How to Be Alone by Lane Moore

How to Be Alone

The former Sex & Relationships Editor for Cosmopolitan and host of the wildly popular comedy show Tinder Live with Lane Moore presents her poignant, funny, and deeply moving first book.Lane Moore is a rare performer who is as impressive onstage—whether hosting her iconic show Tinder Live or being the enigmatic front woman of It Was Romance—as she is on the page, as both a former writer for The Onion and an award-winning sex and relationships ...

Details How to Be Alone

TitleHow to Be Alone
Release DateNov 6th, 2018
PublisherAtria Books
GenreNonfiction, Autobiography, Memoir, Writing, Essays, Self Help, Biography Memoir, Audiobook

Reviews How to Be Alone

  • Berit☀️✨
    An authentic and raw memoir told with humor and honesty....For anybody that has ever felt lonelier in a room full of people than they would if they were Buy themselves.... this is not a self-help book it is a memoir... Lane Moore has laid herself bare in these poignant essays about human connection... from a troubled child, to a tragic teenager, to a triumphant adult... Lane Moore has struggled throughout with making connections that some of us t...
  • Kendall
    I am pleased that I was given the chance to read this book but I was left with confusion on what exactly I read. I felt that the message and title of the book was very misleading. I thought it was going to be about people that are alone and how to overcome the challenges that are associated with being alone. But, the story was focused primarily about Lane Moore's life and "not being alone."I think that being "alone" can mean different things to d...
  • Joshunda Sanders
    This review originally appeared in Bitch Magazine: Dear Lane,Initially, I was skeptical about reading your memoir How to Be Alone: If You Want To, and Even If You Don’t. “How to be alone?” my lady brain snarked. “How to be in a relationship that lasts longer than six months is what I need.” I’ve been single for most of my adult life, and I’ve attended a lot of therapy about it. Despite the fact that there were 110 million unmarried ...
  • Etienne
    A very misleading title/premise for this book. It has nothing to do with loneliness or solitary person, it’s more like a biography, very personal, about the author and her own experience with solitude/and not. Closer to a biography, no reflexion or explanation here. If you love this author/person you may enjoy it, but if you are looking for something to help yourself, this isn’t the right book!
  • Stella
    So here's the thing. On paper, I think I am supposed to fall all over myself about this book. It's a series of essays from a comedian who lives in New York and writes for publications I know and does comedy shows in places I frequent. reality, I could not connect with this book. Lane Moore is a talented writer, that's a fact. However I couldn't connect with these essays. With a title of "How to Be Alone" I assumed this would focus on emp...
  • Tabitha
    *I received an advanced readers copy of this book, but all opinions are 100% my own.* How to Be Alone is the soon to be released book by Lane Moore. If you haven’t heard of her yet, I’m confident one day soon you will. Lane Moore is a comedian, musician, writer, and host of Tinder Live.Though technically How to Be Alone is an autobiography, it’s more than that. Lane Moore’s book is touching, witty, and relatable. It discusses inadequacy, ...
  • Jeimy
    This book has 15 chapters. I only enjoyed two.A couple of my issues with this book:1. It feels like this author is whining for 80% of the book.2.It is hard for me to understand why she stays in relationships that are clearly causing her.I did thoroughly enjoy the chapter on Jim Harper.
  • Amanda Helling
    Utterly fucking delightful.How to Be Alone is funny and intense. It was a quick read for me, I think... Or I got so lost in it that I had no idea time was passing. Either way, it felt quick (in the best possible way). Moore's approach to story-telling is down-to-Earth and so funny that I laughed out loud repeatedly. I was hesitant at first about the vernacular style of the writing: that hesitancy wore off quickly. Reading Moore's words, I could i...
  • Audree Johnson
    I just finished this and I'm border-line ugly crying. I'm so thankful that Lane wrote this and put so much of herself in it no matter how hard it might have been. I feel seen in a lot of new ways and I felt encouraged by Lane's ability to see such beautiful things even through and in spite of the pain in her past. I wanted to be her friend before but now I ESPECIALY wish we were friends! She's rad, everyone should read this book. What a gift.
  • Tanja
    I didn't know anything about Lane Moore before reading her book but if I did I wouldn't have "wished" for it. I found the swearing throughout to be offensive and perhaps this is Lane's no nonsense way of speaking her truth, but it wasn't something I liked. I thought the title of her book and message misleading. I thought this book was going to be a survival guide for loners, but instead it was a series of chapters about Lane, ironically not being...
  • Lindsey
    Like some of the other reviewers, I was disappointed to find that this book of essays focuses mainly, though not exclusively, on the author's search for a romantic relationship. I was expecting a collection about connecting with yourself and learning to enjoy spending quality time with yourself as a way of recharging from socializing. I identified with some of the author's struggles to connect with other people, and her desperate need for a secur...
  • Katherine Gypson
    Lane Moore has written the book I needed to exist. In some of the most raw, funny and kind writing I've ever read, Moore not only bares her life, she says the unpopular, uncomfortable truths about life today that need to be said. I rarely read books in one sitting but this was one of those experiences where it was more like meeting a fascinating, witty, honest person and just wanting the conversation to keep on going. I sobbed at the end of the b...
  • Abilouise
    I started reading this book on the subway coming home from the library because my phone went dead and so I couldn't listen to podcasts and play stupid games. I got home, walking still reading it and 2 hours later realized I was still wearing an underwire bra because I hadn't put the book down yet. At 7:15 I decided that I needed to eat something and so put down the book and started writing about how much I like this book so you would all know as ...
  • Sarah
