Text Me When You Get Home by Kayleen Schaefer

Text Me When You Get Home

From Girls to Parks and Recreation to Bridesmaids, the female friendship has taken an undeniable front seat in pop culture. Text Me When You Get Home is a personal and sociological perspective - and ultimately a celebration - of the evolution of the modern female friendship.Kayleen Schaefer has experienced (and occasionally, narrowly survived) most every iteration of the modern female friendship. First there was the mean girl cliques of the '90s;...

Details Text Me When You Get Home

TitleText Me When You Get Home
Release DateFeb 6th, 2018
PublisherPenguin Audio
GenreNonfiction, Feminism, Audiobook, Sociology

Reviews Text Me When You Get Home

  • Betsy Kipnis
    Ugh. This book was a complete waste of time. The author is self indulgent and weaves her fantastic state of friendship affairs in and out of historic discusssion of the evolution of feminine friendship as represented on television. I read to avoid television and reading this book is like watching all the television shows I’ve avoided (sans Sex In The City). The author/s replay way too much of the episodes and as a premise this hardly reads as a...
  • Marta
    This book is just a buzzfeed article about 20 reasons Your Galentine's Day Gal is More than Your BFF She's Your LITERAL SOUL MATE (no homo). But instead of Galentine's Day GIFs the author writes things like "'Galentine's Day' was introduced to the world by Leslie Knope, a fictional midlevel bureaucrat in an Indiana parks and recreation department on the NBC sitcom Parks and Recreation."The real question this book-shaped listicle poses is - who, o...
  • Danielle H
    I feel it's appropriate to say that I texted one of my friends while reading, "I am legit holding back tears reading this book at work because a girl's best friend died and I can't process the idea of you being dead". She is a person I text when I get home. There are so many more of her and I am so incredibly lucky to have all of these women in my life who support me and love me and get me and let me tell them in so many ways, "Let's keep talking...
  • Jaclyn Crupi
    Perfect Galentine’s Day reading! This book makes you want to grab your gal gang and hug them hard. Female friendship is a force and I don’t know where I’d be without the ladies in my life. I love how this book celebrates everything that female friendship is and the love we have for one another. As Keira Knightley put it, ‘Female friendships are fucking extraordinary.’
  • Dina
    I couldn't figure out what about this book rubbed me the wrong way until after I finished it.The (incredibly patronizing) author really doesn't have a clue.There were parts that resonated and made sense, but the author kept going on and on about how she shunned female friendships her whole life, how she looked down on women who had "squads," and how she was more of a "man's girl" and related to men more than to women. Then one day, she meets a gi...
  • Jen
    I wanted to like this book but I just.... didn’t. It was too chatty, anecdotal, heavy on pop culture references and felt very specific to young, white privileged middle or upper middle class women’s experiences. I don’t know, I’m not sure what I wanted from this book but I didn’t get it. Like, obviously female friendship is extremely powerful and rewarding and my best friend is basically like my life partner but this book didn’t reall...
  • Barbara (The Bibliophage)
    Kayleen Schaefer explores twenty-first century female friendships with gusto in Text Me When You Get Home. Like a great coffee date with your bestie, it’s the perfect blend of research, analysis, and real-life stories. By the end I was eyeing up that woman in the next lane and thinking, “I wonder what we have in common besides swimming?”Text Me When You Get Home is a tribute and celebration of being a woman today, from work friendships to t...
  • Stacey Kimmel
    I wanted to like this book, but I was hoping for something well-researched and thoughtful. Instead I found it repetitive and sophomoric. I returned after the second chapter, which focused on, of all things, the movie Beaches. I would not have thought this movie worthy of more than a paragraph, but she spends a CHAPTER on it, recounting the plot, how it differs from the book, and actor/actress reminiscences of its making. She claims that there are...
  • Katie
    I enjoyed Text Me When You Get Home, but I also wanted it to go deeper. At times, it felt more like a memoir than a nonfiction piece exploring female friendship. Often some of the most compelling arguments Kathleen Schaefer presented were quotes from other people's works. For instance, I immediately went out and bought All the Single Ladies by Rebecca Traister after reading the excerpt Schaefer chose to include. I think positive female friendship...
  • Vanessa (splitreads)
    A mix of memoir (Schaefer's personal friendships as well as those of friends she knows), some discussions about recent friendships in pop culture (Parks & Rec, Insecure, Broad City, Big Little Lies), and some history/biology on female friendships. It was a charming book that related the importance of female friendships and made me think of my own friendships. There is nothing mind-blowing here though, but the audiobook was a nice listen.
  • Leigh Kramer
    An examination of the importance of female friendship, Text Me When You Get Home is sure to inspire a reflection about the role of female friendship in your life. Part memoir and part social history, Schaefer's stories and illustrations show the many ways female friendship has evolved over the years."Text me when you get home" is a statement women use for many reasons. It's to make sure our friend is safe or because we want an update on the cute ...
  • Madalyn (Novel Ink)
    *2.5 stars*The premise of this book is excellent, but the execution felt one-note. It was all pretty surface-level stuff. Plus, even though it was published this year, it felt a little... dated? Like, some of the references weren't super relevant, and I think the way the author views female friendship is vastly different in some ways than the way my friends and I-- and other younger Millenials(TM)-- view it. For me, the book could have benefited ...
  • Olivia Garant
    I really wanted to like this book. It just did nothing for me. The impacts that my female friends have on my life are huge. For me, the type of relationships described in this book are vital. Here is the problem I have - so are ALL of my other relationship types. Whether it be my female friends, my family, male friends, or the relationship I have with the individual I am sharing my life with. I feel these are equally important and have all impact...
