How to Hold a Grudge by Sophie Hannah

How to Hold a Grudge

The first and only comprehensive examination of the universal but widely misunderstood practice of grudge-holding that will show you how to use grudges to be your happiest, most optimistic, and most forgiving self. Secretly, we all hold grudges, but most of us probably think we shouldn’t, and many of us deny that we do. To bear a grudge is too negative, right? Shouldn’t we just forgive and move on? Wrong, says self-appointed grudge guru Sophi...

Details How to Hold a Grudge

TitleHow to Hold a Grudge
Release DateJan 1st, 2019
GenreNonfiction, Self Help, Psychology

Reviews How to Hold a Grudge

  • Paromjit
    On almost a whim Sophie Hannah decides to write a book on grudges, a topic she discovers no-one else has ever written about. Holding grudges is a universal psychological phenomena and although Hannah has no mental health background or experience, she feels comfortable tackling the topic, with the help of two mental health practitioners looking over her work. She takes issue with the definition of a grudge, identifies different types and themes of...
  • Jennifer
    “Holding grudges doesn't have to fill us with hate or make us bitter and miserable. If you approach the practice of grudge-holding in an enlightened way, you'll find it does the opposite: it makes you more forgiving. Your grudges can help you honor your personal emotional landmarks, and you can distill vital life lessons from them – about your value system, hopes, needs and priorities – that will act as a series of stepping stones pointing ...
  • Anni
    I am a great fan of Sophie Hannah's psychological thrillers, so this departure from her normal fictional output is quite a surprise - and something of an eye-opener, too.I suppose we would all like to believe we are too magnanimous to hold a grudge for long:- "forgive and forget” is the noble attitude to take – but only saints are truly capable of this, so where does that leave the rest of us lesser mortals?Sophie’s lighthearted treatise do...
  • Kathy
    I truly wonder why Sophie Hannah wrote this book. Successful in her other offerings, she does not have the qualifications, credentials or training to write a book based on psychology; and it cannot be touted as a self-help book when her aim seems to be talking about herself. There may not be any current books about grudges, but is there really a need for one? Does the world need more people holding tight to every real or imagined slight?That is w...
  • Jackie
    I won this as a giveaway. It’s a fun lighthearted book with a good message. Grudges can be good, positive impacts in our lives if we can treat them that way. The two issues I had with this book was 1) it wasn’t academic or scientific. Which is fine for this type of book. The second was the types of grudges she gave examples of. They really weren’t big, huge, nasty grudges. Some weren’t really grudges. Some were more I was mildly unconvinc...
  • Sarah Connor
    I picked this up on a whim because the title was so very intriguing. It sounded like the antithesis of most of the self help books that are out there. Why would anyone want to hold a grudge? Nasty, small minded, grubby things...! I finished it thinking I neede to buy a copy for just about every teenage girl I know. This is not a book about holding onto pain or anger or ugliness. It's a book about using those things to grow as an individual, and t...
  • Joodith
    It seems to me that, maybe during a period of writer's block, the author sat doodling for a while and came up with this. I think it must be aimed at the Young Adult market, because as am Adult Adult I find the tone immature, silly and patronising.She makes the argument that grudges can actually be positive experiences, identifying different types of grudges, when – indeed, if - to let go of a grudge. In fact she takes issue with the very defini...
  • Lesley
    I received How to Hold a Grudge for free through Goodreads' Giveaways program. I had never read anything by Sophie Hannah and am not familiar with her work at all.I could see that this was supposed to be a charming, self-help book in the guise of not being overly self-help-y (for lack of a better word). But I couldn't get in to it and gave up after skimming a few chapters. If a psychiatrist or psychologist had written the book, I think I would ha...
  • Katie
    What a strange little book-that-should-have-been-a-magazine-article. I think I picked it up because I saw an interesting review (somewhere? Not on Amazon) and also because epic and permanent grudge-holding is one of my few talents. But this was a very strange book not worth the time to read, that required lots of skimming.At first, I thought it was a comical book written in the guise of a self-help book. I mean, who would really want a self-help ...
  • Jo-Ann Duff (Duffy The Writer)
    How To Hold A Grudge had me intrigued the moment I saw it. The bright yellow cover, the shiny green foil spine and the title. It was a triple threat.  But, could this book really teach me something, or is it a bit of a 'fad' self-care read with a few jokes along the way.Unfortunately, it was the latter for me, which is sad because I had such high hopes. You see, I can burn with resentment in a heartbeat if I feel excluded or a cutting comment i...
