No One Tells You This by Glynnis MacNicol

No One Tells You This

If the story doesn’t end with marriage or a child, what then?This question plagued Glynnis MacNicol on the eve of her 40th birthday. Despite a successful career as a writer, and an exciting life in New York City, Glynnis was constantly reminded she had neither of the things the world expected of a woman her age: a partner or a baby. She knew she was supposed to feel bad about this. After all, single women and those without children are often se...

Details No One Tells You This

TitleNo One Tells You This
Release DateJul 10th, 2018
PublisherSimon & Schuster
GenreAutobiography, Memoir, Nonfiction, Feminism, Biography

Reviews No One Tells You This

  • Thomas
    I love this courageous, gentle, thoughtful memoir. Glynnis MacNicol writes about her 40th year, in which she finds herself without a romantic partner or kids. Determined to avoid the stories and stereotypes so often told about single, childless women (e.g., objects of pity, selfish and spoiled creatures, invisible humans), she sets out to create a new, more empowered narrative. She embarks on a journey of self-discovery and connecting with others...
  • Jennifer ~ TarHeelReader
    Glynnis MacNicol was about to turn 40, and all-of-sudden, she began to question her life’s purpose. Up to that point, she’d had it all in her mind- a successful career and an exciting life. But should she want more? Should she want what society says every 40 year old woman should have? This memoir chronicles MacNicol’s 40th year, as she takes a deeply personal journey of self-discovery. It’s a tough year for her emotionally, she has an il...
  • Lydia
    This memoir isn't just for single ladies- it's for all of us who feel like life is passing us by and we can't see or fathom where the time has gone. It's for those trapped in memories of childhood and times past, feeling as though we are still living in those moments. It's also a memoir for anyone who has watched an older woman in their life who they loved deeply, become lost inside herself because of something beyond her control. Loved this book...
  • Valerity (Val)
    Not every woman is meant for couplehood, marriage, babies and PTA. And not every woman grows up wanting a life that includes all of those things. On the cusp of turning 40, the author has been thinking about her options and wondering why she isn’t more panicked about being in a relationship or her biological clock ticking down. With her mother going through serious health problems and her sister’s marriage experiencing a breakup as she’s ab...
  • Michelle
    No One Tells You This-- is a debut memoir that highlights life of a unmarried single woman without the possibility of a socially expected life that includes a husband and family. Glynnis MacNicol is a full-time writer and co-founder of The List. Her award winning writing has been featured in numerous notable publications including the NYT, The Guardian and Forbes, she lives in NYC.As a dutiful daughter and sister with too many friends to count, G...
  • Susan
    As a single woman over 40 who has chosen not to marry or have children I can't tell you how excited I was to receive this book. It gets so tiresome when people are constantly making you feel less than complete because you lack a partner and a family. Like most of us Glynnis is still learning how to navigate through life, making mistakes and figuring it out along the way. I very much related to how everyone around Glynnis relies so deeply on her, ...
  • Rebecca
    Life begins at 40. Is there any truth to that old chestnut? That’s what Glynnis MacNicol set out to find when she turned 40. From Toronto, she’d lived in New York City for years and loved her life of writing, entrepreneurship, friends, meals, bars, laughter and annual rituals. What she didn’t have was a partner or a child, so in the eyes of many she knew she was a failure. It was a momentous year what with her mother’s Parkinson’s rapid...
  • Sarah
    4+ starsProbably the most relatable memoir I've ever read. At the start of this book Glynnis MacNicol is turning 40, and is single, childless and happy. Not fitting the mould for the milestones women are expected to have reached by this age, as the blurb notes "there was no good blueprint for how to be a woman alone in the world" at this age (and in this day and age). No One Tells You This follows her creating that blueprint in the year after her...
  • Corinna Fabre
    I'm not even sure where to begin reviewing No One Tells You This. This book is breathtaking and poignant to the point of surreal. Glynnis leads by example: by taking readers through her trials, tribulations and moments of peace as partners in her journey, she imparts the kind of wisdom that can't be achieved by smacking you over the head with proselytization, but instead flows from a deep well of empathy and experience.Her writing is expert and n...
  • Ariel ✨
    "No one told me about the joy!" - Glynnis MacNicol's explanation of what no one told her about being single and childless in her 40s on the Call Your Girlfriend Summer Books 2018 podcast episode. No one told her about the joy, freedom, or stability. I knew instantly I needed to read her book. I don't explicitly plan on being single in my 40s, but I will probably be childless, and if my present-day choices are any indication of my romantic future,...
  • Jana
    Five stars not enough. I loved every word of this book and I am evangelizing about it to anyone who will listen. It's not long, but I savored it over several days because I just didn't want it to end. The story of the author's 40th year weaves together her struggles to be a long-distance caregiver to her dying mother and maintain her relationships with her father and sister (while her sister has a baby in the midst of this), all while coming to t...
  • Shereen Lee
    An cool and eccentric story about nostalgia and aging. Would recommend a read if this is a genre you're already interested in, but since I'm not that emotionally invested in memoirs I just found this okay.
  • Leigh Kramer
    “It was a truth universally acknowledged that by age forty I was supposed to have a certain kind of life, one that, whatever else it might involve, included a partner and babies...If this story wasn’t going to end with a marriage or a child, what then?”I’ve been trying to come up with the words to explain how much this book means to me. I’ve read some incredible nonfiction this year but this memoir about a woman creating her own bluepri...
  • paige
