Does This Baby Make Me Look Straight? by Dan Bucatinsky

Does This Baby Make Me Look Straight?

In 2005, Dan Bucatinsky and his partner, Don Roos, found themselves in an L.A. delivery room, decked out in disposable scrubs from shower cap to booties, to welcome their adopted baby girl—launching their frantic yet memorable adventures into fatherhood. Two and a half years later, the same birth mother—a heroically generous, pack-a-day teen with a passion for Bridezilla marathons and Mountain Dew—delivered a son into the couple’s arms. I...

Details Does This Baby Make Me Look Straight?

TitleDoes This Baby Make Me Look Straight?
Release DateJun 5th, 2012
PublisherAtria Books
GenreNonfiction, Autobiography, Memoir, Humor, Lgbt, Parenting, Audiobook

Reviews Does This Baby Make Me Look Straight?

  • Jim
    My friend, the Emmy-winning actor and writer Dan Bucatinsky, has written a hilarious, bawdy, touching, and informative book which about the unique trials and pleasures of raising children in a same-sex marriage. I laughed a lot reading this book, but I cried a couple of times, too, because there is extraordinary love revealed in these pages. Ultimately, love is all that really matters, and its importance as a foundation for marriage or parenting ...
  • Ana
    The book is good, but the audiobook is great.
  • Melodie
    Books with essays on kids and parenting are a dime a dozen. Most full of advice, some funny, some try to be funny and miss the mark. This is not one of these. The author, a writer and actor gives us a unique view of parenting, that of raising children as gay parents.The author and his husband adopted two children from a mom unable to raise them. That essay alone gave me a unique view of the adoption process from a gay parent's perspective. An eye...
  • BWT (Belen)
    Filled with humor, and plenty of amusing and heartwarming anecdotes alike, this was a terrific listen.I've been a fan of Dan Bucatinsky for a while (still mad about Scandal - James Novak was a favored character! 😭) and Does This Baby Make Me Look Straight?: Confessions of a Gay Dad was simply delightful and absolutely made better by Bucatinsky narrating it personally.This quickie review has been cross-posted at Gay Book Reviews.
  • Melissa **Just Really Loves Musicals**
    This was such a fun audio book! The author narrates his life so well, and there are a lot of touching moments with he, his partner and his two adorable children.
  • Ciara
    i really enjoyed this book. yes, it's another collection of humorous essays about parenting, but unlike so many of its contemporaries, this book was actually funny! & perhaps even more important, it was thoughtful. bucatinsky wrote how the gendered expectations of parenting roles are upended when both parents are men, his feelings of responsibility in trying to make parenting seem appealing to other gay men, & he even touched on a topic that many...
  • Jennifer
    Lots of cute stories about a happy family fashioned in love and against odds. Bucatinsky is funny, truly, and only human- but I couldn't get past some of his prejudices. I think he'd be the first to admit to some of them (the whole essay on talking to his children about fat shaming was more or less just him wrestling with his societal conditioning in that area) but even early on in the book he attacks a scammer/con-artist/bad person by calling he...
  • Rae
    Some of the chapters were funny but I got really tired of hearing how gross fat people are. Final straw was when he was so disgusted by a "heavy" 8 year old wearing a bikini, though his own daughter has a "perfect tummy". Gross Dan.
  • Katie
    I really enjoyed this. Definitely pick it up on audio. Bucatinsky's narrating was fantastic.Admittedly, I only really know Bucatinsky from Scandal (love him on that show!), but now I plan to check out other things he's been in.Great essays about parenting and family - no matter what kind of family you have, you will be able to relate. I swear, some of the conversations he's had with his kids were word for word the same ones I've had. You can tell...
  • Kim
    Dan Bucatinsky is an actor, writer, and producer and has appeared in films as well as series such as Scandal and 24:Legacy. In this memoir he talks about his experiences with his partner in adopting two children.The couple worked through an attorney to find a willing birth mother. The first attempt dried up when the mother continually avoided drug testing and, when pressed, falsified a clean test. They eventually found a mother who was not in a...
  • Jennifer Lavoie
    I'm a member of a book club that sometimes ships the new books automatically...because I've forgotten to decline the books. In this instance, Does This Baby Make Me Look Straight? came to me because I had - once again - forgotten to turn down the selections chosen for me. Since I already paid for them and the package had come, I didn't really feel like sending them back. It was too much of a pain.I'm glad I didn't.Does This Baby Make Me Look Stra...
  • Dana
    This is really 3.5 stars because I did like it, it just wasn't super amazing. Exactly 12 years ago I stumbled upon The kid by Dan Savage on the "new book" shelf at the Port Townsend Public Library. New to the Pacific Northwest I did not know who Dan Savage was, but after reading his wonderful memoir about him and his partner Terry adopting their son I was hooked and have followed Dan Savage ever since. Dan Bucatinsky shares, in very intimate deta...
  • Ray Campbell
    This book is very, very funny. While it's clearly meant as a lighthearted journey through life, love and creating a "modern" family, as Bucatinsky tells stories, his humor surpasses many stand-up specials I've seen on HBO. Bucatinsky's take on family life from the perspective of a gay man is well written, full of universal insight and specific challenges he and his husband have had as a gay couple.I picked this up because the title was amusing. I...
  • Carey Costa burtnett
