I Can't Date Jesus by Michael Arceneaux

I Can't Date Jesus

Featured as one of Summer 2018’s most anticipated reads by the Los Angeles Times, Vogue, Vulture, Entertainment Weekly, ELLE, Buzzfeed, and Bitch Media.In the style of New York Times bestsellers You Can’t Touch My Hair, Bad Feminist, and I’m Judging You, a timely collection of alternately hysterical and soul‑searching essays about what it is like to grow up as a creative, sensitive black man in a world that constantly tries to deride and ...

Details I Can't Date Jesus

TitleI Can't Date Jesus
Release DateJul 24th, 2018
PublisherAtria / 37 INK
GenreNonfiction, Autobiography, Memoir, Writing, Essays, Lgbt, Glbt, Queer

Reviews I Can't Date Jesus

  • Roxane
    There are stories that simply demand to be told and Michael Arceneaux’s is one such story. In I Can’t Date Jesus: Love, Sex, Family, Race, and Other Reasons I’ve Put My Faith in Beyoncé, Arceneaux writes from his life as a black gay man with an uncanny strength of conviction and such fine wit. The essays collected here reveal Arceneaux at his finest, as he grapples with the very things that shape our lives--faith, family, and finding a way...
  • Larry H
    3.5 stars here."It's often said that knowing who you are, or at the very least possessing a sneaking suspicion of such early in life, is a blessing. The people who share this sentiment need to write it on a piece of paper, ball it up, and then proceed to pour barbecue sauce all over it as they eat it. Early self-awareness is a blessing only if who you are comes with a support system and an education. If you don't have those, it's easy to find you...
  • Jennifer
    I Can't Date Jesus: Love, Sex, Family, Race, and Other Reasons I've Put My Faith in Beyoncé is a collection of essays written by Michael Arceneaux. Although Arceneaux is a seasoned writer, this is his first published book and it is filled with life experiences related to family, race, sexuality, religion, politics, culture, LGBTQ community...and yes, even Beyoncé. From childhood to adulthood, it's there. Honest, funny, sensitive, heartbreaking,...
  • Erin
    Contender for fave memoir title of 2018 Although not familiar with the work of Michael Arceneaux, I was intrigued to explore this collection of memoir essays. Even though this book didn't have me rolling on the floor with belly laughs, I enjoyed the feel of the book. As if, Michael Arceneaux, was sitting across from me in a cafe and pouring out his perspectives on the Catholic faith, his struggles with coming out to family and friends, thoughts o...
  • Mara
    4/4.5 stars- The perspective of this memoir is one that I think is much needed and I would love to see more of: what does it look like to reckon with people and institutions that on some level don't want you, even when you have lingering love or affection from them? Michael Arceneaux grapples with these questions very thoughtfully on many levels: as a "recovering Catholic," as a gay child of a religious mother, as an adult child of an alcoholic a...
  • Taryn Pierson
    I love collections like this--personal essays that make you laugh and make you think, sometimes on the same page. And audio is the way to go, no question. Hearing the author's words in their own voice is a special experience.
  • Kayla Brunson
    Thank you Atria Books for providing me with a copy for an honest review.I haven’t read anything by Michael Arceneaux before, but when I heard he was from Houston like me and saw the title I knew I wanted to read it. This was compared toYou Can't Touch My Hair: And Other Things I Still Have to Explain and I loved that book last year.This guy is hilarious as hell and he kept me laughing while reading. The style of the book feels as if we are havi...
  • Bri (girlwithabookblog.com)
    I really thought I was going to go through all of 2018 only reading books written by women, but Michael Arcenaux's debut I Can't Date Jesus sounded too intriguing to ignore. Despite not reading any of Arceneaux's work before, I really enjoyed reading his memoir essays. He's a big shot in the journalism world, particularly known for writing from the gay and black POV, but you don't need to know his previous work to dive into this! Arceneaux brill...
  • Valerie
