Goodbye, Sweet Girl by Kelly Sundberg

Goodbye, Sweet Girl

In this brave and beautiful memoir, written with the raw honesty and devastating openness of The Glass Castle and The Liar’s Club, a woman chronicles how her marriage devolved from a love story into a shocking tale of abuse—examining the tenderness and violence entwined in the relationship, why she endured years of physical and emotional pain, and how she eventually broke free."You made me hit you in the face," he said mournfully. "Now everyo...


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TitleGoodbye, Sweet Girl
ISBN9780062497673
Author
Release DateJun 5th, 2018
PublisherHarper
LanguageEnglish
GenreAutobiography, Memoir, Nonfiction, Feminism, Biography
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Reviews Goodbye, Sweet Girl

  • Roxane
    2017-12-23
    It is a hell of a thing to write about brutality and suffering with strength, grace, generosity and beauty. That’s precisely what Kelly Sundberg has done in her gripping memoir about marriage and domestic violence. Sundberg’s honesty is astonishing, how she laid so much of herself bare, how she did not demonize a man who deserves to be demonized. Instead, she offers a portrait of a broken man and a broken marriage and an abiding love, what it...
  • Jonetta
    2018-11-15
    Kelly Sundberg is a survivor of domestic violence. I’m starting here because it wasn’t always clear to the author that she was experiencing domestic abuse. Her story begins near the end and then reaches back into the past to provide context for her state of mind and how she came to be and stay in a violent relationship. Sundberg’s early life is much more complex than the simplistic lifestyle she describes. So much goes unsaid and broils und...
  • Rebecca Thomas
    2018-01-23
    I have taught Sundberg's "It Will Look Like a Sunset" in my composition classes ever since the essay came out. Every semester, the essay enables important discussions about abuse, agency, and craft. Every semester, I have students who feel empowered enough to share their story. Every semester, I have students who say that this essay changed their way of thinking. This is the power of Sundberg's work: it is both beautifully written while simultane...
  • Jane Hamilton
    2018-02-21
    Sometimes I want to let a book sit with me. I have to let it sink in deeply and observe how it feels in my tissues and bones before I write about it. First off, let me say that Kelly Sundberg is a courageous, talented, skilled and generous writer--it's why I've so admired her blog through the years. You are in good hands here, readers. Kelly Sundberg was married to a mercurial, abusive writer who was, at the beginning, ahead of her on the success...
  • Dawn
    2018-06-17
    I'm sorry, but I just didn't enjoy this book. I really wanted to. I thought I would. But I didn't. The opening is compelling and pulled me right in. However, as I read, the details really got blurry. I found it very difficult to follow Sundberg as she detailed the various relationships that led her into a violent marriage. There was too much jumping around–– while discussing one boyfriend and the relationship, there would be a sudden jump to ...
  • Jen
    2018-08-02
    As most memoirs go, Goodbye Sweet Girl can be tough to read at times. Kelly Sundberg details her life, the beginning of her relationship, and their eventual descent into domestic abuse. The insight into why people choose to stay with their abusers and how they gather the courage to leave was raw and unfiltered. This was a real, honest take on domestic abuse. It was excellently written, yet I felt like the author was holding back a bit. It was met...
  • Barbara Senteney
    2018-04-30
    I am not giving this book 5 stars because of the writing. The writing style is simple but surprisingly open and candid. I gave this book 5 stars because of the courage it takes to open ones whole life up to be viewed, criticized and picked part by the hungry for blood masses. To bare ones soul and admit to the shame of abuse and lay it out there before the world to step on like a rug after being walked on in life takes a special soul.It takes a s...
  • jo
    2018-12-15
    this is pretty phenomenal. i find it mostly phenomenal as a piece of self-writing, though it's also written beautifully.i admire trauma memoirs that embrace the necessary fragmentation of trauma. once you make a memoir of trauma linear, coherent, and cogent, it seems to me you lose something. trauma never presents itself in coherent narratives and it may be okay to superimpose coherence to a traumatic experience but imo something will get lost. s...
  • Kelly Long
    2018-06-11
    This is a very honest and open account of being in an abusive marriage. It's also a story of hope, strength, and survival.
