The Four Agreements by Miguel Ruiz

The Four Agreements

In The Four Agreements, don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, the Four Agreements offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love. The Four Agreements are: Be Impeccable With Your Word, Don't Take Anything Personally, Don't Make Assumptions, Always Do Your Best.

Details The Four Agreements

TitleThe Four Agreements
Release DateSep 14th, 2001
PublisherAmber-Allen Publishing
Number of pages168 pages
GenreNonfiction, Spirituality, Self Help, Philosophy, Inspirational, Personal Development, Psychology, Religion, Business, Adult

Reviews The Four Agreements

  • Jim Mitchell
    I am reading this book, and even though it is a small book, when I finish page 129, I start over again on page 1. I have been reading it for about fourteen years now, and I suspect I will continue reading it for as long as I can read. A few pages at a time is more than enough to give me something to kick around in my head for a few days or a week. This is a book that challenges one to live up to four simple truths, and offers transformational res...
  • Mikaela
    I'd like to propose this book as required reading for the course, Life. Make four simple agreements with yourself and living becomes so much easier, so much lighter:1. Be impeccable with your wordSpeak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.2. Don’t take anything personallyNothing others do is because of you. ...
  • Jessica
    I was surprised. I thought I would really like this book. A friend of mine told me the basic ideas were to be impeccable with your word, don't take things personally, don't make assumptions,and always do your best. To me, these sounded great: be honest, be forgiving, give others a chance to say what they think and try your best...or so I thought!The ideas were actually more along the lines of: don't send out poisonous words that put spells on peo...
  • Suz
    This is my second time reading this book and I picked it up again because I felt I was compromising too much in my life and it was affecting my core. I have a chapter to go but here's the summary:The book cites four agreements that, with practice, will lead you to a happier state of living, essentially and dramatically, lead you out of your living hell. The idea is focused 100% on you. You can only control yourself and only honor yourself.1. Be i...
  • Chris
    I never thought I would fall for a book by someone who would allow this picture of himself to adorn the back cover:I can't explain it. I'm not one to be floored by silly, little self-help books full of spirituality and cliches and horrible stories and simple advice. But I was. This book might just change my life.I'll hand the rest of this review over to David Foster Wallace:"It seems to me that the intellectualization and aestheticizing of princi...
  • Councillor
    Miguel Ruiz' self-help nonfictional work could easily be summarized in a few words, and if - upon reading the book's blurb here on Goodreads, which basically provides such a summary - you find nothing worth investigating in this novel, then maybe you should rather choose another book. Ruiz' ideas are very insightful and thought-provoking, but in their core nothing ground-breaking and some of his examples are actually rather questionable.Ruiz basi...
  • Diana
    OK. So. I liked several parts of this book very much. I love that happiness is a choice. I especially appreciated reading about the third agreement: Don't Make Assumptions because communication is something I can always work on. I loved the parts about accepting and loving yourself and others. There is some amazing advise in this little book and I can see how it can be life changing for many people.But.I'm going to be honest and admit that Ruiz a...
  • Carmen
    Every human is a magician, and we can either put a spell on someone with our word or we can release someone from a spell. We cast spells all the time with our opinions. An example: I see a friend and give him an opinion that just popped into my mind. I say, "Hmmm! I see that kind of color in your face in people who are going to get cancer." If he listens to the word, and if he agrees, he will have cancer in less than one year. That is the power o...
  • Yuki Shimmyo
    "Happiness is a choice, and so is suffering." The Toltec wisdom of this book is commonsense which we all have heard, but do not always believe and apply every moment. As I read each section, specific relationships (of mine or others) came vividly to mind, esp. "negative" or "toxic" people I have had to walk away from; and the ones we can't leave (family) but can learn not to blame for their sickness. It's a very quick read, and I plan to re-read ...
  • Jackye
    Ruiz used to be a surgeon, until he fell asleep at the wheel one night and crashed into a wall. He recalls being outside of his physical body pulling two people from the wreckage. The near-death experience woke Ruiz to the teachings of his people, The Totecs, and thus renewed his original commitment to learn the Four Agreements.This book spoke to me on a universal level because its principles are in harmony with the methodology of many other tran...
  • Illyria
    I know this little book is the type of cliché self-help item that makes its way to the impulse-purchase-friendly shelves by the registers at Barns and Nobel around Christmas time and subsequently gathers dust on bookshelves across the nation unread by recipients because they are not the "type of person who reads self-help books." But please don't judge this book by it's section.The writing is a bit choppy and the use of repetition can be annoyin...
  • Carrie
    The Four Agreements1. Be impeccable with your word.2. Don’t take anything personally.3. Don’t make assumptions.4. Always do your best. I was given this book as a Birthday present from my little brother. He said its teachings can be life changing. I ENJOYED it a lot!!! As with any self help type of book you gotta "take some" and "leave some" if you know what I mean? For me this was a definite TAKE way more than leave. My brother and I have sim...
  • Holly
    Trivial introduction to New Age ethics with a large side order of third-rate, rancid leftovers from Jean-Jacques Rousseau, all written for a third-grade reading comprehension.This guy thinks that the ideal human is--get this--a toddler: If we see a child who is two or three, perhaps four years old, we find a free human. Why is this human free? Because this human does whatever he or she wants to do. The human is completely wild. Just like a flower...
  • Camie
