The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

The 5 Love Languages

Simple ideas, lasting love Falling in love is easy. Staying in love—that’s the challenge! How can you keep your relationship fresh and growing amid the demands, conflicts, and just plain boredom of everyday life? In the #1 New York Times bestseller The 5 Love Languages, you’ll discover the secret that has transformed millions of relationships worldwide. Whether your relationship is flourishing or failing, Dr. Gary Chapman’s pr...


Details The 5 Love Languages

TitleThe 5 Love Languages
Author
Release DateDec 11th, 2014
PublisherNorthfield Publishing
LanguageEnglish
GenreNonfiction, Self Help, Relationships, Marriage, Christian, Psychology
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Reviews The 5 Love Languages

  • Msmeemee
    2007-10-29
    this book is a tool through which the author, gary chapman, can play out his jesus-complex disguised as a relationship self-help book. there are references from the bible throughout almost every chapter and gary likes to include generous praise from his clients who call him a "miracle worker." it's damn-near pretty close to being called god.the book has all the hallmarks of a bestseller: easy to read (i read it in one day); hopeless circumstances...
  • Brittany
    2013-02-22
    I think the basis for this self-help book is good. I totally get the "love languages" thing. My husband's "love language" is Physical Affection and mine is Quality Time. I totally see that. But this is like a "Love Language For Dummies." It talks to you like you're an idiot who has never had basic human social interaction before. And there isn't really any advice, just this guy rambling on about how smart he is for figuring out that people need t...
  • Catherine
    2011-05-31
    This book was recommended to my friend by her pastor to read before she got married. My assumption was that it would be religious in tone and not very relevant to today's relationships. I'm so glad I was wrong! This is one of those books I would suggest everyone read. It is such a simple explanation of what can so often go wrong in relationships. It's not about men vs. women, it's about the way people receive love.The basis is there are 5 Love La...
  • Malbadeen
    2007-06-23
    This book is based on the premise that everyone has a "love language". Things others say or do that make one feel "loved",they are follows:-words of affirmation.-recieving gifts.-acts of service.-physical touch.-quality time.Personally I want you to tell me how great I am (words of affirmation) while walking in the house with a collection of poetry for me (receiving gifts), make a beeline for the trash that needs to be taken out (acts of service)...
  • Hildie
    2008-02-24
    My mother in law gave me this book and I hesitated reading it because it sounds so cheesy (and just take a look at the cover--how dorky!) But I was stuck on vacation with nothing else to read so I reluctantly gave it a try. In a nutshell, this book has changed my life. Page after page I found myself wanting to yell, "yes! Thats exactly right!" If I could give this more than five stars, I would. Okay, maybe "changed my life" is a bit strong, but i...
  • Jeff
    2017-08-18
    This was recommended by a “friend” of my wife, which proves part of the old adage: “A friend of thy wife, is thine enemy”. That’s from the Bible or the Decameron or Archie Comics. I think.I’ll do the whole would-it-kill-you-to-read-something-positive-with-me-for-a-change thing if I want something in return in order spend some time with my wife. Plus, bonus, the audio book was relatively short.I’ve had to read a few scoops of self-...
  • Aishu Rehman
    2018-07-16
    Chapman used many real-life examples from his own marriage, and of couples that he had counselled across the years, to illustrate the concepts in his book and how they can be applied to address different marriage/ relationship issues and circumstances. These are case studies help us to identify similarities and lessons for our own relationships.In the book, he also offers 2 pages of additional ideas and suggestions for each of the 5 love language...
  • KatieMc
    2015-07-07
    I won't go into the circumstances which lead to this bizarre buddy read that took place at Disneyland. Sometimes life can be stranger than fiction. I will say that this book has some reasonably helpful thoughts and ideas, but... it is way too simplified and way too heteronormative and way too traditional Christian-value based to speak to me in any meaningful way. Every single example featured a husband/breadwinner and wife/homemaker (who sometime...
  • Sheri
    2018-06-09
    A quick and valuable read to help you better understand how you and your partner best like to express and receive love. Great for helping you see what you truly value in a partner and what your partner truly values in you.
  • Shannon (leaninglights)
    2016-02-05
    4.5 starsI absolutely recommend this book to EVERYONE. Whether you are married, dating, single, whatever. The ideas and concepts in this book will benefit any relationship. The idea of loving others the way they need to be loved might feel counterintuitive, but it something so essential to growing as a person and understanding what love really is.I had always known about this book and the love languages, but this was the first time I actually rea...
  • Al
    2011-03-15
    blahblahblahblahDoing what your spouse asks of you makes them love you more. There. I just saved you $14.
  • Marnie Krüger
    2017-12-11
    This year I'm doing a Reading Challenge; so I have 26 books with specific subjects that I need to read. BOOK21: A book that will improve a specific area of your life I think every married couple should read this at least once.Do the quiz and know what Love Language your partner speaks.For the advice given in this book I give Chapman a five star rating.The writing on the other hand was not that good. He tends to "speak" down to the reader, making ...
  • Lachelle
    2007-11-29
    My dad actually recommended this book to me and I finally decided to check it out from the library. Although I think my husband and I have a good relationship - it was amazing how much I learned from this book! And how I realized that by understand how we communicate differently - it could strengthen our relationship. I would recommend this book to just about anyone! A lot of it seems common sense but it's a good reminder and an eye-opener to rea...
  • Ellyn
    2009-02-13
    I would never have read this book on my own but was urged to read it after a debate with a friend of my roommate. It's written by a marriage counselor and directed towards couples, but it can be applied to all relationships, both romantic and platonic. The author's theory is that there are five major ways to express love (the five love languages). Each of us has a primary love language, and relationship problems occur when others fail to express ...
  • Nikki
    2011-04-10
