The Friend by Sigrid Nunez

The Friend

A moving story of love, friendship, grief, healing, and the magical bond between a woman and her dog.When a woman unexpectedly loses her lifelong best friend and mentor, she finds herself burdened with the unwanted dog he has left behind. Her own battle against grief is intensified by the mute suffering of the dog, a huge Great Dane traumatized by the inexplicable disappearance of its master, and by the threat of eviction: dogs are prohibited in ...

Details The Friend

TitleThe Friend
Release DateFeb 5th, 2019
PublisherRiverhead Books
GenreFiction, Literary Fiction, Animals, Contemporary

Reviews The Friend

  • Jaline
    Update: Friends, as I had hoped, this novel did win the National Book Award for 2018. (See comments below where Wyndy first brought it to my attention that it was nominated.) This is such a well-deserved honour for this author and this novel - I hope the Award inspires all those who may have hesitated to read this. Of the last four books I have read, three have been about loss and grief. It is another of those serendipities that I value as a read...
  • J.L. Sutton
    Sigrid Nunezs The Friend sometimes reads like a memoir, sometimes like a letter to a friend and sometimes, in an attempt to make sense of both her friends death and the dog who has come to stand in for him, a philosophical inquiry. I loved it! Nunez is smart, funny and thought-provoking as she explores life, death, writing and relationships. I know this book is not for everyone. The fact that writing (and the writing life) is such a strong focus ...
  • karen
    despite my joy over twinkle lights and tiny notebooks &etc, i was apprehensive when i got this book in my quarterly literary fiction box from pagehabit. lets just say this isnt a good time of year for me to be reading books about suicide OR books where beloved animals might die. but this isnt a tearjerker by any means - for a book about grief, its almost entirely cerebral, and most of the emotional responses to death are centered in the behavior ...
  • Paula
    I loved the Great Dane, Apollo, but unfortunately couldnt get into the book other than the sections that talked about Apollo. I loved the Great Dane, Apollo, but unfortunately couldn’t get into the book other than the sections that talked about Apollo.
  • Elyse Walters
    Update... This made the 2018 National Book Awards Longlist for Fiction. ( good choice)This was an awesome doggie good Audiobook!!!Read by...Hillary HuberIts dry... its sly..., its never dull!!!! Its also quite beautiful and touching. Its about a friend, a man, a suicide, a dog, - *Apollo*- and 3 wives....It takes place in New York... with writers and writing seminars.Theres no escaping sadness - loss - grief and death ..., but if you love dogs a...
  • Cheri
    4.5 Stars The dead dwell in the conditional, tense of the unreal. But there is also the extraordinary sense that you have become omniscient, that nothing we do or think or feel can be kept from you. The extraordinary sense that you are reading these words, that you know what theyll say even before I write them. Loss, loneliness, the writing life, friendship, grieving, memories, love in all its various forms, between people, and with our pets - in...
  • Diane S ☔
    3.5 Loss and loneliness are the main themes explored in this novel about friendship and the life of writing. When a woman loses her best friend and mentor to suicide she tries to understand his actions, deal with the loss of this person, and takes on the responsibility of caring for his aged, Great Dane, named Apollo. Apollo is grieving the loss of his former friend and master, and so together they travel a new road.The writing is elegant, spare,...
  • Cindy Pham
    Update: Bumping my rating down to 2 stars. The more I think about it the more I don't think the author's intentions were executed well.---This book was a miss for me, but Ive decided not to rate this 2 stars since I think thats just a matter of my personal preference rather than the objective quality of the book. Its less of a story and more a string of musings about literature, life, and death, and how interconnected they can be. The book aims t...
  • Michael
    My review, as well as my other thoughts on reading, also can be found on my blog.A meditation on writing, grief, and friendship, The Friend follows an unnamed woman as she comes to terms with an old friend's suicide and struggles to take care of the dog he has left behind. The novel is narrated from the woman's perspective, and each of its twelve chapters consists of a series of fragments addressing a wide array of subjects. The flimsy plot in fa...
  • Michael Ferro
