I Know How You Feel by F. Diane Barth

I Know How You Feel

An expert's rich exploration of the intense, complicated landscape of women's friendships. “Do I have enough friends?” “Why did my friendship end?” and “What makes a good friendship work?"These are questions that F. Diane Barth, a psychotherapist widely recognized for her expertise in women’s relationships, fields all the time. In I Know How You Feel, she draws out engaging stories from a lively and diverse cast of women, many of w...

Details I Know How You Feel

TitleI Know How You Feel
Release DateFeb 6th, 2018
PublisherHoughton Mifflin Harcourt
GenreNonfiction, Psychology, Feminism

Reviews I Know How You Feel

  • Michelle
    For decades, NYC psychotherapist F. Diane Barth has specialized in women’s counseling and studies. Our valuable and vital connections to others are explored in “I Know How You Feel: The Joy and Heartbreak of Friendship in Women’s Lives” . Over time as women mature and experience personal growth development, the changes and impacts of women’s friendship are significant.In our mobile and fast paced society, it seems to be a rarity to main...
  • Lori
    Before: I won an advanced copy through Goodreads and the publisher and I can't wait to get it because the older I get the less I think I understand. My female friendships are very important to me. Aren't we all a little Complicated?During: So far this book is a little scattered and mostly seems to be focused at moms. There are plenty of women without husbands or children and female friendships are important for them as well.The book also jumps ar...
  • Sharon
    A scholarly examination of the way in which women's friendships differ from men's, this book seeks to provide insight into how and why friendships occur and change. I'm not entirely certain that the author achieved this goal. She used a meta-analysis of media (including TV shows like "Gilmore Girls") and interviews to reach her conclusions.I found the chapters on boundaries and grief to be most enlightening, as they examined the importance of set...
  • Kathleen
    Just shy of my 21st birthday, I was told by a woman, seven years my senior, that she "had enough friends" and would only add "acquaintances" from that point on. I was surprised at her comment because first, I hadn't been thinking we were becoming friends; second, I wasn't really interested in becoming her friend; third, was she considering me a candidate for the "acquaintance" category?; and fourth, who thinks about having "enough friends" anyway...
  • Carol
    A thoughtful book by seasoned psychoanalyst F. Diane Barth, based on interviews with other women ( their names and other details are altered for anonymity). One interesting section is on when a woman should or shouldn't let a friendship end, and how this decision might vary according to individual needs and wants. Another point is that we may need to broaden our definition of friendship -- if a friendship is fulfilling for us, even if it is meeti...
  • T.L. Cooper
    When I first saw I Know How You Feel: The Joy and Heartbreak of Friendship in Women's Lives by F. Diane Barth on the Amazon Vine Program page, I scrolled on past. I didn't think it applied to me. My friendships are... just fine. Then I started thinking about it and ended up back on the page ordering it. I'm so glad I did. While there wasn't all that much that I didn't know or hadn't surmised from my own life experience, Barth gave me a different ...
  • Whitney Brown
    This is written by a psychologist. She uses references and examples from other pyschologists, books/journals, movies and her patients about their own friendships. She jumped around a lot with different people but I was able to keep up and still found the book very insightful. I feel like every woman could relate to at least one topic mentioned in this book.I had won this book in a Goodreads Giveaway and it couldn't have happened at a better time ...
  • Anna Alapatt
    I Know How You Feel: The Joy and Heartbreak of Friendship in Women’s Lives is a very well written book about women's friendships. Over the past ten years my friend group has grown and shrunk - mostly due to the fact that I was moving abroad multiple times. Upon returning to the US, which coincided with my 30th birthday, I started to feel very differently about my friendships before than I did in the past. Before reading this book, I felt really...
  • Meghan
    I received this book as an advanced reader's copy and I was waiting for a book like this to be created. This is the ultimate guide for adolescent socialism. This book provides a full depth analysis on the social problems and complexities that everyone faces everyday and the reasons provided are good thoughts to remember such as social media friends vs. Real Life Friends and the whole chapter on cliques. I highly recommend this book to not only st...
  • Karen Day