    This book looks cheesy as fuck from the outside, but it's full of practical, down-to-earth wisdom. If you are married (or thinking about getting married), divorced (or thinking about getting divorced), read this book.
  • Samuel
    2013-04-21
    I read this book in 2 days; it is a quick read that incorporates stories to illustrate human nature when it comes to expressing love--especially in marriage. It is brilliant not for its originality of ideas but rather in its categorization and clarity of ideas. In the words of John Lennon, "All you need is love." Love is the most important thing, and yet, many people have a truly hard time feeling loved and successfully expressing love to those w...
  • Matthew Moes
    2011-07-31
    The author says love is a choice. He says that the infatuation that people experience in the beginning of the relationship is not real love. It is something else. Real love takes work while the infatuation period is instinctual and effortless. But isn't it the stuff we dream of and wish would last forever? Can we really accept that we will only get that chance at the beginning of the relationship and that thereafter, in order to remain monogamous...
  • Joe Wisniewski
    2009-01-13
    Everyone has "the" relationship book. This book will NOT automatically solve all relationship problems. People have to want to work on things; have to want to communicate needs and expectations. Having said that, I have not seen a better way to tie in to your significant other's point of view, then trying to understand how THEY need to have love expressed. But even more importantly, maybe, is looking at ourselves and seeing how we automatically e...
  • Yen-Tzu
    2016-11-17
    Reasons I read this book:- It was free;and on a slightly more embarrassing note- I read blogs about The Bachelor and The Bachelorette and every season someone very seriously mentions their "love language", and not even in a self-deprecatingly British way, which is really the only way to pull off saying, "my love language is words of affirmation". Just to be clear, I don't actually watch the television show, I just really enjoy reading blogs that ...
  • Ashley
    2012-05-13
    I loved this book! Before reading I had considered the premise to be very basic, common-sense knowledge and didn't think the book would tell me anything I couldn't have figured out on my own. Five love languages, not everyone speaks the same love language....ok, well as long as you know what they are, shouldn't have to read the book, right? Wrong. Gary Chapman's years of marriage counseling have brought him invaluable insights that EVERYONE shoul...
  • Gaijinmama
    2011-08-27
    The premise of this best-selling book is quite simple, but many of us haven't tried looking at our marriages this way. In short, people have their own, often unconscious way of expressing love and rarely do two spouses have the same "Love Language." This can cause trouble in a marriage because we may simply not understand the way in which our partner is expressing his or her love, even if s/he is trying really hard to express it and has NO idea w...
  • Mehrsa
    2009-02-18
    I was tempted to not give this book a high rating because I do not like self-help books and especially marriage advice type things. So many people recommended this book to me that I wanted to read it just so I could have an opinion on it and I have to say that I think it is pretty useful. It is definitely cheesy and certainly oversimplified, but the author is on to something. I have been trying this out not just on my marriage, but also with my c...
  • Samantha
    2012-08-28
    I highly recommend this book for ANY couple. Married, engaged, dating, gay, straight. It matters not. I even recommend it if you're single. My husband and I were on the verge of divorce, even separated, but after some counseling and reading this book it has helped us out tremendously! I bought a copy for my mom, sisters, and brother because I think it is that important to read his book and understand your significant others love language.
  • Cyndi
    2017-04-04
    Although I did learn what my and my husband's "love languages" are I kinda already knew it. I'm not saying this book isn't helpful, 'cause it is. It teaches some very valuable techniques to strengthen marriages.
  • Jane Stewart
    2016-12-13
    Interesting, insightful, useful. Good dinner conversation.The author is a Baptist church pastor who counseled thousands of people. As a result he discovered what he called the Five Love Languages. It works as follows.One should figure out what their love language is - which may be different from their spouse’s language. A person tends to do things for their spouse that they would like done for themself, but that won’t please the spouse if the...
  • Kaila
    2014-01-03
    Honestly, this could be a 5 star book, but the last 50 pages get really preachy. As in, "You are more likely to find and keep the love of your life if you already love Jesus."The 5 love languages themselves were the best and most interesting part of the book. I was constantly thinking, "Of course! That's why this thing works and that thing doesn't!"Now, if your partner happens to be a philosophy major...you might have more problems getting the id...
  • AJ
    2013-12-22
    This book has a very interesting premise, that everybody considers different things to be acts of love, and that if you're not speaking the same "love language" as your partner, it's possible that what you consider to be loving isn't interpreted as such.However I found this book to be really limited. It focuses on married heterosexual couples. I think this concept would be really interesting applied in family situations, or for unmarried couples ...
  • Jess
    2012-09-26
    My mom got this book for me for our wedding, and I won't lie...it sat around for quite some time before I could put down my paranormal romance books and see what it was all about. I have to say, I was pleasantly surprised. It gave me a lot of insight about the inner workings of a relationship and that love, a feeling, is also a choice! Luckily I am one, who has a full tank...so it took me some time to decode what my love language truly is, but I'...
  • Jo Miller
    2017-12-21
    Quite disgusted by how the author counseled a woman, “Ann” who said her husband cursed her, mistreated her, and said he hated her. Chapman told her to stay in the marriage for six months, and do ALL the emotional labor and follow “the teachings of Jesus.” I fear for her safety. Ann’s closest friends, who presumably knew of her situation, told her to get out. I hope she followed their advice.
  • Heather Murphy
    2008-01-23
    In the years since I originally read this book, my thoughts have often returned to it's content as I notice the preferences of others and I have found it helpful. So now in 2015, an updated review is glowing and I give it 4 stars instead of 3. However, below is my original review:This is an entertaining, well-written book from the perspective of a therapist who shares interesting stories about his patients and their love problems and solutions.Th...