  • Miri
    I was really excited to read this because it’s such an important topic, but I quickly found myself disappointed. This book reads like a series of very long blog posts by a college freshman. (And if it were, I might’ve liked it more.) The writing just isn’t very good and seems unedited. It’s repetitive and full of tedious plot summaries of various movies and TV shows, along with overly specific details about what the author and her friends...
  • Simone
    I had really high hopes for this book and I was so looking forward to reading it. I think it was a case of the subtitle overselling whatever the book was attempting to do. Instead, the book reminded me a lot of Life Moves Pretty Fast: The Lessons We Learned from Eighties Movies and not in a good way? For one, she seemingly implies that female friendships didn't exist before the 1980s, or maybe the 1950s? Or at least she starts the book talking a...
  • Ylenia
    This book was a 288 pages long version of a BuzzFeed article on friendship. Actually, BuzzFeed was often mentioned in the book itself.This book was a white, middle-class account on having friends during your twenties or thirties, if you are a woman. This book was so white Taylor Swift was mentioned at some point, in a discussion of #squadgoals. The author somehow realized she was talking about white people too much and remembered to mention inter...
  • Erin
    This a blog series. This is a woman who did exactly the kind of shallow research that a journalist would do. What is this meant to be? Is it a memoir? No, not really, although we hear allllll about Schaefer's sorority days, her boyfriend, and her friends she watches Scandal with. I'm pretty sure that at least 65% of the sources quoted in here are her friends, too. This is augmented by some stunningly ahistorical research that is mainly about pop ...
  • Chessa
    4.5 stars but I’m rounding up. I loved this so much - I teared up approximately 9,347 times, and for someone who hates feelings, this is a lot and I still loved it.Though the author does a good job of showcasing women of color in the pop culture friendships she highlights, I worry a little about calling this a book about modern female friendship - it feels just a little bit too broad, especially since the author draws on her own experience so m...
  • Amy!
    This was just a lovely, reassuring look at how important female friendships are. I loved the anecdotes from women about how much they relied on their lady friends, and it generally made me feel really good about the friends that I have. I don't know that I learned anything I didn't already know, but I'm glad that this is a conversation that is becoming more mainstream. Ladies are great, y'all.
  • Kelsey
    Rarely in recent memory have I had such strong feelings about a book, both positive and negative. While reading, I kept texting a friend of mine to tell her about the various anecdotes and stories laid out in this book, sometimes in frustration, and sometimes in joy. If nothing else, this book is compelling.The author, Kayleen Schaefer, does an excellent job of weaving her own memories and stories of her friends in with an exploration of female f...
  • Kathy Denker
    I'm not sure if my moments of enjoying the book were the text itself, or the opportunity to reflect on my friendships. The premise is solid, but I'm not sure it needed the length that it took.
  • Carey Gibbons
    Pretty excellent meditation on female friendships and how they should be just as important as marriages and children and cats. I especially liked the early chapters that talked about being a young woman in high school and college and how a lot of us are taught that our female friends are just stand-ins while we wait for marriage. Oh holy hell, I was guilty of this. This book doesn't aim to bash marriage or say that friendships should replace it (...
  • Brooke Nuzie
    Some parts of this I loved, some parts of this I hated. I either could see myself in what she was saying, or adamantly opposed. A lot of parts made me feel bad about myself. Regardless, it gave me a lot to think about, but still only gets 3 stars.
  • Michelle
    I won this book in a raffle and read it quickly. I like the premise of this book (YES to female friendships!) but it was a huge missed opportunity to go much deeper in many parts. I feel like more than half of it is a recap of movies and TV shows (many of which are very white and I have not seen so it was wholly unrelateable), with the other half personal anecdotes. It is very repetitive, and could have been condensed to a longform think piece. T...
  • Sylwia (Wish Fulfillment)
    Dropping at 12%.
  • Paolina
    What I liked: the celebration of female friendship. It has been largely misrepresented in popular media for a long time. The idea that women can't be friends and will catfight at any given opportunity is a lie sold to us by the patriarchy to justify giving women only one seat at the table (at most). What I didn't like: this book is not marketed properly. the subtitle "The Evolution and Triumph of Modern Female Friendship" makes it sound like a we...
  • Deedi (DeediReads) Brown
    All my reviews can be seen at https://deedireads.com/. "'I love you,' one of us will say. 'Text me when you get home,' the other will say. We're saying the same thing." This was a great book! Schaefer is compelling, entertaining, and moving. I've read a lot of nonfiction books, and they can often move slowly, even if they are saying important things. Not so with Text Me When You Get Home; I zipped through this one in just two days and truly en...
  • Melissa Italiano
    Liked some, disliked some.The chapters that struck a chord were the ones of true analysis. I loved analyzing how we (women) grew up viewing female friendship via our mothers and grandmothers, analyzing #girlsquads (notably Taylor Swift’s), tv shows that center around womens' friendship instead of romantic love (Broad City, Insecure, I Love Lucy), and women's "catfights" vs. men's "debates." We looked at how our friendships end, change, and endu...
  • Betsy
    Elan.Social Review of Text Me When You Get HomeText Me When You Get Home Book Club GuideText Me When You Get Home: The Evolution and Triumph of Modern Female Friendships by Kayleen Schaefer is a KILLER choice for every feminist book club. Kayleen grew up favoring friendships with men over women. She didn't connect, or didn't think she'd connect, to her own sex and actively avoided befriending women. Kayleen wanted to write for a "serious" magazin...