Rage Becomes Her by Soraya Chemaly

Rage Becomes Her

A transformative book urging twenty-first century-women to embrace their anger and harness it as a tool for lasting personal and societal change.Women are angry, and it isn’t hard to figure out why.We are underpaid and overworked. Too sensitive, or not sensitive enough. Too dowdy or too made-up. Too big or too thin. Sluts or prudes. We are harassed, told we are asking for it, and asked if it would kill us to smile. Yes, yes it would.Contrary to...

Details Rage Becomes Her

TitleRage Becomes Her
Release DateSep 11th, 2018
PublisherAtria Books
GenreNonfiction, Feminism, Writing, Essays, Womens

Reviews Rage Becomes Her

  • Jennifer
    In Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger, author Soraya Chemaly explores and confronts the gendering of emotions, in this case the gender ideas of anger. Social norms teach us that anger expressed by females is undesirable, uncomfortable, and certainly not feminine, unlike with males where it is accepted because of its normalized tie to masculinity. She discusses how this suppression of anger harms women physically, emotionally, profession...
  • Bethany
    One of the most powerful books I've read this year, Rage Becomes Her gives voice to the causes, expressions, and possibilities of female rage. I will do a full video review on my YouTube channel Beautifully Bookish Bethany, but I cannot recommend this book enough. It says the things that have long needed saying. It also strikes the perfect note between anecdotes and hard research, making it very readable. This will make you reconsider everything.
  • Krystle
    Can you read about a book about rage without becoming angry? I certainly could not. Chemaly brings up many relatable experiences and topics: the role of women as selfless caretakers, fear of being publically harassed and shamed, women in politics, benevolent sexism, the #MeToo movement, Hollywood, and general injustices against women.Clearly, the main topic revolves around anger. Women are taught to suppress their anger because to express it woul...
  • Michaela
    ---- Disclosure: I received this book for free from Goodreads. ---- After thinking on it & reading the other reviews I honestly don't think I have anything else to add. It's a great book long overdue in existing. I try to stay well-versed in most of the kinds of information that was discussed in here, but even so I still learned new things, & spent some time mulling over the content. Having not been previously unfamiliar with this subject matter...
  • Mehrsa
    I am glad I read this book, but I didn't love it. It's not really a contemplation of anger that provides new insight or analysis. It's sort of a hodgepodge of feminist critique--all of the micro and macro ways in which women are harassed, discriminated against, and devalued. If you're a woman who has been paying attention to these trends, you likely know all of this stuff. Still, it's a thorough and sad catalogue of sexism. There wasn't much to l...
  • Trista Hendren
    I have been following Soraya's writing for many years, so I expected this book to be amazing—but it surpassed my wildest expectations. Rage Becomes Her will make you cry—and make you angry—but it will also leave you hopeful and filled with the energy necessary to create change. Astoundingly Good!
  • Terena Bell
    This book doesn't know what it wants to be. In the ARC, it's marketed, titled, and introed as an exploration into women's anger -- how the emotion manifests differently in women than in men, how women handle (suppress?) it, the effect it has on women's bodies. And in the beginning, it is, and this part of the book is fantastic. But then the narrative shifts with each new chapter an exploration into something unrelatedly different: a tirade about ...
  • Roxanne
    This is a Goodreads win review. This is not my favorite topic. I in general do not like rage and anger. However if a woman can grow and express these feelings correctly and move forward in a good way than I can see the point. But I have seen some people who stay angry forever about one thing or another and they seem to be miserable.
  • Kelly
    Anger is a Gift(Full disclosure: I received a free e-ARC for review through NetGalley. Trigger warning for discussions of sexism and misogyny, including sexual assault.)Ask yourself, why would a society deny girls and women, from cradle to grave, the right to feel, express, and leverage anger and be respected when we do? Anger has a bad rap, but it is actually one of the most hopeful and forward thinking of all of our emotions. It begets transfor...
  • Amanda (Books, Life and Everything Nice)
    I won this book for free from Goodreads Giveaways. Thank you to Goodreads, Atria Books, and Soraya Chemaly. As always, an honest review from me. Rage Becomes Her might be my book of the year. It's incredibly powerful, poignant and validating for women. I want to share the book with every single woman I know. Actually I need every single person on the planet to read it. No arguments, just reading and learning. With that being said, here are all th...
  • Tasha Hilton
    Often times we argue this topic with emotion and "rage" but Soraya provides not only insight about how to channel rage into power, but research that solidifies our feelings. Rage Becomes Her asks "What do we lose, personally and as a society, by not listening to women’s anger or respecting it?" - As we all encounter female influence at some point in our lives, this book will be important for you!
  • Cavak
    Compared to That's What She Said: What Men Need to Know (and Women Need to Tell Them) about Working Together that I read earlier this year, Rage Becomes Her was a harder read for me to swallow. Both books highlight how sexist treatment still prevails in the USA and overlaps with other prejudices. I even stumbled on the same exact sources cited between them, but Chemaly will always note whenever there is a severe lack of medical and psychologica...
  • teavious
    Your anger is a gift you give to yourself and the world that is yours. In anger, I have lived more fully, freely, intensely, sensitively, and politically. If ever there was a time not to silence yourself, to channel your anger into healthy places and choices, this is it.This was a beautiful, much needed insight into women's anger. The author asks: can you read a book about anger without becoming angry yourself? The answer is still no, especially ...
  • Toni
    I thought this book was going to talk about the science and psychology behind a woman’s anger. The author did a great job of that... in the beginning. I felt like the rest of the book was the author listing reason after reason what women today should be offended and angry about. But if you follow current affairs, then she really doesn’t tell you anything new. I feel like if you’re someone who likes to be loud and shake things up about femin...