  • Lou
    2018-06-06
    AbuseBrutalityIgnoranceAngerViolenceScaredCryingPainHurtFocusTruthNo quittingNever give upSurvivalStrengthCourageBraveryBreaking freeFreedomBe prepared to be sucked into the vortex that incorporate all these words letters, ultimately feelings and emotions.Necessary truth work layered out in a very real everyday human stain upon earth. A writer with courage and bravery to lay down her life for the reader, a writer yet again seeking truth, realisat...
  • Shaindel
    2018-12-18
    Kelly Sundberg's powerful memoir of domestic violence and survival is a MUST-read. I first learned about Kelly's work through her essay, "It Will Look Like a Sunset" https://www.guernicamag.com/it-will-l... . The essay blew me away and led me to think about my own abusive marriage and my journey -- how I came to be there, and who I wanted to be afterwards. I'm lucky enough to have met Kelly "in real life" through the writing world, and I was so e...
  • Betty
    2018-12-15
    Sundberg's memoir about her abusive marriage is straight-forward, unflinching, and ultimately inspiring. Domestic violence takes many forms, but is always damaging and demoralizing to the person being abused. It takes a great deal of strength to endure such a life, and courage to escape it. I hope her book will help other women who are in abusive relationships find the courage to seek help and free themselves.
  • Neelam Babul
    2018-07-24
    It is commendable to write about brutality and suffering that one has endured in life at the hands of a loved one with such strength,honesty, generosity and admiration. In this gripping memoir, Kelly Sundberg talks of her about marriage and domestic violence that she experienced. I was appalled and horrified to read of her struggles, the fear she felt and the endless times she fought to save her failing marriage. Kelly Sundberg was married to an ...
  • Donna Hines
    2018-07-26
    Kelly Sundberg had no idea her husband had two sides. One a sweet, loving supportive father to their son Reed the other a vengeful violent explosive persona.Her childhood was riddled with some interesting characters and power plays in Salmon Idaho. Salmon was well known for mormon's , hippies, but not as well known was the darker side of beauty and brutality.Break out of the cage. Spread your wings and fly. Never settle. Stay safe. Her mother wou...
  • Maggie61
    2018-12-05
    Domestic violence is a tricky thing. While he is hitting you or shoving or slapping, leaving seems to be the obvious answer. But it’s all of the inbetween that makes it confusing. When he’s apologetic and calm. Maybe I shouldn’t have made him mad. Maybe I shouldn’t have done what he doesn’t want me to do. Maybe if I just don’t make him mad, he won’t do it again. Maybe that was the last time. Except it rarely is the last time and it ...
  • Kirsten
    2018-09-27
    This is an eloquently written memoir about one woman's experience with domestic violence. I'm trying to figure out how to relate this in a way that doesn't make it seem like I'm minimizing Sundberg's experiences, but -- one of the things that made this book powerful for me was that what Sundberg experienced is, in its own way, horrifically banal. This isn't a true crime book. It's not sensational. Evoking the patterns of a violent relationship it...
  • Renee
    2018-05-26
    GOODBYE, SWEET GIRL is a vivid, beautifully composed memoir about Kelly Sundberg’s tumultuous marriage to an abusive man. The narrative evokes feelings of remorse, uncertainty, and later, empowerment. It’s a compelling read, and although the disjointed timeline proves difficult to follow at times, I finished this book with a full heart.
  • Kelly
    2018-03-05
    I wanted my compassion to be enough to spare him any more pain. I was a woman full of wants who wanted to love someone in a way that would heal us both.This is a really important book, and I so admire Kelly Sundberg. This isn't some book about a waif-like woman who apologizes for everything, the perfect, blameless victim. Sundberg fights back.Please don't read that and think Sundberg is not a victim. She is. It took her years to even consider tha...
  • Brooke (Brooke's Books and Brews)
    2018-06-24
    I find it very difficult to review memoirs. These are stories of peoples’ lives, their experiences and memories laid bare. That’s why I have thought for a while what to write about this book. Kelly Sundberg lays bare the story of her life, all of the ups and downs, the positives and the many negatives. The honesty actually really surprised me. And I absolutely applaud her for being brave enough to do this. Sundberg’s memoir has very difficu...