  • Dana
    As a fan of Sophie Hannah's writing I was very interested to read this book. I can't decide whether it is really a self-help book or whether it is merely written tongue-in-cheek. Having said that it was very interesting and definitely gave me food for thought while also causing me to laugh out loud on several occasions.It was well-written and I could almost hear Sophie's voice in the writing. Because of the subject it was a bit repetitive in plac...
  • Linda Munro
    I received this book via a goodreads giveaway. This is what caught my attention:“The first and only comprehensive examination of the universal but widely misunderstood practice of grudge-holding that will show you how to use grudges to be your happiest, most optimistic, and most forgiving self.:To be honest, I was truly unsure what this book would entail. Now, I will tell you what I found…Some pretty funny grudge stories sprinkled throughout....
  • Judith
    An interesting angle on staying with and working through feelings and self esteem issues. However she sometimes implies that buddhists and others who probably know better expect practitioners to forgive and forget without having fully experienced their feelings, that is just not so. She and her expert consultants are not first with that idea but presenting collecting grudges in a healthy way is original and a bit entertaining. There is a huge emp...
  • Susan
    I picked this book on a whim. I am so glad I did. Hannah makes some great arguments for the benefits of acknowledging that grudges are not always the wrong thing to have, it is how we handle them that matters. There is much we can learn from having them as often they serve to protect us. She also points out that we can be the subject of other people's grudges, something we should all keep in mind. There is a great deal to think about pertaining t...
  • Janet
    I think I am going to let this book go unfinished. I picked it up thinking it would be funny. While it is light in tone, I feel as though the author has taken a word with an agreed upon definition (she include four dictionary definitions in the text) and decided to commandeer it to mean something else. Near as I can tell, her book could be titled "How to hold onto Life Lessons - From Resentment to Contentment - the Power of Life Lessons to Transf...
  • Terri Layton
    I LOVE this book!! It felt great to know that I'm not crazy for feeling the way I do about certain situations. It's very insightful into why we react to certain situations in our lives. This book really validated my own experiences with people in my life. I recommend this book. It's entertaining and insightful!
  • Andrea
    Worth reading through to the end if only for the writer's personal and collected accounts of grudgeworthy events that validate the readers' own. I like that the writer sought additional feedback from multiple experts on the matter. I received a free digital copy of the book from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
  • Quanita
    Lessons Learned and Benefits Gained by Holding Grudges Approach your grudges by analyzing them and learning from them. It's a novel approach that I think can really work. Hannah's conversational style is easy to read and absorb. Grudge holding erases hatred and self loathing, allowing you to move on. I'm definitely going to try it.
  • Melinda Spoelstra
    Loved this book. I personally don't care that she's not a licensed therapist as I feel degrees can be over rated at times. She definitely has an interesting take on holding grudges. Not all her ideas are beneficial in my opinion but she shed great light on tackling them and working through them in a very positive manner. Really enjoyed this book.
  • Jay Hill
    Thank you to Netgalley and the publishers for the opportunity to read and review this book.As a grudge holder myself, this was a lighthearted read although it became a bit too monotonous for me. There was enough humour sprinkled throughout to keep me reading until the end. 2 stars
  • Kris Springer
    Boy was this a fun book. Really funny, insightful and inspiring about grudges. Helps the reader to think about what is most important in her life and stand up for that, and in so doing, protecting one’s self. A 4.5 out of 5 stars. This would be a great book club book.
  • Christine
    Everything you ever wanted to know about grudges, including why they can be useful ie. reminds you of behavior from which you want to stay away…. But do you really want to know all that much about grudges?
  • Stephanie
    Lighthearted and long-winded.
  • Ellen Loulou
    Fun “self-help” book.
  • Ross Cohen
    Immensely enjoyable, though her grudge-fold path isn’t for me.
  • Christine Sopko
    This balances the idea that you shouldnt hold grudges. Some people are more invested in it than others, and some people have a better memory than others. I found it intriguing and well thought out.
  • Dawn Ferencz
    I thought this was an interesting take and very readable, although I didn’t agree with all of it.
  • Brahm Kornbluth
    Great way to to start the New Year with a change of pace from my favourite mystery author... more fun than life changing, but did get me to think about real life in a different way...!
  • Brandy Wilson
    Loved everything about this book!