Can't Help Myself by Meredith Goldstein

Can't Help Myself

A disarmingly honest memoir about giving advice when you're not sure what you're doing yourself, by the woman behind The Boston Globe's Love Letters column.Every day, Boston Globe advice columnist Meredith Goldstein takes on the relationship problems of thousands of dedicated readers. They look to her for wisdom on all matters of the heart- how to cope with dating fatigue and infidelity, work romances, tired marriages, true love, and true loss. I...


Details Can't Help Myself

TitleCan't Help Myself
ISBN9781455543779
Author
Release DateApr 3rd, 2018
PublisherGrand Central Publishing
GenreAutobiography, Memoir, Nonfiction, Biography Memoir
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Reviews Can't Help Myself

  • Michelle
    1970-01-01
    Can’t Help Myself: Lessons and Confessions from a Modern Advice Columnist by Meredith Goldstein is a fun and engaging memoir that began with Ms. Goldstein’s employment as a journalist at the Boston Globe. Friends and family members sought her opinion and advice for years, including her mother, who had difficulty dating in her early forties following her divorce from Goldstein’s father. Assisting her mother writing dating profiles was the ea...
  • Michelle
    1970-01-01
    I grew up watching my grandmother read Dear Abby and Ann Landers. To my 4 year old eyes the face of wisdom was an older woman with big coiffed hair. Both of these women hailed from another time. A much simpler time where people stayed happily married until death do they part. But this was not my life. The very reason that I was my grandmother's house was that I was visiting my Dad for the weekend. They represented a perfection to which I would no...
  • Barbara
    1970-01-01
    I was surprised to see how much I enjoyed reading this book! At first I surmised that it would be light fare and mainly entertaining. I was delighted to find how much I learned about this author.Meredith Goldstein is a journalist, whose public acclaim is derived from her column, Love Letters,which appears each week in the Boston Sunday Globe. It is not a typical "advice to the lovelorn", but one which contains humor and wisdom. It also has the f...
  • Julia
    1970-01-01
    Meredith is a friend and it was so fun to read the behind the scenes on the work she does for the Boston Globe and the wider advice world. Kudos mer!
  • Laura
    1970-01-01
    Excellent story, loved the interaction between Meredith and her letter writers, her readers, and how she used what was happening in her life to color her advice, and how the column shed light on her real life. Very interesting read.
  • Natalie
    1970-01-01
    One of the great things about reading for NetGalley is the opportunity to explore books that I might not have picked up under other circumstances. This book is one of those, and it turned out to be quite a treat. Meredith writes, and orchestrates, a LOVE LETERS column in Boston. In this book, she manages to gracefully weave her own story into those of her readers and advice givers.Unlike typical advice columns, Meredith asks readers to chime in w...
  • Gayle
    1970-01-01
    Full review at: http://www.everydayiwritethebookblog....Can’t Help Myself: Lessons & Confessions From A Modern Advice Columnist is about Goldstein’s column: how she started it, the types of letters she gets and her interactions with her readers. But it’s also about Goldstein’s own life – her relationships with men and the people close to her. The “Love Letters” column addresses her readers’ relationship quandaries, covering everyt...
  • Rachel Kramer Bussel
    1970-01-01
    Make sure you have tissues handy when you read this memoir, which is about a writer's evolution as an advice giver via her love letter column, as well as her relationship with her mother, who's diagnosed with cancer, her sister, estranged father, work husband and exes. It's also about dating, but not in the traditional format of the single girl memoir, who struggles and struggles only to get her happily ever after at the end. This book is also ab...
  • Renata
    1970-01-01
    I got an ARC of this awhile ago but didn't prioritize it in my reading, mostly because I thought it was going to be focused on relationship advice and I didn't feel like I wanted that? But I picked it off my pile and took it to the beach and read it all in a day, and I truly loved it. I was so pleasantly surprised to have a book like this that prioritized the importance of friendships and family and career. It's also a moving grief memoir and yes...
  • Laura
    1970-01-01
    This was an insightful and honest memoir from the Globe columnist. Having lost my dad and husband to cancer within the last two years, I found the parts of the book involving Meredith's mother to be especially poignant.The integration of the "Love Letters" column was done well and was very effective. I may be biased, though, since I've read the blog since day one. Having only commented a few times, I'm just a lurker.
  • Erin
    1970-01-01
    This book was great. It was so fun and a breeze to get through. The Globe is a great paper and I love Love Letters (granted I was a co-op there in college, so I’m biased)! I’m also now convinced I could write an advice column.
  • Audrey
    1970-01-01
    3.5 starsThis was a totally charming and self aware memoir. Meredith has a lot of common sense and empathy and gives excellent advice to her letter writers. These were interweaved with her own family background and mother's illness. Now I want a cotton candy machine.
  • Katie
    1970-01-01
    I thought this was a great balance between her own memoir and the submissions to her "Love Letters" column.
  • Jen Kirsch
    1970-01-01
    Spent my Sunday afternoon reading this quaint yet moving book in its entirety and is it too soon to say I'm ready for the big screen rom-com based on it? It has all the things I long for and fall for and get so taken by in a memoir/book of essays: love, loss, grief, moving on, acceptance. It covers romantic relationships and friendships and the relationships we have with friends. I smiled a lot. Wrote notes in the book. Put tabs on notable senten...
  • Jazmin
    1970-01-01
    I love everything about this book, from start to finish (and the cover). I could have finished this book in a day or two, but I decided to take my time because I didn't want it to end. It is funny, heartbreaking, and extremely relatable at times - especially her mother's cancer/death. I know I'm not the only one that feels a certain way or goes through certain things, but when I read others' personal experiences, it is really uplifting and makes ...
  • BOOKLOVER10
    1970-01-01
