The Book of Forgiving by Desmond Tutu

The Book of Forgiving

Archbishop Desmond Tutu, Nobel Peace Prize winner, Chair of The Elders, and Chair of South Africa’s Truth and Reconciliation Commission, along with his daughter, the Reverend Mpho Tutu, offer a manual on the art of forgiveness—helping us to realize that we are all capable of healing and transformation.Tutu's role as the Chair of the Truth and Reconciliation Commission taught him much about forgiveness. If you asked anyone what they thought wa...

Details The Book of Forgiving

TitleThe Book of Forgiving
Release DateMar 18th, 2014
GenreNonfiction, Spirituality, Self Help, Psychology, Religion, Personal Development

Reviews The Book of Forgiving

  • Janet
    When I first started reading this I confess it was a hard read. So much pain at levels I have never experienced. It made me feel small and fragile to even think of whining about my own troubles when these people really know what it is to experience trauma. Then I learned through the way Mpho and Desmond Tutu explained it that the un-forgivable in my own life was holding me back from being the person I know I can be. I look at these things differe...
  • Antigone
    Archbishop Desmond Tutu will be the first to tell you that forgiveness is not for sissies.As the chairman of South Africa's Truth and Reconciliation Commission, he spearheaded the landmark effort to heal a country torn asunder by apartheid. A time and space were created to introduce perpetrator to victim - thieves to those they vandalized, torturers to those they injured, kidnappers to the kin of those they abducted, killers to the families of th...
  • Geoff Livingston
    A truly restorative book filled with fantastic spiritual exercises and examples. This is not an entertaining read, it is work. Not the prose, but the subject matter. Yet, if you read it through you can't help but feel better and see the world differently.
  • Megan Clarke
    Until I read this book, the idea of forgiveness was rather vague and obscure--something that as a Christian I knew I was "supposed" to do, but I really had no idea how to go about it. How did I know if I had truly forgiven? I always had the impression that I had forgiven when I was no longer angry. But how could I stop being angry? Well I guess I needed to do a better job at forgiving because if I was still having flashes of anger, clearly I had ...
  • Brian Tucker
    ***UPDATE 3/6/17***. Finished my fifth read. Continues to resonate with me in a multitude of ways. Oprah described this as a "doctorate level education" in the concept of Forgiveness. With a capital F.This book made me weep. Read it if you need to learn how to forgive, what forgiveness is, what it is not, and why it is absolutely mandatory if you want to live a life of love and connection.
  • Catie
    Important read. I started this book in the aftermath of the Paris terrorist attacks. I seek a world of forgiveness and peace. I believe no one is beyond the reach of forgiveness."Forgiveness is nothing less than the way we heal the world.""There is also no end to the human capacity for healing. In each of us, there is an innate ability to create joy out of suffering, to find hope in the most hopeless of situations, and to heal any relationship in...
  • Christie
    The best book on forgiveness that I have ever read. It took me four months to read it. It is one you have to digest slowly and purposefully.
  • Kathryn
    I must express my gratitude to Desmond Tutu and Mpho Tutu for writing this book. It has opened my eyes, my heart, my mind to truly understanding forgiveness. It has inspired me to embrace this work and has bolstered my courage to move forward. At first I found it a bit difficult, as it uncovered some deep-seeded pain and trauma. But I am grateful to now have the warm, loving framework this book provides to walk the path of forgiveness. I apprecia...
  • Laura Thompson
    Truly beautiful book. The instruction for forgiveness is really illustrated well with fabulously shared stories.
  • Julie Rose
    Both beautiful and very practical. A book I think could benefit and inspire just about anyone and everyone.
  • BHodges
    The weight of its authors' experience transforms what could otherwise have been a regular self-help book into a remarkable guide to personal and collective transformation. Not only does the book offer solid justifications for forgiving others, and personal experiences to back up the justifications, it also includes unique rituals and meditations for readers to try if they're struggling with forgiving others. I learned much from this book.
  • Adelle
    Twenty years ago I had an experience that rocked my world in the most tragic way. It destroyed my sense of safety, my hope of a loving family, my ability to start my married life with joy & welcoming, & my ability to see myself truthfully as a good human...I was abused by family. It was so destructive that I couldn't even speak of it fully for about 15 years. I searched for knowledge about what to do & how to forgive. But every path ended without...
  • Mychael-Ann
    I can’t say enough good things about this book. Regardless of your life story, you need this book. It now occupies a place very near the top of the most influential books I have ever read.
  • Matthew
    This books message, for anyone who’s ever dabbled in this sort of self-work, is probably not a new one. Tutu’s message is that forgiveness, both of others and of oneself, is the necessary panacea to improve our world. I went into this book ready to roll my eyes at how simplistic I suspected he’d make this process sound especially given that I am someone who works with trauma survivors for a living and have heard all the unhelpful platitudes...
  • Annotaré
    I ordered this book for my son after completing the Tutu Forgiveness Challenge on line. (Check out the intro video with his daughter. Delightful!) At first I found it almost simplistically silly. But as I continued to force myself to work the daily challenge, I begin to realize this simple little program was having a defined effect upon and within me. Archbishop Tutu in concert with his daughter, Reverend Mpho Tutu have compiled a successful prog...
