Duped by Abby Ellin


Abby Ellin was shocked to learn that her fiancé was leading a secret life. But as she soon discovered, the world is full of people who aren't what they seem. From Abby Ellin's first date with the Commander, she was caught up in a whirlwind. Within six months he'd proposed, and they'd moved in together. But soon, his exotic stories of international espionage began to unravel. Finally, it all became clear: he was lying about who he was. After ...

Details Duped

Release DateJan 15th, 2019
GenreNonfiction, Autobiography, Memoir, Psychology, Relationships, Biography Memoir

Reviews Duped

  • Debra
    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas JeffersonAbby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the government and could not give her details about what his job ensued. He went on secret missions and sent her back amazing photos of his time fighting espionage overseas...
  • Valerity (Val)
    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost MarriedAfter the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she’s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and more. She tells what happened with “The Commander” as she called him, a doctor who was a Marine and took off all over doing deeds of good at a moment’s notice. All...
  • Shelly
    Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alongside the enthralling narratives. Five stars.
  • Marianne K
    Wow, a book about dupers, and liars, what's not to like!? A very interesting subject that the Liberal author could not resist using to make multiple digs at the current administration in D.C. I was willing to forgive the first time right at the beginning of the book, and then the second time a few pages later, but it wore thin after a while. If I'd wanted to read a political book skewering Donald Trump, then I would have sought one out. I really ...
  • Kayo
    Truly fascinating. While author got duped, she writes about lying and deception and how we all can fall various ways. Excellent read! Thanks to author,publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it.
  • Jennie
    3.5 stars. Really interesting look at lying liars who lie. It's crazy to think about the people around us who are living in a puddle of lies. I knew a woman in college who was a compulsive liar, but luckily I wasn't in close enough range to suffer from it. Ellin tells about her ex-fiance who told so many lies (about his job, his family, his relationships, his OTHER FIANCEE, etc) that it's not surprising that it unraveled. We like to tell ourselve...
  • Jackie
    Abby Ellin explores the reality of the pathological liar in our society in all it's permutations. She was involved in 2010 with the Commander, a man who boasted of CIA links, covert missions, and links to famous people. As a woman who was married to a pathological liar, I could readily relate to her bewilderment at being duped - these liars are eminently persuasive. The book is fascinating- exploring the concept on a personal, and then historical...
  • Robyn Murphy
    This isn’t a memoir but rather a study of human nature, and I found it completely engrossing. Ellin, an engaging writer, is able to merge raw reflections and science into something I truly wanted to read.
  • Jennifer Mcgarey
    3.5 Stars I loved the narrator’s voice. Non-fiction - interesting topic.
  • Leslie
    This book should be required high school reading. Well written - easy to read quickly. Great immersive read.
  • Amanda
    DNF at 53%
  • SundayAtDusk
    Author Abby Ellin starts off her book by telling the story of how she almost married a con man in the Navy. Apparently all her investigative journalism skills were in hibernation during the time she dated and was engaged to the man; since he told her story after story that made him sound like a superhero and a secret agent. Yes, she had doubts, doubts that were shouted out by "lonliness, desire, compromise, love, his Big Life and his upstandingne...
  • The Bookish Hooker
    Abby Ellin has been duped. The man she loved and hoped to marry has been found to be a fraud...a lying, cheating fraud. And she's about to tell you all about it and the psychology behind these career liars and what makes them do what they do. The premise of the book is fascinating. I've seen stories like hers on shows like Dr. Phil and Dateline, but never knew the victim's side of the story so in depth. We look on these cases and think they could...
  • Rhonda Lomazow
    Abby Ellin a sophisticated New Yorker an author an adult fell in love with a man she met on line .Known as The Commander a Beverly Hills dr who gave up His practice doing covert work for the government yes even medically examined osama Ben Ladin.What a man what a great guy but after their engagement all his stories began to unravel she had been duped .After leaving the relationship she begins to write about scammers hearing from people who had th...
  • Nirmala
    This book gave me perspective, I know not everyone is honest with you all the time, even I am not for sure. The author did a good job of narrating each chapter and linking it with her personal life so that we could trust her words. So far, an enjoyable read.
  • Susan bly
    Don't buy this bookI found this book to be boring and a complete waste of time. Save your money and attention. Don't buy this book.
  • Sharon
    First part of this book was very interesting when she uncovered someone she was seeing as a liar. Then the book started to drag as far as I was concerned and I lost interest. DNF
  • Marybeth Taranow
  • Deb
    DUPEDBy Abby Ellin Abby Ellin has researched a topic that touches everyone’s life. If you have ever been lied to or told a lie (and everyone has!) this should be your next read. No lie.Ellin opens with the story of the “Commander,” who wins the award for the most colossal liar I’ve ever heard of. Abby falls for him and ends up writing this book as a result. He even gets a thank you in the book’s Acknowledgments, but not before having be...
  • Csaintlouis
    I couldn't put this book down. The author starts by telling her own incredible story of falling for a seemingly perfect man - The Commander - who turns out to be a liar. Then she explores why people dupe as well as the flip side of why people believe con artists. What I love about this book is the author doesn't blame and shame people who have been duped. When a woman is conned, everyone blames the victim. But Ellin doesn't. She tackles the traum...