The Person You Mean to Be by Dolly Chugh

The Person You Mean to Be

Foreword by Laszlo Bock, the bestselling author of Work Rules! and former Senior Vice President of People Operations at Google An inspiring guide from Dolly Chugh, an award-winning social psychologist at the New York University Stern School of Business, on how to confront difficult issues including sexism, racism, inequality, and injustice so that you can make the world (and yourself) better.Many of us believe in equality, diversity, and inclusi...

Details The Person You Mean to Be

TitleThe Person You Mean to Be
Release DateSep 4th, 2018
GenreSelf Help, Nonfiction, Personal Development

Reviews The Person You Mean to Be

  • Dolly
    Well, I am not really unbiased ;-)
  • Jerome Kern
    Although peppered with engaging personal anecdotal stories, “The Person You Mean To Be,” by Dr. Dolly Chugh is, at its core, an evidence-based recipe book for getting over the psychological inertia that keeps you at rest, helping you move from “thinking about how to be a better person” to actually “becoming a better person.”I like to think of myself as a good person. We all do, right? Recently, though, it has become harder for me to s...
  • Robin Schachter
    POW! This book hit me between the eyes, in the heart and in the gut. Dr. Chugh combines wit and wisdom to help all of us notice - and start to SEE - the myriad inequalities, oppression and imbalances people in our world experience. And then, with stories, hints, suggestions and questions, all grounded in her up-to-the-minute research, she teaches us how to LEARN and start to ACT in ways that can make a difference. This book's clear writing style ...
  • Lorri Perkins
    That feeling. When a bunch of fragmented, private thoughts and uncomfortable conversations come together and suddenly begin to make sense… that is this book. Dolly Chugh did an amazing job of combining stories, research data and her insight to help me see things in a different light. This book is not a lecture. This book is an accomplished thinker and builder extending her hand to help us all. If you’ve ever thought that our societal, systemi...
  • Jeff Wilser
    This should be required reading for anyone between the ages of 13 and 90. That’s not a joke. Every day, it seems like there’s an even more depressing story in the news. Racism. Sexism. Religious intolerance. Real people are being hurt. These are tough, uncomfortable topics, and as a straight white guy who wants to do the right thing, I’m never really sure what, exactly, I should be saying or doing. Dolly Chugh’s fascinating, smart, though...
  • Charnjit Singh
    With all of the chaos in the world around us, especially with respect to issues of bias in race, gender and sexual orientation, Dolly Chugh elegantly sheds light on how we can and should get involved and be the people we mean to be. It is rich with references to social science research and easily engaging anecdotes teaching us how we can be "doers" and not just believers. The book will challenge, teach and inspire us to embrace a growth mindset t...
  • Kristin Lane
    Professor Chugh writes early on that throughout the book “science will guide us and stories will bring the science to life.” She delivers 100% on that promise, illustrating the best of the empirical literature with narratives of how it unfolds every day. That she manages to do so, and distills the work to practical suggestions appropriate for each reader, wherever they may be in their journey, with an engaging voice, humility, and humor, make...
  • Nuno Silva
    Livro que explora como o nosso cérebro comporta face aos esteriótipos da sociedade como lgbt, minorities, men vs women. Faz-nos ver que, pelo facto de por vezes termos esses pensamentos, não nos faz más pessoas. No entanto alerta-nos para estes comportamentos comuns na nossa sociedade com várias histórias e artigos. Achei-o um pouco denso com muita psicologia à mistura.
  • Poonam Kapoor
    This phenomenal book is a must-read for everyone. It helps you understand yourself better, and provides you with a road map to become a good-ish person with a growth mindset.
  • Jyoti Sapra
    I really enjoyed the book . Will highly recommend everyone to read .
  • Wesley Lynah
    One of best books I have read in 2018. Addresses privilege, systems, inclusion and personally challenged the way I see myself and how I affect others. The good news Is if I can have a growth mindset- I can better listen and learn. I love all the great sources Dolly pulls from - and makes the words in her book real.
  • Kris Patrick
    I’m sorry, friends. I won’t be lending this one. It stays on my desk.
  • Spela
    Wow! For anyone who cares about diversity and inclusion, this is a must read! The book is really engaging and pushes us to move beyond thoughts to actions. Important for me, Dolly Chugh gives very specific and doable suggestions at times when I struggled to come up with some on my own, suggestions on how to keep becoming a better person, one that not only has good intentions but does good deeds. I cringed and I smiled and I hugged the author in m...
  • Christine
    In a time where bias, privilege, marches and riots have become part of our day to day lives, Dr. Dolly Chugh has come along with a “how to” book to navigate this very complicated world in which we live. I have thought of myself as empathetic to those who fall into minority groups. However, in my reading of "The Person You Mean To Be," in which Chugh illustrates, through a series of interviews and vignettes, how bias and privilege affect even ...
  • Jamie
    The Person You Mean to Be is an extraordinary book that helped me answer questions I’ve been grappling with for a long time. I am a true believer in equity, diversity and inclusion but have often found myself paralyzed by fear, discomfort and/or the sheer enormity of the problems facing the world. As hard as it is to admit, I have let too many opportunities slip by having done nothing to be a part of the solution. The Person You Mean to Be help...
  • Rick