  • Anastasia
    A pretty comprehensive look at what I’ve come to be convinced is one of the most powerful forces of transformation of both self and others that is in humanity’s toolkit. Most of the stories here are no small-potatoes injustices – we’re talking true, heartbreaking tales of violence, cruelty, negligence, loss, grief, etc. I won’t lie to you – they weren’t always easy to read, but every one of the people who rose above the situation an...
  • Molly
    I recommend this as a must-read book for every adult especially those struggling to forgive either oneself or another human being. The authors, Nobel Laureate, Desmond Tutu and his daughter, Mpho Tutu, offer a practical four step process or path for forgiving others as well as ourselves. These four steps include 1) Telling the Story 2) Naming the Hurt 3) Granting Forgiveness 4) Renewing or Releasing the Relationship.The authors recount how the pe...
  • Glenda
    Forgiveness? Really? What forgiveness is...and what it is not; that is the question finally answered in this incredibly insightful and thought provoking book by Desmond and Mpho Tutu. If you have ever felt guilty because forgiveness was taking too long, or could not muster it up at all, this book is for you. If you have ever been the one seeking forgiveness, this book is for you. If you have not been able to forgive yourself, this book is for you...
  • Scott Wozniak
    This was a beautiful, poetic book about forgiveness. And it was a practical book about the process of forgiveness--how we need to name the story, acknowledge the hurt, grant forgiveness and decide to renew or release the relationship. But it's not a spiritual book, which surprised me a bit. He does reference his Christian faith a few times, but it's mostly universal insights and gripping stories that lead to psychological techniques and personal ...
  • Bree Dunscombe
    One of the most important books you'll read in this lifetime. If survivors of apartheid can rebuild a country based on the concept that we're all part of the same human family, that any act can be forgiven, and that every person is capable of transformation, then certainly we can reconsider our own views of who is worthy of forgiveness and who isn't. Including ourselves.It was especially meaningful to read this book while horrific acts of violenc...
  • Hillary
    This is a beautifully written and powerful map to forgiveness and the power of forgiveness in each of our lives and to all of us as an interconnected people. Not only are there narratives, some of which are very difficult emotionally, there are clear step-by-step guides, journal and meditation exercises, and support resources offered throughout the book. It is a book that you may want to own rather than borrow as actually working through the proc...
  • Christopher
    The idea and text of the book I actually liked (3 stars) but that the mentioning of "God" and "Religion" is way to much for me. Before I bought the book I checked the blurb and nothing indicated that this book will be a filled with religion. Obviously I should not trust a blurb for the content if it is written by priests.The ideas behind the book and text I really liked.It has as well rituals, meditation practices and diary exercises which I all ...
  • Fred Kohn
    If you are worried that this book will be overly religious because it is written by a bishop, don't. It contains very practical advice regardless of your religion or lack thereof. I found many of the exercises at the end of the chapters very helpful. The only downside of this book is that Tutu brings his experience with horrific acts to the forefront, and most of us don't have experience with having to forgive on this level. So personally, I foun...
  • Kayla Platoff
    This book is eye-opening and relevant to anyone's life. The Book of Forgiving can help people recognize and name their pain, assist them in seeking or giving forgiveness, and deciding where to go from there. Tutu heavily relies on the idea that nothing is unforgivable, and nobody is unforgivable. Though written by a religious man, non-religious folk can still relate and use his ideas to change their lives. He mentions God and religion on occasion...
  • Sukhmani Atma Kaur
    A guide to sorting complicated emotions: those we are conscious of, unconscious of, and those too overwhelming to fully articulate. Questions to be reflected on and meditations offered help the reader to heal traumatic relationships. The pearl inside this book is that psychological injury stimulates the same part of the brain activated when a physical injury occurs, so by confronting the same emotions experienced then we can create a different em...
  • Mitchel Lee
    I can see why Brene Brown said this was one of the most important books she's read. Wish I'd had the words for the Fourfold Path two years ago. The language of renewing or releasing a relationship as part of forgiving is so useful. Restoration does not mean going back to the way things were. This idea is worth the cost of the book. Great and inspiring stories of forgiveness. Will be my go-to resource for forgiveness.
  • Naomi
    Desmond and Mpho Tutu's text is ideal for congregational and community group work on forgiveness, as well as for individual reflection. Spiritual exercises accompany each chapter, inviting readers into the relational, emotional, and spiritual work of forgiving and being forgiven. Recognizing how difficult forgiving and being forgiven can be, the counsel and stories that accompany the exercises show ways to healing and encourage the reader in the ...
  • Lu
    this book was recommended to me, but I wonder if that person read the whole thing. It is very repetitive.
  • Kat Robey
    A wonderful reminder of our shared humanity. Compassion and humility-a change of perspective; forgiveness explained, dignity respected.