  • Renée Roehl
    2018-07-07
    1.5 stars.I *wish* this book had been better. It wasn't emotionally honest, it withheld emotion and didn't let the reader in. As a reader I felt nothing, but was told everything too many times in the superfluous details. I found the story redundant with excessive word fluff to pad the lack of genuine pain the author must have felt. She talks about secrets in her family, Caleb's family but doesn't seem to realize as the writer she kept secrets fro...
  • Marika
    2017-10-29
    Author Sundberg writes chillingly about being married to a violent, yet brilliant man and how she came to be with him. What is unusual is that she did not come from a dysfunctional and/or abusive family, which is the backdrop to so many of these stories of abuse. She writes clearly about how she was able to love her husband, and even protect him, as he abused her. Beautifully, yet compactly written by a woman who had had enough.I read an advance ...
  • Sara
    2018-12-08
    It is difficult to know what to say about this book, because this book is about things we don't talk about. It is about the little slips that happen when anger ratchets up and up behind closed doors. Hotel room doors. Apartment doors. Car doors. In the privacy of an intimate relationship.I found myself at times shocked at Sundberg's book. Not that it is gratuitous, or anything like that, but it was just was just so honest. . . so behind the doors...
  • Gloria
    2018-12-10
    The powerful subject of emotional and physical abuse is a story that far too many women have. Anyone is to be admired for asserting themselves in a dire situation.It is the choppy writing that is a bit problematic. Back and forth between cities in Idaho and two distant states. Back and forth between boyfriends and her husband. Back and forth between adulthood and childhood. In and out of school. It is just not cohesive.While understanding that th...
  • Cheryl
    2018-06-12
    I really appreciate Kelly Sundberg for having the courage to share her story. Maybe others who find themselves in this type of situation or in the beginning or one will find the strength to get out. I am fortunate that I am in a loving marriage. Although, my sister has not been as luckily. She has been in several abusive relationships. One of the relationships she was warned in the beginning. The other ones, the guys put on a good front before th...
  • Karen
    2018-06-18
    This book was very disturbing not only because of the abuse but also because of the author’s perception of the relationship. It seems that the author believed that outside of the abuse that there was a beautiful relationship/friendship between her and Caleb. There didn’t seem to be any evidence of that as she described their relationship. Caleb had so many disturbing behaviors and I had the sense that there was even more darkness not revealed...
  • Rebecca
    2018-06-06
    Thank you to the publisher (via Edelweiss) for an advance e-galley in exchange for an honest review.It's basically impossible to give a book under 5 stars when someone does what Kelly Sundberg does in this book- is able to write eloquently about the most brutal of experiences, is honest and vulnerable about what they experienced. Her abuse was horrific, and she writes openly about her path to realizing that the situation was untenable, about the ...
  • Teri Drake-Floyd
    2019-01-21
    This book resonated with me so much. The parallels between the author's experiences and my own were downright eerie at times. I enjoyed the way she segued from her modern-day experiences (as they spiraled from alarming to downright terrifying) with her childhood experiences, drawing a parallel between them. It shows how people can be conditioned into accepting certain behaviors wile others don't, and how abusers cherry-pick their victims, based o...
  • Court76
    2019-01-01
    This book give you a glimpse into the world of a survivor of domestic violence. You are shown how manipulative the abuser is to the spouse. How they take advantage of the love and trust that is shown to them and tear it apart bit by bit. How the abuser belittles the survivor while emotional and physically breaking down the survivor for their own pleasure and to build their weak ego.
  • Taila Williams
    2018-06-10
    Finished in two days! Absolutely captivating book.
  • Michele Maro
    2018-07-12
    I don’t like this author at all. I don’t like her writing style. She repeats phrases too much. She’s whiny. She’s annoying. I was in an abusive marriage also which was why I picked up this book. I didn’t need to hear about her breasts or sex life. Her whinging was just too much. She has serious issues that meds and counseling didn’t help. Maybe someone that reads this will recognize they are being abused and get help.