Dear Friend, from My Life I Write to You in Your Life by Yiyun Li

Dear Friend, from My Life I Write to You in Your Life

In her first memoir, award-winning novelist Yiyun Li offers a journey of recovery through literature: a letter from a writer to like-minded readers.“A meditation on the fact that literature itself lives and gives life.”—Marilynne Robinson, author of Gilead“What a long way it is from one life to another, yet why write if not for that distance?”Startlingly original and shining with quiet wisdom, this is a luminous account of a life lived ...


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TitleDear Friend, from My Life I Write to You in Your Life
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Release DateFeb 21st, 2017
PublisherRandom House
LanguageEnglish
GenreAutobiography, Memoir, Nonfiction, Writing, Essays, Philosophy, Language, Abandoned, Cultural, China
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Reviews Dear Friend, from My Life I Write to You in Your Life

  • Kusaimamekirai
    2017-06-13
    This memoir by Yiyun Li of her struggle with depression made me extremely uncomfortable. Not simply the despair and confusion that is so evident in the writing as well as in the format itself (there is no formal structure per se but rather a loose collection of experiences, recollections of books and writers important to her, and random thoughts) but rather I couldn't escape from the feeling that I was reading something I shouldn't be. If a trou...
  • El
    2018-02-18
    In 2012, Chinese-American author Yiyun Li was hospitalized for depression and suicidal ideations. Out of this breakdown, after enough time had passed, Li was able to write about and share her experiences through this collection of essays. Not all of the essays are explicitly about her depression, but there are often glimmerings of a long history of mental illness throughout her life which she retells with what feels like a lot of emotional distan...
  • Michelle
    2017-04-02
    This is actually not a memoir, but rather an overall exploration of literature and criticism: “Dear Friend, from My Life I Write You In Your Life” is the first book of non-fiction by Chinese American writer and award winning novelist Yiyun Li. Throughout the book Li injected brief details from her life, writing career, showing the lingering effects and impact of her mental illness. Li resides in Oakland, California with her husband and sons. ...
  • Craig
    2018-02-23
    I chose Dear Friend... to read something different than I usually would. Having now finished it, I find it difficult to form a coherent opinion because it was a difficult read, in that I never felt like I understood the perspective of the author. It is a book of essays by a Chinese author who writes only in English, has twice attempted suicide, and exhibits a preference for reading the letters of other writers. This made it hard work to get throu...
  • Lee Monks
    2017-09-15
    Not what I was expecting at all. I thought it'd be a gently discursive series of themed essays, a delightfully readable act of philanthropy/altruism, a stocking filler full of Buddhist koans etc. It is instead a very bleak and insightful memoir full of harrowing truths, quotable misery and hard-won wisdom. It's blackly funny, and very sad. And she visits William Trevor, always good.
  • Ann Girdharry
    2017-01-04
    This memoir is a string of thoughts, unanswerable questions, philosophical explorations and personal pain. The author tells us of her own misunderstandings and attempts to understand life. It's written in an eloquent, flowing way- nothing jars and this makes it easy to read, even though the material is so dense.There is no spiritual thread, rather, the author draws on the works of those authors she has most loved. Some of these authors she knew p...
  • Elena
    2017-01-10
    The same quality of Yiyun's fictional prose tiptoeing through my brain, then settling in for thoughts long after, lives in her nonfiction writing. This is a beautiful collection of essays exploring her bouts of depression and suicidal thoughts. Part memoir, part lit crit, all wonderful writing. This book will definitely find itself among my stack of books to be revisited annually.
  • Nada
    2017-03-16
    To understand Dear Friend, from My Life I Write to You in Your Life by Yiyun Li, you have to understand the context in which it came to be written. I struggle with how to rate this book. On the one hand, I have enormous respect for the author's struggle with mental health. On the other hand, the book reads as a therapeutic outlet for the author rather than a memoir to be shared with others. I bear witness to the struggle, wish her well, and move ...
  • Jane
    2017-04-30
    This rating system doesn't allow me to say what I mean about "Dear Friend." There were sections that blew me away. I love the way Yi describes her relationships with books and authors. Some of these, like William Trevor, are alive and become actual friends, friends that Yi meets and corresponds with. Others, like Katherine Mansfield are friends she knows only through their writing. Mansfield's phrase is actually borrowed for the title of this boo...
  • Donna Davis
    2017-01-06
    It’s an honor to be invited to review any book by Random House and Net Galley, and so when the email came, I accepted without hesitation; I thank them for thinking of me and wish I could honestly recommend this one. Others have referred to this memoir, whose title is taken from a quote by Katharine Mansfield, as “exquisite, intimate, and lyrical”, and the author has won awards for her novels. I looked carefully to see if I could locate the ...
  • Kelsey Kim
    2017-04-03
    Sporadic, changing, fluid, this memoir reflects the thoughts of Yiyun Li over two years, during which she battles suicidal depression. While she does discuss her thoughts on suicide, as well as her opinions on personal matters such as feelings and attachments, she also reveals her intrinsic connection to the literary realm, both through authors and their characters, and her desire to write her own stories. Li’s memoir is the most eye-opening li...
  • Dan Friedman
    2018-04-07
    “In an ideal world I would prefer to have my mind reserved for thinking, and thinking alone. I dread the moment when a thought trails off and a feeling starts. . .”Yiyun Li’s Dear Friend, From My Life I write to You in Your Life—a collection of reflections and reminiscences written over a two year period of apparently deep despair and hospitalizations—shocks in its revelatory honesty and self-awareness. Her honesty is all the more shock...
