her father, and who becomes enmeshed with the whole system of honour killings in Pakistan after her uncle has her cousin killed for falling in love to a man she was not betrothed to. Her youth sometimes leads her to impulsivity, but her intentions are always right, and she is able to encourage many in her community and b...
  • Janilyn Kocher
    2018-08-17
    Brohi offers a look at her life, the daughter of a progressive Pakistani father. Yet, her family is still very traditiional. Her mother was married off at 9 and bore her first child at 13. Her father was educated and emphasized the importance of that to his children. Although a girl, Brohi was sent to school and even learned English. As an adult her crusade was against honor killings, something her extended family had participated in. I Should Ha...
  • Sandra Firrito
    2018-11-06
    I knew very little about her country, culture, customs and people so I underestimated the tremendous amount of courage Khalida must have summoned to even dream of her life’s journey. This book highlights how truly fortunate many of us are when we know who we are and are free to fully express how we feel or take steps to live the life we want and love. In spite of the difficulties she faced and survived, her story not only inspires those who rea...
  • Catherine
    2018-09-30
    I loved this book. It’s inspiring. Khalida Brohi is fiercely independent and optimistic. She takes the devastating tragedy of an honor killing in her family and makes it her life’s mission to end honor killings. I was deeply touched by her loving her relationship with her father and also later with her husband.