    THE FRIEND by Sigrid Nunez is quite simply one of the best personal narrative novels I've come across concerning dogs and writing. In the same vein as MY DOG TULIP, Nunez alternates philosophizing between her literary musings and the unexpected care she must bestow upon a massive great dane. As a dog lover, I am a sucker for any good dog book, but Nunez's focus not only on the physical complications of a huge dog in tiny spaces, but also upon the...
  • Jerrie (redwritinghood)
    I almost bailed on this a couple of times, but it is short and has gotten such critical acclaim that I decided to power through. There is a thin story about a woman grief-stricken over the death of a friend and how she cares for his dog. But a lot of the book is just ramblings about various topics. There is also a lot of whining about how tough it is to be a writer and the state of literature today and how everybody thinks they can write, etc. ...
  • Jennifer
    This is a very me book. I'm sure plenty of people will read it and think "eh, that was fine but nothing special." But for me, Nunez gets closer to capturing the essence of grief and friendship than any author I can remember in a long time.
  • Rachel
    Even after its National Book Award win I was hesitant to pick up The Friend, which I feared would be saccharine and emotionally manipulative, the two reasons I tend to avoid books about animals. Mercifully it was nothing of the sort, and it was in fact nothing at all like I was expecting, but I was utterly enchanted by it.The Friend follows an unnamed narrator whose best friend has just committed suicide, and in the midst of processing her own gr...
  • JanB
    Worst blurb ever:...a moving story about love, friendship, grief, healing and the magical bond between a woman and her dog.Im not sure the person who wrote the blurb actually read the book. The book was much more about writing and the writerly life than it was a book about grief and the magical bond between a woman and her dog. I found certain passages beautifully written, but I didn't enjoy the book as a whole. There were some brilliant passages...
  • Lisa
    Wow. Finally. This novel (that doesnt feel like a novel) strikes three major chords. It made me laugh, ignited my mind and touched my heart. Quote: Your whole house smells of dog, says someone who comes to visit. I say I'll take care of it. Which I do by never inviting that person to visit again. Wow. Finally. This novel (that doesn’t feel like a novel) strikes three major chords. It made me laugh, ignited my mind and touched my heart. Quote:...
  • William2
    A gem. A woman writers distinguished writer friend, a great philanderer, discovers that young women are no longer physically attracted to him and kills himself. The woman is then saddled with her late friends dog, a Great Dane called Apollo. The novel in its early stages reads in part like a response to The Dying Animal by Philip Roth, but richer, each sentence stabbing and buoyant. The prose is achingly beautiful. Set in a peculiarly literary pr...
  • Carol (Bookaria)
    This was an excellent book about grief, dogs, New York, and writers. Lots of writers!I absolutely loved it and read it in two sittings, it's short and there's never a dull moment. It's all about the characters, specially the narrator, her thoughts on many subjects, from writing workshops to technology in novels, all types of ruminations, this is what made the book exceptional.Definitely one the the best books I've read this year, it was different...
  • Polly
    DNFNormally I would never review a book I didn't finish. Actually, I normally would never not finish a book. However, I hated this book so much that I had no choice. If you want to read about a main character who is mourning a sad older white man who takes advantage of his students and then justifies it because it's the women's fault because they have all the power, or read about how much harder it is to be a writer than a sex traffic victim, the...
  • Diane Barnes
    Let me say right up front that if you need a plot, find another book to read. The bare bones of this novel consists of an unnamed older woman, whose unnamed male friend commits suicide, and she adopts his Great Dane, named Apollo, to keep him from being destroyed. The only suspense being whether she will be evicted from her rent-controlled apartment because they don't allow dogs.Having said that, my next comment is that I loved this book! Musings...
  • Jenny (Reading Envy)
    The Friend by Sigrid Nunez is a finalist for the National Book Award. I first heard about it from Nadine, a guest on Episode 129 of the Reading Envy Podcast. I enjoyed the themes of the novel - grief, friendship, dogs, writing - but more than that I appreciated the style, which felt like fiction as essay or autobiographical fiction, more musings than plot. My kind of read.