    The first couple of pages in this book about what to do when your daughter realizes certain things about her anatomy had me instantly rolling and committed to Bucatinsky's book. He's hilarious at times and so genuinely emotional at times. It was a nice balance of memoir and humor, parenting stories and simple life lessons. Regardless of his experiences revolving around being part of a same-sex couple, I was able to relate to almost all of it. I c...
  • Faye Harper
    Moderately amusing in a few places towards the middle, but the author is not an especially nice person and after a while the low grade misogyny really began to grind on my nerves. This trend of being "REAL" is getting boring- you're just being a whiny asshole, it doesn't make you cutting edge or funny. It felt like he was just alternating sentences with nasty judgmental thoughts and sweet things spoken out loud to his cute kids. Not an ultimately...
  • Lindsey
    I really enjoyed this memoir about becoming a dad and what the first few years of parenthood have been like for Buckatinsky and his husband. He touches on heavy subjects, but throughout he keeps a sense of humor making the book a quick and fun read. I could relate to so many of his choices as a parent and his feelings of uncertainty. We've certainly all been there.
  • Erin
    This book is delightful. The author does talk quite a bit about his daughter's vagina, which is, in context, a brave and timely choice. However, if you aren't used to it - and you aren't - it comes as a bit of a surprise.
  • Gina
    This was darling. A great read for any parent. Not only is it hilarious, but Dan casts himself and his relationship in a refreshingly honest light. This is what we need more of-- parents not pretending to have it all figured out.
  • Sarah Jordan
    This made me laugh out loud on several occasions.
  • Shannon Dyer
    I didn’t always appreciate the humor, but I’m still glad I read this.
  • Tyler Morton
    Ehh, it was a fun read, but not overly compelling. Similar to Dan Savage's The Kid, but I found Bucatinksy more relatable than Savage.
  • ♥ Marlene♥
    A few years ago I very much enjoyed two books if I remember correctly from another gay man his last name is Savage. Dan Savage? Have to look it up and I very much enjoyed the book (s) where he wrote about him and his partner adopting a child. Okay found it and I was right. The Kid.So far (I have read 1/4th) I quite like it although not all his jokes. Easy read.Update: Well the author managed to make me laugh out loud a few times so kudos to him. ...
  • Johnny
    This was the selection for the first ever Family Week parents' book club. (Family Week is a celebration of gay families in Provincetown, MA, sponsored by the Family Equality Council.) There is something for everyone in this book, as Bucatinsky's wit makes for an entertaining read whether you're gay or straight and whether you have children or not.The book club event I attended was a gathering of about a dozen mostly gay parents. (There were also ...
  • Jennifer Heise
    I'm embarrassed to have to write this, but... this book was heartwarming. Oh god, you say, "Heartwarming? You mean like a Hallmark Special heartwarming? Run away, run away very fast!"No, really, it was funny and it was Erma Bombeck crossed with Torch Song Trilogy with an extra dash of glitter-- it was a gay entertainment dad in the blogosphere but searching for his highest truth. Some of those truths were painful because hey, who wants to admit t...
  • John Amory
    I'm a graduate student, so I have a lot of reading to get through on any given day. It took me a while to get Dan Bucatinsky's memoir because of this, and I had only intended to read a chapter or so at a time when I could squeeze it in. But that went out the window once I started reading. I couldn't not continue on. Bucatinsky is truly funny (for further evidence of this, rent or buy his film All Over the Guy, it's extremely funny and extremely u...
  • Sabrina
    I had heard really good things about this book and decided to pick it up when I got a chance. I had actually forgotten about it until I happened by it in the bookstore and picked it up to get a feel for it. By page two I was laughing aloud and reading parts of it to my friend who was with me.It was both hilarious and sweet, insightful and brutally honest. Despite being both the opposite sex and the opposite sexual orientation from the author I fo...
  • LoriO
    Books of linked essays are hard when you're not David Sedaris. This one was pretty good; there were a few rage-inducing inconsistencies (a chapter about being obsessed about what goes in your kids' mouths followed one or two later by a chapter in which a mom is giving him a hard time about the fact that he's letting his kids eat crap) that take a star off all ratings, and I really got tired by the end of the fact that every chapter had an almost-...
  • Adam Dunn
    I liked this book, a lot.This book takes the Dan Savage book concept and really takes it to the next level. There was a lot of analysis about having a child, how that changes your life, and all from a really gay perspective. The best thing about this book is that it gets to the deeper issues. One example is having a straight boy for a child when you were picked on in high school by straight boys. The book really looks at all the aspects of being ...
  • Aaron
    Presented with the same style and feel as Dan Savage's The Kid: What Happened After My Boyfriend and I Decided to Get Pregnant, this collection presents a series of both humorous and touching essays that looks at the wonderful rewards and interesting challenges that come with being a gay dad. Bucatinsky, a producers and actor with ties to a number of films and television shows, shares the unique story of his relationship with Dan Roos and their t...
  • Lloyd
    Thoroughly enjoyed. I higher recommend to all potential parents, parents to be and parents -- it may make you want another.The book brought back many memories of my own experience -- much of parenting is a universal experience. I found the stories on "open adoption" interesting.The only part that made my cringe was the "bit gun" medical statistics the author used to convince his partner to circumcise their son. The author cherry picked a couple o...