    “Some parts of my life are sad, but I am not a sad spirit.” So reads a line from the epilogue to I Can’t Date Jesus, a touching, honest, and highly entertaining collection of reflections from Michael Arceneaux, one of my favorite culture writers. I completed this book quite quickly as I was devouring it similarly to the way I often do writings by Arceneaux: with many an internal head nod, several audible chuckles, and constant reminders tha...
  • Kevin
    Michael Arceneaux's inspiring and delightful debut collection of autobiographical essays about growing up black and gay in Texas is alternately hilarious and touching. "This book is about unlearning every damaging thing I've seen and heard about my identity and allowing myself the space to figure out who I am and what that means on my terms," writes Arceneaux. Growing up in a home with a rage-prone father and religious mother, he kept his sexuali...
  • Semora Renee
    This book was very well-written. Michael articulated his points well, and the parts about family, and relationships are universal. He makes me wish I visited Texas. And feeling “seen” is something I believe everyone can relate to. And the idea of identity and wholeness separate from whiteness is a subject that I didn’t even know how to say I wanted to read about it. Overall, very very engaging.
  • Erik
    In Michael Arceneaux's debut book "I Can't Date Jesus," he tackles topics ranging from dating to sex to family, race, and religion. In each instance, his conversations on these topics follow lines of thinking that are relevant to contemporary readers - queer and straight alike - and he, in many cases, make important contributions to queer writing on these topics.However, in almost every essay in this collection, Arceneaux's own writing style gets...
  • Sahitya
    Though I’ve never read any of the author’s previous work, I still wanted to try reading this and it was a very entertaining read. Michael’s style is very conversational, like he is just talking to us about all his feelings. His issues about his father’s abuse, his very religious mother, his paranoia about intimacy - all heavy topics are written in a very humorous way. I was obviously expecting a little more political commentary since Mich...
  • Tamara
    Puttin' It Dine For The 713Never would I thought I'd see a reference to Big Moe's "Barre Baby" in a major book publication and I almost shed a tear when I read it. As a proud Houstonian, all the references to this beloved city warmed my heart. Also, as a Beyoncé fan since I first saw Destiny's Child on the cover of the Houston Chronicle's Zest magazine back in 1998, I completely understand the devotion to her.These essays made me laugh, cry, smi...
  • Kari
    Probably a 3.5 for me. I thought it settled in to his voice after the first two chapters and I realized I’d never read anything from his perspective - gay black man from Texas raised as a Catholic. There’s a lot of talk about dating and while that was interesting I think I enjoyed many of the other parts more. Overall, funny and hopeful.
  • Al
    Excellent, timely read. This is the first time I've read Arceneaux and I was delighted by his depth, honesty and humor. He gave insight into a world I knew nothing about and offered further insight into worlds to which I new very little, all the while seeming to be very true to himself. This is a highly worthwhile read for anyone looking to pull their heads out of the sand.
  • Lisa Elizabeth
    This is a funny, honest and poignant memoir which I thoroughly enjoyed reading. The author’s perspective is one I’m not familiar with, so I found this book incredibly informative and eye-opening.
  • Alison
    Loved this book! So poignant and funny. I wanted my friend to read half a page (about Beytheists) and she didn’t want to give it back. It is definitely worth your time.
  • Crystal
    2.5 stars
  • Crystal
    Honest, insightful, and absolutely hilarious
  • amanda eve
    I don't think I've read Arceneaux's work before and now I never want to stop.
  • Christi
    Everything I love in a memoir: humor, a unique voice, relatable moments, and no neat endings. Also, mad 90s R&B references.
  • Tina Miller
    Enjoyable and a perspective less available than the feminine ... at least to me.
  • Ngiste
    Hilarious turns of phrase bring relief to the hard, tense stories of being black, broke, and gay. I found some chapters less cohesive than others. I’m glad to have found the book and now read and seek out Arceneaux’s other work.
  • Jessica