  • Corinne Donnelly
    Disclaimer: I received an Advanced Reader Copy of this book from Goodreads Giveaways in exchange for an honest review.9/26/18 - I'll write a more thorough review later, but my first thought is...wow. I won't lie, I started this book with trepidation. When I get angry, I cry. I actively avoid any and all confrontation. I've even been known to walk out of a room when an argument erupts, even if I'm not personally contributing to it. You get the pic...
  • Alyssa Foll
    I am enraged. There's nothing like growing more and more angry while reading a book on anger. And there is plenty of anger to around. Soraya Chemaly, in "Rage Becomes Her," convinced me to plunk down cold, hard cash after reading the first few pages. The first chapter sets the rest of the book in motion; Chemaly makes it clear that this is a book about women's anger -- why it exists and how women are taught to express it (or not express it). Chem...
  • Raven Ross
    Rage becomes me now...
  • Hanna
    Thorough, intersectional, illuminating, and fascinating are just a few of the words I'd use to describe this book. I learned so much and feel inspired to stay angry and take action. Anger doesn't have to be the negative emotion we're taught it is. Anger is the emotion that recognizes injustices and leads to systemic changes. The only criticism is that at times it felt a bit academic and textbook-y, which sometimes made it not easily accessible. E...
  • Cristine Mermaid
    This book was incredibly enlightening and empowering. I have been struggling with rage and trying to get rid of it unsuccessfully or to hold it in which only made it come out in destructive ways. This book was liberating in that it was not about 'managing' or 'diffusing' anger but about using it as force for good, channeling the energy and passion that comes with it to propel change. As this books says, anger is there for a reason, it is trying t...
  • Donna Hines
    "What I wish I had taught my daughter in that moment was that she had every right to be angry."This book was so good I was hard pressed to put it down.Right from the start the discussion centered upon varying degrees of injustices against women, how anger should be maintained and or controlled, how women from all walks of life were not truly free to simply be themselves.The notion that the women are only care takers, they should be silenced, they...
  • Steph
    I am human, and, at times, I get angry. I've been told so many times, in so many ways, in so many contexts, by both men and women that I "shouldn't" be angry. And every time my anger was policed, it rankled because I find that my anger makes me more productive and gives me agency, while when I try to suppress it or otherwise deny it, I get despondent. But I still questioned my experience with anger because I kept getting the message that it was a...
  • Les
    A well-researched book that focuses not only on how justifiably angry women are, but one that spends the majority of its time deeply discussing the variety of topics that women are angry about. I frequently felt that there were too many examples of each topic, that I understood the point trying to be made in each section after a few examples, so this was irritating until I realized that there are so many examples of the points trying to be illust...
  • Shay
    Thank you to the publisher for providing an advance review copy of this title at ALA Annual 2018 As you might expect, reading Rages Becomes Her was an enraging experience. Statistics like “56 percent of American men think sexism has been eradicated from American life” or “a woman killed by a man she knows has, on average, been strangled seven times prior to her murder” are bound to boil the blood. Chemaly also assures that reader that wri...
  • Rachel
    **I received this book in a free Goodreads giveaway** On the heels of all the raging hot-takes on the Women's US Open Final this weekend, this book should be required reading. Rage Becomes Her is methodically deep and not only explores the expression of women's rage but also the root causes (spoiler alert: there's a lot!!!!). Chemaly explores how issues like harrassment, income inequality, shame, structural power imbalance, and gender norms, pair...
  • Sarah Granger
    Gender dynamics are a complex cultural phenomenon, and this book does an excellent job of encapsulating the why and how of anger and how both women and men are taught to interpret and express it. Not only that, but “Rage Becomes Her” explores many other aspects of our lives that are directly and indirectly affected by our relationship with anger. It’s well-written, well-researched, and well organized.I started the book expecting it to be mo...
  • Kate
    Simply: she's telling me things I already know. I don't need help discovering or validating my rage. I'm stopping after the second chapter and I don't know if I'll come back to it. I realize there are women who need this kind of information, but that's just not me: I'm pretty clear on both the vastness of the oppression we encounter and the righteousness of women's anger in the face of it. I was hoping for more interesting discussions of what we ...
  • Denise Cormaney
    I don't know what to say here. I related to everything she had to say on such a visceral level. This book just happened to come off of my hold list at the library during the Kavanaugh hearings, so I was already feeling intense rage about what it's like to be a woman living in this white male patriarchy; reading it articulated, with stats and details and footnotes, why I am right to be so angry. The entire Kavanaugh hearings feel like we are takin...
  • Linda
    At times difficult to read, the author discusses how there is pressure on girls to be nice, amenable, and not make waves. She discusses not only sexual assault and domestic violence, but also objectification; one boy in a group of students asks her why sending a picture of nude girls is any different than sending a picture of a toaster. Studies have shown that women who complain of pain are often dismissed as emotional, and given sedatives instea...
  • Magdalena
    I wanted to like this book. I need a book that delivers on the subtitle, "the power of women's anger." This book was an exhaustive and depressing litany of all the excellent reasons women have to be pissed off. Enraging to read! And I suppose it's useful to have such validation if you're a young woman, or an uninformed woman, or one who's never been to therapy. One chapter at the end detailed how to transform rage into power. I would have preferr...
  • Brie
    I won this book in a Goodreads First Reads contest.This was not new information to me. It just expanded on thoughts I had and excited me that I was not the only one having them. Definitely presented in a readable, good, way. I will be recommending this book to many women I know when it is released in Sept.