    I think most everyone has read this book . Basically it tells us to be true to our real selves, look for the good, not bad, live in the moment, not to accept others opinions of you as true. Don't make assumptions, tell people what you need. Don't take things personally - in short who could be a better judge of who you are than yourself. In my experience it's much easier to be yourself as an " older" person. You've had those extra years to figure ...
  • Emily
    Struggling somewhat to rate this one. There were a few nuggets that were very enlightening but a lot of unoriginal concepts or overly fluffy statements as well.I found myself thinking "hey, that reminds me of..." very frequently while reading this book. The book reads like retreads of various scriptures, warm fuzzy stories, and self-help manuals. It's not a new concept that words are powerful and we should think and speak positively about ourselv...
  • Adam
    This book is juvenile. The universally acceptable platitudes that make up the four agreements are the only useful phrases in the book. Every explanation is conclusory, circular, and intentionally unclear. His conclusions aren't drawn from any deductive reasoning or analysis, and nothing rings true. I suppose you could find solace in the book if you wanted to blame your parents and society for your unhappiness, but I am not unhappy and I don't bel...
  • Renee
    Positives: -It's good to be reminded not to assume why people treat you a certain way. It is often not personal. -I liked the thought that if you shouldn't take negative comments personally, you also shouldn't take positive comments personally. Trying to believe one side and not the other is contradictory, and our views of ourselves should be maintained on our own. Negatives:-I felt there was a lot of filler fluff and repitition. -The author trie...
  • Anita
    New age psycho babble that nearly had me giving up, but it was so short I persevered. The middle part was good how to change your life with the four agreements: speak impeccably, don't take things personally, do your best and some live each moment or something. Good stuff, but not ground breaking or earth shattering. We know all this stuff, but it is nice to be reminded and hopefully inspired to do better. Unfortunately it ended with more new age...
  • Claudia
    This quick read was interesting in that I gained a new perspective on how others view the world. The book itself is quite simply written and very repetitive, and although brief, could have been about 1/8 the length to get the main points across. There are definitely some good takeaways that we should all apply to our lives. I always struggle with individualistic worldviews, even if the goal is to love others, so that might have been difficult for...
  • Nayereh Ahmadian
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  • Amirh
    The Four Agreements are:1. Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.2. Don’t Take Anything PersonallyNothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, yo...
  • Mindi Rosser
    Promoted as “A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom,” The Four Agreements was not my first choice to read in my spare time. Upon request of a dear friend, I forcibly attempted this 138-page book mustering somewhat of an open mind. Already, I have wasted many years as an idealist, grasping at wishful thinking as a way to truth. Being a childhood survivor of religious indocrination, I now err on the side of skepticism before embracing any propos...
  • Brian
    I came upon this book after reading an article in the Rolling Stone about Jeff Bridges. I liked the way he referenced it in relation to his life. I'm normally not one who can stomach much of things that are categorized under New Age (violation of Agreement #3: Don't make assumptions), but I found a few things here that were very helpful in thinking about problems my 23 year old son is facing and problems that I am facing in my own life. The crux ...
  • Tammy
    I have mixed feelings about this book. I thought there were some good messages spread throughout it but I had such a hard time getting past the author's writing style. To me, it seemed like a lot of short sentences using similar words. For example, it starts, "What you are seeing and hearing right now is nothing but a dream. You are dreaming right now in this moment. You are dreaming with the brain awake. Dreaming is the main function of the mind...
  • Daniel Forbes
    I've read the book and listened to the audio version. The audio is my favorite. Wonder what the four agreements are?1) Be Impeccable with Your WordSpeak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.2) Don't Take Anything PersonallyNothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own...
  • Chrystal
    This book is very similar to a lot of other New Age/Self-Help books I've read. They always have some great advice and simple truths that are often overlooked or that we can all improve and practice. The mystical language and storytelling style of this book is entertaining and it is a quick read. I feel he touches on some universal truths that I have given a lot of thought (i.e. being mindful, being honest and loving in language, and realizing eve...
  • Todd
    It was hard to take this book seriously. Early statements went something like this:..everything is made of light..light is alive and contains all be alive is the biggest fear that humans haveOnce we get past that silliness we come upon the agreements.#1 says that words are power. I disagree. I think it is our thoughts that are our true power. He says that we are all conditioned by our culture and language but never explains why th...
  • شهرزاد
    خیلی لذت بردم چون واسم مثل تلنگر بود. به همچنین گوشزدی احتیاج داشتم و همینطور توی بدترین شرایط روحی خوندمش. واسه همین بیشتر منو وابسته خودش کرد.
  • Erika
    I had several disagreements with this book (pun intended).As I had mentioned in an earlier status, the First Agreement (be impeccable with your word) is generally a great idea and I really appreciate the author's urges to be kind and careful with your words and thoughts, however, I felt that further details were misleading and could easily lead to confusion and disappointment. Statements such as "If I love you, then you will love me" (p. 32) are ...
  • Rézina Dějová
    K rádoby duchovním filozoficko-motivačním bestsellerům mám podobný vztah jako k pavoukům, držkovce nebo revizorům. (Nemám je ráda - jen tak pro pořádek.)Čtyři dohody si u mě stojí stejně jako Coelhovy vysoce výnosné pseudointelektuální výplody. Je to knížka pro lidi, kteří nechtějí nějaké to duchovno nebo moudrost sami hledat a nacházet, ale dostat je za pár stovek přímo na poněkud ušmudlaném podnose. Že ty...