  • Sorayya Khan
    2017-03-08
    I'm struck by how private, almost intimate, Yiyun Li's conversation with the books that have made her seems. Li's relationship to the books feels so intimate perhaps because of details that are missing, about love, depression or suicide attempts. Even so, the details of sorrow exist in single, blistering moments, like a meal never cooked. Yiyun Li brings the exactness of the scientist she once was to telling the story of her life through the book...
  • Richard
    2018-03-28
    This is one of those books mentioned (3 times, I think) in the TLS at the end of the [last] year. I have mined this feature for reading suggestions for years and have never been disappointed.This particular work is simply beautifully written as Ms. Li draws the reader into her own reading and literary associations, describing her emigration from China and her mother to the United States and her shift from studying science/medicine to writing. A s...
  • Ross McMeekin
    2017-07-14
    A couple months ago I asked for a recommendation from a local bookseller I trust and he handed me Yiyun Li’s “Dear Friend…” I’ve since thanked him. The dense, aphorism-filled pages of Yiyun Li’s essay collection demand a slow read. It’s a rich book of meditations on writing, family, friendship, and mental illness. I’d call it quiet were its subject matter not so fraught with violence and clear-eyed (sometimes near ruthless) self-e...
  • Kirsty
    2016-11-18
    Dear Friend... is filled with some quite profound meditations upon life and worth; it is a thoughtful, sometimes philosophical work, with some excellent quotes and questions about language, life, and literature. Li's writing is intelligent and fluid, and the memories and ideas presented here cleverly link into one another, and thus provide a rich narrative.Dear Friend... was my first taste of Li's work, and based upon its strength, I will be seek...
  • Farhana
    2017-03-30
    Lucid . Exquisite . Intimate . Lyrical !This book was in my wish list the moment I saw the name. It reminds me of the essence of Steven Wilson's HAND.CANNOT.ERASE I have been waiting if I would get to read another book like 'A School for Fools' & this book stirs me up the same way. I think I can connect to writer, both of us particularly inclined to read autobiographies, memoirs, letters of real people -the neediness—to find one’s uncertain s...
  • Michael
    2017-03-01
    Received Copy Through Goodreads GiveawayI found this book to be deeply resonating. While their meandering style will not be for everyone, these essays clearly required immense personal courage, a lyrically honest writing style, and a brilliant mind. Yiyun Li addresses topics like depression, suicide, language, culture, and others with the complexity and doubt they deserve. Her intertwining of many other major literary figures makes her ideas more...
  • Nicole Dieker
    2017-04-15
    I felt like I understood myself more clearly after reading this book, which is interesting since much of the book is about the author understanding herself through reading other writers' books (especially their journals and letters, which this book is designed to resemble). But seriously: this is an extraordinary look at why we read, why we write, why we form and maintain relationships, why we crave privacy, and—above all—why we live.
  • Patricia
    2017-09-24
    True to the essence of essay in that Li is wandering, trying out different perspectives and paths. Because her take was often unexpected, the book was sometimes thought-provoking and sometimes baffling.
  • Michael Livingston
    2017-08-11
    I really struggled with this - Li tries hard to keep a lot of herself out of these vaguely autobiographical essays (dealing partly with her depression) and in the end I felt so distanced that it was hard to engage.
  • celina
    2018-05-18
    "Practitioners of that vanishing act develop the belief—illusion, really—that one can exist unobserved." reading this was so chilling because it's the first time i've read something that so eerily comes close to how i think i feel.
  • Ying
    2018-03-22
    inexplicably intimate & infectious. thank you mom (though she would probably hate to read this)
  • Anna Baillie-Karas
    2018-08-01
    Memoir written while depressed. Li is highly sensitive and fragile & struggles to be in the world; she shies away from connecting with people so as not to hurt them. (‘I am not the only casualty in this war against myself’). She meditates on life, death and melodrama, enriched by the authors she’s reading (Zweig, Woolf among others). The tone is melancholy; I appreciated her honesty & insights more than enjoying it.
  • Heather Scott Partington
    2017-02-14
    Yiyun Li has previously published two novels and two short story collections, winning multiple awards for her fiction, including the MacArthur Fellowship. Now, in Dear Friend, From My Life I Write to You in Your Life, Li describes her journey from China to the United States through literary touchstones. Li has always been a reader, content to be alone in the company of books. Dear Friend is a vulnerable account of how literary study can inform a ...
  • Eric Anderson
    2017-05-03
    What compels us to read so much? What relationship is formed between the author and reader in the process? How does our understanding of a book change over the course of our lives? I think there are moments in every committed reader's life when they find themselves reflecting upon these and similar questions – caught as we are in the strange alchemy of this intensely private and oftentimes lonely activity which connects us to the rest of humani...
  • Sharon Bakar
    2018-06-18
    I mark this as "read" even though it's more that I tried very hard to read it and jumped in at many different points and found it so slippery that my mind couldn't get a grasp what she was trying to say. The essays meander - and just when you think you are with her, she seems to switch direction. (Maybe its me and I'll come back to this at a later date.) I love her writing in her short stories - some of the best anyone has written. And I'm so sor...
  • Gail Nyoka
    2018-03-28
    Yinyun Li is clearly a gifted writer. So why didn’t I connect with what she has written in this collection of recollections and musings? A major factor is that the author distances herself, hiding behind words – her own and those of the writers she quotes. She speaks of the “intrinsic distance” in her relationship with the English language that allows her to put aside feeling in favor of intellect. This book may give a small window of und...