  • Chrissie
    I had too many problems with this book to give it more than three stars, but there is a twist at the end that I liked a lot. This turned the book around for me. In the story, a woman tells of a man who commits suicide. It is interesting to toy with the idea of who exactly is the friend in the title. I am not going to spoil the book by giving more away. I do not think the GR book description accurately describes the book; it leads you in the wrong...
  • Sharon
    This book is unlike any Ive read before and I must admit it didnt keep my interest like I thought it would. Yes, it was a well written book there is no doubting that, but I just couldnt get into it and that was probably more to do with me than the book. Apollo the Great Dane who is pictured on the front cover of course was my favorite character. A story about friendship, heartache and loneliness. Im not going to say a lot more about this book onl...
  • Lee
    Possibly the most 3.5 book I have ever read. This might not make much sense but: I loved the sentences in The Friend but I didn't love The Friend. I thought it was beautifully crafted and fairly unique (reminded me a bit of Rachel Cusk at times) but just didn't land as it has elsewhere. I felt it tried to do something interesting and succeeded but I'm still not sure just what that something was.
  • j e w e l s
    FIVE STARSFor all you literary types out there, THE FRIEND is a philosophical and critical look at readers and writers. Also, there is a dog story woven throughout this tale of friendship and grief. However, this is not really a dog story. So, don't pick it up thinking this is a Marley and Me tale--it sure as hell is not.It is more like a series of essays, meditations, ponderings on the mind of a writer--their struggles and triumphs---a topic tha...
  • Chris
    "The Friend" is a rarity, a novel that is wistful and elegiac, but also rich with gentle humor. It's the story of a woman, her literary mentor who kills himself, a tiny apartment...and an aging Great Dane. I loved that dog. I think any dog (or cat) lover will. And I loved Sigrid Nunez's novel, with its explorations of the bonds between humans and our closest animal companions, and its digressions into books and movies we know.
  • Jennifer Tam
    This is literally one of the beat books I have ever read - I want to keep reading it over and over again and probably will! I cant even describe how beautiful I found it! This is literally one of the beat books I have ever read - I want to keep reading it over and over again and probably will! I can’t even describe how beautiful I found it!
  • Laysee
    The Friend is aptly titled. On a limited level, it is about the friendship between a nameless female narrator and her former writing professor with whom she had a romantic attachment that morphed into a companionable lifetime friendship. On a more significant level, it is about her relationship with a harlequin Great Dane, Apollo, who became her dog when her friend died suddenly. Wife number 3 of the deceased pretty much thrust the care of this 1...
  • Canadian
    There is no doubt fiction makes a better job of the truth. Doris Lessing, Under My Skin: Volume One of My AutobiographyI did what you do if youre a writer and youre obsessed about something: you turn it into a story that you hope will lay it to rest, or at least help you figure out what it means.What we misswhat we lose and what we mourn isnt this what makes us who, deep down, we truly are. if you want to get at the depths of human experience an...
  • Marialyce
    There is probably no greater mystery for family and friends when a loved one takes their own life. It leaves one bereft, oftentimes not knowing the reason only knowing the loss. In the book The Friend, Sigrid Nunez explores the feelings that come with that loss and the way in which on can hope to carry on left with both tangible and intangible reminders of the person lost. She also takes on as a group authors and does not have many pleasant thing...
  • Betsy Robinson
    For the first 150 pages this novel seems like a mosaic of New York Times personal essays or clever little observations, along with the academic trials particular to writers who make a living as writing teachers, and the specifics of living with and loving an animal. Anyone who lives in the New York City will recognize these thingsnoticing people on the subway; the idiosyncrasies of people who live with and love dogs; and if youre lucky enough, th...