    The writing speeds along; it's a quick read with many head nodding moments, but by and large I found myself wondering what the book is even about. It seems like the chapters should dovetail chronologically, but I still found the timeline and characters hard to follow. I wonder if it would work better if it were developed into a work of fiction, or if it were presented as a collection of essays.
  • Booksandchinooks (Laurie)
    Thank you to Simon&Schuster Canada for a free copy of this book for an honest review. This is a very engaging memoir by the author as she comes to some revelations as to the direction her life is going. Glynnis is celebrating her 40th birthday, alone, as the book begins. She lives a very busy life in NYC but has never found ‘the one’ or had children. As she contemplates this she has to come to terms with whether her life, as it is, is enough ...
  • Smitha Murthy
    What is it about July where I am reading books from authors I feel like having a long, extended conversation with? From Katie Heaney to Kyo Maclear and now Glynnis MacNicol, I feel like I have made three new friends. 'No One Tells You This' is not a typical memoir. It's not the typical 'I am dying of cancer and I suddenly find life so beautiful,' memoir that seems to be all the rage these days. Rather, it’s a book about one woman trying to lead...
  • Caroline
    5 starsFinally, the kind of smart, feminist, nostalgic, narrative-driven memoir I was looking for! I thoroughly enjoyed this. I can't even remember what fortuitous podcast/article/random Twitter thread brought me to learn about this book, but I bought it a couple days after its publication, and I'm so glad to have had this perfect summer read when I did. Do you ever think about things that way--like, what if I hadn't heard about this book when I ...
  • Amanda
    Good in places. Not what I was expecting from the reviews or the description. I was expecting a book that is like, hey, it's ok to be 40 and not want kids and not want to get married. This was more of a memoir of a woman who was it ok to not want kids and not want to get married? Do I want kids and want to get married? So, it wasn't really what I personally was looking for. Also, not really knowing much of the author, I wasn't invested ...
  • Sara Adams
    I expected to relate to the author as I'm also a child-free (abeit married) woman approaching 40. Instead, I found myself not trusting the author's credibility or self-awareness as she sees herself as an edgy, progressive New Yorker, yet repeatedly mentions wearing fur. No edgy, progressive, modern woman wears fur. PERIOD.
  • Kayo
    Why do I think Sex and the City 2.0 , minus the sex. Lol
  • Sarah
    **I won this book in a Goodreads Giveaway, and there several spoilers in this review**This is a very honest memoir that really gives you a glimpse of how complicated life gets as you grow older and how hard it is to know if you've made the right choices. MacNicol describes with candor what it was like losing her mother slowly to degenerative disease, helping her sister with 3 kids including a newborn after the husband walked out (and thoroughly e...
  • Catherine Andrews
    Certainly single women of a certain age should read this, but so should anybody who's ever felt the twinge of an outsider or wondered why their path isn't neatly lining up with everybody else's around them. MacNicol writes elegantly and cleverly of a life lived outside the lines, with no map to guide you forward, and both how terrifying and satisfying it can be, sometimes in the very same instance.
  • Tori
    I really like the idea of this book and its message -- that women can and should be free to make decisions based solely on their own wont and not on societal or familiar pressures -- but I found the protagonist's voice to be a bit insufferable. It felt very privileged (though the author does acknowledge this) and at times braggadocious.
  • Julie
    I have a big fat friend crush on Glynnis MacNicol and i hope that she keeps writing more books like this. We need them!!Once in a blue moon, a book comes along that feels as though it was written just for me. This is definitely one of those books. It won't be for everyone, but i know some very special women, marching to the beat of their own drum, that it will resonate with 100%
  • AJ
    MacNicol's book read less like memoir, more like an essay on self discovery. As a 40 something woman with no children who also recently lost my mother I empathized and found her writing most powerful when circling on these themes. The element of being alone and trying to find her own peace with it felt superfluous, it almost should have been a separate book and context. There were elements where the ideas attached themselves (the one of sitting a...
  • Tad
    I loved everything about this brave, vulnerable and beautiful memoir. I heard an interview with the author on the Call Your Girlfriend podcast this summer and immediately knew that I had to read this. This book spoke to me in a very real way. I’m not yet 40 and I’m not female or straight but I could relate to so much of it. She writes with such courage and conviction and her writing style is so self assured and lends itself to some absolutely...
  • Nadia Timperio
    An honest and thoughtful reflection on motherhood, friendship, and consciously creating an “alternative” life for oneself. So many aspects of her story resonated with me—caring for and admiring a mother whose life you don’t wish to emulate but whose own life decisions made yours possible; appreciation for and pride in a chosen family; and the highs and lows of choosing to be alone. Will be recommending this book to those who know what the...
  • Lauren
    Just finished this excellent memoir on, well, everything: turning 40, staying single, losing a parent, caring for yourself, the freedom to go wherever the impulse takes you, uhhhh maybe hooking up with a 28 year-old working a dude ranch in Wyoming (why the hell not?), and building a life that doesn’t meet everyone else’s expectations of womanhood but somehow feels right. I’ve only read books written by women this year. I’m so thankful we ...
  • Starr Waddell
    The universe, perhaps, brought this book to me at exactly the moment I needed it. Although my situation is a bit different than the author's, I am in somewhat the same headspace. I'm nearing 40 and coming to terms with that fact that I'll most likely never meet someone that I grow old with. Glynnis' words resonated; I felt her words deep inside my soul. Thank you, Glynnis, for sharing your story. I helped me a lot.