    In 2008, Meredith Goldstein, author of "Can't Help Myself," launched an advice column for the Boston Globe. She considered herself a natural for the job. After all, she "was the consoling, honest confidante who could make anybody feel better about a breakup or a bad first date." Unfortunately, she was also an emotional wreck at the time she started counseling others, since her boyfriend and colleague, Patrick, had recently dumped her. To make mat...
  • Gina
    1970-01-01
    Can't Help Myself made me feel all the feelings. I'm not exaggerating when I say I was laughing and crying quite often! Goldstein shares with her readers how her life was far from perfect and how she struggles with love just like the rest of us. (Advice columnists, just like us!) At the end of each essay about her life, she adds a letter or two from her column that is relevant to her life. Goldstein's memoir was also a great reminder that we are ...
  • Mrs. Porter
    1970-01-01
    As a sporadic advice column reader, I picked up the ARC of this book with the idea that it would be a compilation of letters and responses. It was much more. I enjoyed that Goldstein not only shared her columns, responses, and reader responses but couched it within the context of her own life. How would I summarize this book? Life is real in different ways for each of us, we all hit speedbumps of various sizes, and who couldn't use some advice al...
  • Kathy
    1970-01-01
    I loved this book and read it in about 48 hours. Through most of it I had laugh out loud moments but finished the last chapter in tears. Meredith Goldstein, the advice columnist for the Boston Globe has written a searingly honest book that shares her personal story intertwined with her professional work. Each chapter takes on a modern day subject (divorce, exes, breakups, illness, etc) where MG shares her personal experience and then follows up w...
  • Sabiha
    1970-01-01
    Thank you to Meredith Goldstein and Grand Central Publishing for giving me the opportunity to win a free copy of this book through Goodreads Giveaways. This is the best book I've read all year, so far. I'm so glad I got the opportunity to read a book that I may not have otherwise picked up on my own. Meredith Goldstein is a a feature writer for the Boston Globe's "Love Letters" column. Each chapter focuses on a select topic that readers may be st...
  • Sabiha
    1970-01-01
    Thank you to Meredith Goldstein and Grand Central Publishing for giving me the opportunity to win a free copy of this book through Goodreads Giveaways. This is the best book I've read all year, so far. I'm so glad I got the opportunity to read a book that I may not have otherwise picked up on my own. Meredith Goldstein is a a feature writer for the Boston Globe's "Love Letters" column. Each chapter focuses on a select topic that readers may be st...
  • Jenny
    1970-01-01
    I'm a regular reader of Love Letters; some weeks I'm online every morning leaving comments for the writer, others I'll log in to catch up on everything I missed at once. One time I wrote a letter of my own and got roasted by the readers; it's an experience. Meredith's response was insightful and kind.That said, there's a lot of mystery around the original Giver of Advice. Occasionally you'll see an additional response or two from Meredith in the ...
  • Nalene
    1970-01-01
    As Goldstein puts it, "This is a memoir told in stories and letters." The stories are hers--tales of failed relationships, successful (though at times unconventional) friendships, family struggles and loss, and humorous and honest observations about all of the above. The letters are her readers'--letters submitted to her for her Boston Globe advice column, letters she uses as a framework for sharing recollections of experiences in her own life. T...
  • Delia Turner
    1970-01-01
    Looking for a good old-fashioned moving read? This memoir by an advice columnist will be perfect. As the author narrates her voyage through adulthood, romance, friendships, and loss of a parent, she includes relevant letters from her readers, along with comments from her online community about them. I was also a caretaker for a terminally ill parent, so some of her story resonates for me and was healing. Other parts of her story I also recognize,...
  • Katie
    1970-01-01
    Admittedly, I'm only a very casual Love Letters reader despite reading the Boston Globe daily. I've always been a little bit skeptical of this crowdsourcing advice call written/lead by journalist in her 30s. When I started reading this book, I was surprised by how honest the author was about how chaotic and stressful her life was during the creation of the column. I'm torn as to whether the people reading and participating in her column should fe...
  • Lindaharmony
    1970-01-01
    Meredith Goldstein seems more likely to seek advice than to dole it out, yet she created a new kind of advice column, Love Letters, for the Boston Globe. The premise was to involve readers through the comments section, and the concept worked beyond Goldstein's -- or the Globe's -- expectations. Readers became a community that supported one another and trepidatious advice seekers. The book tells the story of Goldstein's family, social, and profess...
  • Serena
    1970-01-01
    This was another great "peek behind the scenes" memoir, showing what it's like to be an advice columnist. (Particularly one who doesn't exactly have everything figured out in her own life.) Meredith does a great job of weaving together the challenges of her readers with her own personal struggles, balancing a quest for love with strained family relationships and a familial battle with cancer. The book is interspersed with selected letters, Meredi...
  • Ann Green
    1970-01-01
    Goldstein does a fantastic job of integrating the author, her advice column "Love Letters" and real life into a witty and thought provoking novel. As the author searches for responses to the reader's concerns, she is often surprised to discover answers to her own dilemmas as a single woman searching for her own answers. However, the story really opens up after her mother is diagnosed with cancer. After all this time and the episodes with her mom,...
  • Ellen Berlin
    1970-01-01
    I received this book as a giveaway from Goodreads.I expected this book to be about an advice columnist, which it was, but it was really about the author’s life. It was about her relationships—romantic and familial. Interspersed in her life stories were the lettered from her readers, her responses and the comments of her readers. Parts of this book for me were an easy read, in that the romantic/love life stories were interesting. The familial ...