    As someone who is fascinated by women's friendships, I enjoyed this thoughtful and insightful look into the complications, joys and sorrows that women experience with each other. I thought the use of reoccurring characters to extrapolate points was well done. And I especially liked sections (Disillusionment, Betrayal, and Rejection) dealing with the less rosy parts of friendship. Diane Barth has a comfortable, non judgmental writing style that ma...
  • Marilyn Daggett
    I was very pleasantly surprised with this read! It was a book I just happened upon at the library, so I had no expectations. But I learned so much about women and their complex friendships. How they change throughout your life, the different purposes they serve, and what influences how your own relationships develop and come and go. The author did a great job of weaving stories she has come across in her psychotherapy practice with research by le...
  • Betty Mintz
    I found the book insightful and relevant to my personal friendships. I have a friend with an eating disorder and now have a better understanding of her situation. Ms. Barth discusses how friends from childhood are links to the past and help one remember her parents. For only children such as myself these links are invaluable. Her comments about the sense of loss we feel when a friend dies are relevant to those of us who have lost a friend of any ...
  • Molly Sutter
    While I think this book touched on some ways in which female friendships are special, this book really seemed to be more about the nuances of personalities meeting and meshing (or not) in general. The book touches on a number of topics, including how friendships begin and end, and even what exactly constitutes a friendship--but what I enjoyed most was reflecting on my own female friendships while I read this book.
  • Nancy
    Reading this book was a treat for the mind. Diane Barth is a wonderful writer. She talks clearly and beautifully about all aspects of friendships between women, not just the satisfying and joyful parts. I loved how she organized her investigation into small pieces, so I could pick up the book, read a small section or two and then leave it for awhile to digest what I'd read. The young women in my life should look forward to receiving a copy for Ch...
  • Cynthia Edge
    The idea of this book seemed interesting. When I was flipping through it at the library, I could relate to snippets here and there about friendships and wanted to learn more. But, I felt like this book didn't really enlighten me much, and the anecdotes were so short that they weren't really interesting either. Just kind of boring and repetitive.
  • Ruby
    "It is not always easy to know when to offer advice, when to make an active intervention, when to keep your opinions to yourself and simply offer support and comfort. Or when to simply give up - a solution that could mean leaving a friendship altogether.":if a woman is going to be my friend, she's going to have to like herself enough to be able to be pleased with me when I'm successful."
  • Norma
    It was a pick of my book club and I was really looking forward to reading it. I didn’t realize I’d be reading a textbook. Slogged through it to the end. One of the benefits of listening on Audible is that you don’t have to pay attention to all of it if you don’t want to.
  • Aggie
    This book was not only really helpful as to understanding friendships but it also helps you to understand what went wrong with friendships and to learn how to improve the ones you have. I highly recommend it.
  • Rachel
    It was comforting to read about how many other women experience the same feelings about friendships as they grow older; it really put some things in perspective and I'd recommend it to any woman, young or old :)
  • Diane Thayer
    Lots of anecdotal evidence in discussing all facets of friendships in women's lives. Enough research-based evidence to support the stories and supply some solid insight into the inner workings of friends, our need for them and how they shape our lives.
  • Betty
    This book explained, with examples, how women develop and maintain friendships. I believe that the book would be great for a book group-- not only for adult women, but for young adults.
  • Dana
    Less scholarly than I’d hoped. Definitely brought awareness of friendships that have disappointed me, or disappeared. Didn’t really offer remedies, either. Left me sadder and only a little wiser.
  • Carlissa
    I only read a little over half of this book, it's just not my type of book. Book club meeting is on Wednesday and it should be interesting what everyone there thinks about it.
  • Leslie Jonsson
    First great non-fiction book I've read this year (yes, I realize the year has just started). A thorough evaluation of women's friendships, why they last; and why they end. Very informative.