    "I had hoped that [good people] would understand that law and order exist for the purpose of establishing justice and that when they fail in this purpose they become the dangerously structured dams that block the flow of social progress."*Martin Luther King wrote those words in his Letter From a Birmingham Jail in 1963. More than 50 years later, many of those same dams still exist - and even though many of us think of ourselves as good people, if...
  • Richa
    In this book, Dr. Dolly Chugh reveals the how all of us "good people" view others through our own unconscious biases, which causes our well-meaning actions to not be as beneficial as we had intended. There is so much to be learned from this book, and the lessons she provides expertly combine evidence-based research with real-world examples from people she has interviewed, and from her own life. The result is an engaging, fascinating, and eye-open...
  • Vivek Upadhyay
    I wear many hats: oncologist, husband, son, and householder. These hats, combined with my passion for continuous learning, reading, and politics, fill my life with questions. How do I help educate others on the latest news in politics from the books I've read? How do I have difficult conversations with my patients and their families? How do I live my life without letting my own biases affect my decision making? Insights from this book helped me t...
  • Eliza Armstrong
    This is an amazing and important book, and I could not recommend it more. The mix of stories and science and action-steps makes it incredibly compelling. Dolly Chugh helps us understand why there is a space between the people we are and the people we mean to be, and she gives actionable steps we can take to close that gap. Her willingness to be humble and honest about her own life made it easier for me to see myself in both the stories and the sc...
  • Allie
    This culmination of research and interviews is an approachable, evidence-based work that does a good job of coaxing the reader into awareness without judgement or reprimand. The aspirational undertones of fighting bias and making the world better for marginalized people is substantiated with tangible action items and relatable examples from different walks of life. Understanding that there is a gap between who "good people" are and who "good peop...
  • Simi Bakshi
    As a female healthcare executive, mom, and community advocate, I am confronted with many issues related to diversity and inclusion daily. This evidence-based book gave me many tools to manage these situations with a growth mindset. The author masterfully writes about her stories, experiences, and research in a compelling fashion. I will be recommending this book to my colleagues, friends, and family! Excellent read and also an amazing resource.
  • Jeana Marinelli
    Dolly’s book invites you into a deeply personal conversation with yourself and with her. Her brilliant writing welcomes you to grow and grapple alongside of her. She sees the best in her readers while equipping them with actionable strategies to get better. Regardless of how much you have read or learned about diversity, equity and inclusion- this book will meet you where you are and give you data, evidence and tools to keep growing.
  • Ramya Pratiwadi
    I've read many books and articles about overcoming bias. Dolly's book is by far the most compelling, informative, and well-written book! What makes this book so great is that it weaves together personal stories, research, and great narrative to keep the reader engaged and interested in fighting bias. A must read for all!
  • Debbie Esslinger
    This is exactly the sort of book that will help me as I continue to find ways to engage my community and become a better ally and agitator in different parts of my life. The author offers guidance not only for how-- but also when and whom-- to engage others. We can all put this psychology to use as we strive to be "good-ish" and the people we mean to be.
  • Elisabeth Brodbeck
    In addition to the evidence-based insights and action-items, this book has a very approachable voice that engages its readers in a non-threatening way. I'm looking forward to discussing it as more people dive into the material!
  • Lisa Carnoy
    Remarkable book. It was provocative, pragmatic and inspiring. Real life stories of real people who aim to be inclusive - and the science behind our behavior. You will not be able to put this book down. And you will want to read it again.
  • Raj Dhamija
    What a fantastic and truly eye opener book, "The Person You Mean to Be" by Dolly Chugh?I salute Dolly for her hard work, scientific, analytical, and extensive research. She has hit on the nail with her own and others' personal experiences and explains step by step how to tackle the hidden bias, inequality and injustice by her gentle and truthful manner to bring change in humanity.I highly recommend Dolly's book to each and everyone regardless of ...
  • Laura
    A very accessible book with concrete suggestions on how to get closer to being the person you want to be. It's such a timely book in our divided world. And it brings research to bear on the question of "what can I do?" Of course, I'm a little biased because I'm already a huge fan of Dolly's.
  • Sudeshch
    Engaging, evidence based, must read book for everyone. I have no of take home messages :Believers to builders20/60/20 rule.Embrace being “good...ish” but continue to strive to be a better personDiversity and inclusion are not the same thing. Listening is one practice that is critical to inclusionMust read
  • Rena Seltzer
    In this timely book, Dolly Chugh masterfully weaves her own experiences and those of others together with social science research to help us understand and overcome our blind spots to become the kind of allies we want to be. Chugh explains that we need psychological safety in order to change and learn, and she creates that safety for her readers by sharing her own mistakes and those of other well-intentioned allies, and gently encouraging us to a...