    I don't know I guess this is well written. It's just not for me. I felt like sending her a therapy bill for having to grind through all these tedious stories about her struggle to be with other people and to be alone, and her life trauma. She's a comedian so it's passably funny sometimes but not like HAHAHA funny (at all). Just blah.
  • Huma Rashid
    I got this bc I’d seen great reviews and love memoirs, but OMG it is basically unreadable. I hated it. And I don’t like the author at all. Ugh.
  • Amanda Van Parys
    It's been a while since I've read a book [basically] in one sitting. I really enjoyed this memoir that I didn't know was a memoir when I started reading it! Sad, funny, witty, and insightful. A great read if you're struggling with your personal history and identity. A great read even if you're not.
  • Meg - A Bookish Affair
    "How to be Alone" is a memoir by Lane Moore, most well known as an advice columnist or as the host of "Tinder Live." This memoir is filled with different stories from Moore's life that run the gamut of emotions, from heart-wrenching to hilarious. I didn't know what to expect from this book but was happy that I picked it up!The book opens with a particularly sad story about how Lane Moore feels terribly alone to the point where she has no idea who...
  • Castille
    See full review at Lane Moore is the cutest human, creating relatable comedic material that is so raw, you’ll want to cry and cuddle with her— partly because she point-blank states that she craves comfortable, platonic cuddling, and partly because you’ve realized, while reading, how much you crave it, too. And by the way, yes, I can say a woman is ‘cute’ and still be a feminist. I’m not saying it in a condesc...
  • Noorilhuda
    The author's thoughts, actions and life are not interesting enough to warrant a book. Neither is her writing.Insipid, at best.Memorable quote:When you have a lot of shine to you, as so many bighearted people often do, you can attract a lot of people easily, because people are drawn to it, that kind of light. It can be so easy to forget tat not everyone deserves your shine. But when you spend so much of your earliest years being told you have no s...
  • Anne-Marie
    If you think being a conventionally attractive white woman is easy, think again. There has never been anyone on earth who’s had it harder than Lane Moore. She’s the most underprivileged person alive. Her parents were shittier than any other humans that have ever had children before or since. Her boyfriends were all monsters. Every apartment was a slum. “I truly don’t know anyone with a family who doesn’t use them like a fucking credit c...
  • Colleen
    It’s hard to find the words to explain my feelings about this book. It’s so raw and authentic and honest that some parts hurt to read. The dark humour in it both lightened things up but also highlighted the pain Lane was (and is) dealing with. If you like memoirs that hold nothing back and explore an aspect of the human condition that is key for all of us(love) then you need to read this book.
  • Andrienne
    More like 3.5 stars. It was not the book I was expecting. I should have paid attention that the author was a relationship editor whose book would most likely be about finding a romantic relationship versus just finding a connection with someone. I was very interested in her experience living independently at a young age and having the guts to pursue what she wants. She details her mercurial adventures in dating and all the while, I keep thinking,...
  • Joy
    This is more than a memoir; this book invites you to into a confessional contract, the intimate trust of a deep story well told. Balancing candor and humor and pain and bravery in equal parts, Moore's "How to Be Alone" isn't an instructional manual, it's a demonstration closely tendered. You'll probably laugh sometimes and cry sometimes and think about all the people you've loved you couldn't connect with. But the biggest gift is that you'll look...
  • Nathan Shuherk
    I read the majority of this book alone in a bar. And that’s probably the best way to read it. I don’t think this is a perfect book, but it is perfect for what I needed.
  • Stephanie LiVigni
    When I preordered this book, I felt like it was coming at just the right time in my life. Having now inhaled it in one sitting, I don't think there could have ever been a wrong time. Moore can't help but imbibe every page with humor, regardless of the subject matter, and even when I was reading through tears (which I did no less than six times, folks!) I was laughing out loud. I've struggled since high school with how to navigate romantic relatio...
  • Taylor
    The depressed, self centered ramblings of a chronically depressed woman about how horrible all her relationships are got old pretty fast. Basically a memoir of a very mundane woman with little excitement in her life. If I wasn’t reading this for a book club, it would have taken a place on my shelf for booms I couldn’t force myself to finish. It was very anti-climatic. There were a couple interesting points, but I kept finding my self skimming...
  • Katie Russo
    “You book that trip for yourself, you take yourself to dinner and enjoy it the same as if someone else took you out. You take all that love you keep giving to selfish idiots and try to throw some of it in the general direction of your own heart and you pray even a little bit of it sticks there.”...I engulfed 95% of this book in one sitting the second I got it. I waited to read the last chapter because I wasn’t ready for it to be over yet. N...
  • Michelle Mulligan
    Lane, you have crafted a modern masterpiece. Thank you so much for baring your soul with such bravery and skill. Anyone who has left a party thinking, "oh well, I guess I can say I went somewhere" will totally relate to this book.I felt like I was a tourist in a strange and mesmerizing version of my own brain. Your voice was spectacular and moving the whole way. Prince Edward Island! Not Yet Check. A Deep and Embarrassing Hunger For Romance! Chec...
  • Brendan McGuire
    I bought this book last week and it has seriously helped me in so many ways. Besides being incredibly entertaining and compelling, I relate so much to so many things written in this book and it has helped me see and feel things that have been true for me for a long time that I couldn't describe or identify. I'm in the middle of getting divorced, which has impacted my life a lot lately, and this book has helped me reconcile some of those feelings ...