Flash Count Diary by Darcey Steinke

Flash Count Diary

Menopause hit Darcey Steinke hard. First came hot flashes. Then insomnia. Then depression. As she struggled to express what was happening to her, she came up against a culture of silence. Throughout history, the natural physical transition of menopause has been viewed as something to deny, fear, and eradicate. Menstruation signals fertility and life, and childbirth is revered as the ultimate expression of womanhood. Menopause is seen as a harbing...

Details Flash Count Diary

TitleFlash Count Diary
Release DateJun 18th, 2019
PublisherSarah Crichton Books
GenreNonfiction, Autobiography, Memoir, Health, Feminism, Womens

Reviews Flash Count Diary

  • Wendi
    I've found it difficult to find books or online articles about menopause that aren't heavily weighted for either favour or disdain of hormone replacement. I have my personal tendency about how I would prefer to travel this path, but I've been wanting to read personal experiences about menopause, not enter into the heavily preached (on both sides) fray. When Farrar, Straus, and Giroux offered the ARC for review, I was impressed by the synopsis bec...
  • Catherine
    There's a lot to like about Darcey Steinke's book Flash Count Diary, most especially it's piercing critique of the medicalization of menopause, the transformation of a normal life event into a disease to be cured. Her skewering of men - particular those who are doctors - who believe menopause is all about dried-up vaginas is particularly on point. Her quest to connect with other animals who experience menopause is also quite moving.But a couple o...
  • Nancy
    I won this in a Goodreads giveaway.Really good book. Sad that there is so little research on menopause. This illustrates how half the human race has to just improvise dealing with it. The idea that it is a "problem" that needs solving is so frustrating.
  • Elizabeth
    It's about damn time.
  • Mehrsa
    Really interesting perspective on menopause and our cultural relationship with aging women. The premise was to link human menopause to animals and the natural world, but I didn't find that part satisfying. I did enjoy her musings and research on femininity and old age.
  • Bookread2day
    Flash Count Diary is a new story about the menopause. Every woman should read this Flash Count Diary. Most books are about how to get rid of hot flushes, but there's nothing on the scientific and self help of menopause. This book goes into what happened to Darcey Steinke during the nights when hot flashes occurred. And what other remedies are out there on the market. The saddest thing is the terrible jokes that are said about menopause. One of th...
  • RH Walters
    I don't read books about childrearing and menopause because they are inherently interesting, but because I am desperate for help, and this book did not help. If anything, it just shows that you have to write your own way out. I am well acquainted with the hate and disregard our society has toward aging women, and the plight of whales. My small self says yes, going through menopause is better with a house in Brooklyn, teaching gigs in Paris and tr...
  • Denise Link
    Rating this is hard, because this book wasn't exactly what I wanted it to be, but it is important and essential for starting the discussion. Menopause is hard, not because we all have the kind of overwhelming hot flashes the author does (I didn't), but because all of us must go through it with little or no framework in which to experience it. What information we have before the fact, gleaned mostly through mean-spirited jokes and oblique referenc...
  • Jenna Evans
    Three paragraphs in, I was crying with the profound relief that comes with having one's experience finally, finally recognized -- not just in a commiserative way about the physical aspect (though, that too) but in the larger philosophical and spiritual questions that come up about mortality, gender, and nature. We should all be talking about this aspect of human life, and Steinke fucking nails it, is what I'm saying.
  • Nancy
    If you are in menopause or peri-menopause or really if you’re a woman at any stage of life, read this book. This is a collection of thoughtful and thought provoking chapters that have me thinking about my body, my femininity, and my humanity in new ways.
  • Jim Higgins
    4.5 stars. In a book that's both intensely personal and widerangingly literary, scientific and political, Stienke wrestles with the changes menopause has wrought in her as well as cultural denigration of postmenopausal women. She spends considerable narrative energy on killer whales, one of the few other species that goes through menopause, and a species she clearly feels a strong kinship with.
  • Bridgett
    This book is a refreshing and different look at menopause in that it never once suggests that menopause is a disease that needs to be treated with HT.
  • Lulu
    This book afforded me the opportunity to explain menopause to a 10YO boy I was babysitting for. As we joked about reverse puberty, he wondered whether you stop stinking as well as menstruating. I’ll let you know in 5 or 10 years.
  • Christine
    I burned (ha!) through this book in one sitting. It was a great read. Empowering, revelatory, heartbreaking, empathetic, poetic, wise, profane and deeply spiritual. For me it was a much needed branch to grab onto amid the eddying rapids (both emotional and physical) of my 49th year. Yaaaassss!
  • Debbie Bateman
    With startling honesty and soul feeding wisdom, Darcey Steinke helps those of us who experience the great change reframe how we think about it. Her words came over me like a fire and burned away all the nonsense. Now I can regrow with fresh green. I loved this book. Every woman should read this and not wait for menopause. Steinke writes plainly about the stereotypes that would harm us all. She delves into the complex relationships we hold with ou...
  • Stacey Lunsford
    The author started this book because she couldn't find very much written about the process of menopause except where it is treated as a "disease" that needs to be treated. She did research and each short chapter covers a different aspect of what she discovered. Not surprisingly, little research has been done (after all, it only affects women). She attends a European conference on menopause where the male doctors dominate the conversation and focu...
  • Ellyn Lem
    This is a really fascinating book about menopause, but it is not a self-help book or scientific approach; instead, Steinke focuses a lot on the natural world (whales in particular) to figure out what getting older means in our society--particularly, what are biological changes but what are social and cultural messages. Interspersed with her fascinating stories of whales and chimps is her story, dealing with the hot "flash"es from the title, but o...
  • Russell Ricard
    “Menopause is situated at the crossroads between the metaphysical and the biological. It is as much a spiritual challenge as it is a physical one,” says Darcey Steinke in Flash Count Diary: Menopause and the Vindication of Natural Life. This memoir/investigative story is an utterly fascinating, and emotionally satisfying dive into the biological, social-psychological, and ethical challenges of our understanding of menopause—especially since...
  • Shawne Taylor
    This is a powerful, deeply engaging book. Steinke is a gifted memoirist, flitting between the sharing of her own journey, the writings of others on the topic of menopause, and the delivery of data, without ever losing a cohesive, narrative thread that feels raw, real, and profound. Maybe it’s because I found this book at just the perfect time in my life, but I feel changed by it. My kindle copy is full of highlighted passages and bookmarked pag...
  • Carolyn
    I wish my mother had had this book years ago. I won this in a Goodreads contest at the right time. My male Dr had only said, "Your only alternative is Estrogen. But with most of my relatives already having or gone through a form of cancer or other. Hormones did not seem quite right for my bloodline. This book offered a couple of alternatives that work as well or better. It is an honest look at what so many have considered taboo. I gave this copy ...
  • Laura
    This book is annoying, provocative, hopeful, real, encouraging and profound all rolled into one. There is a lot for me to think about here, especially as I finished reading about the connection between females in the animal kingdom and human females next to a wild, female mallard duck. She climbed up onto the pier and slept 10 feet away from me in a very stiff wind. I think she was too exhausted to notice I was there. I felt some kind of odd fema...
  • Naomi Davidson
    This is a deeply feminist book. About menopause. Which, for the most part has only been explored and explained by men or western medicine which is largely male dominated. Most often it’s symptoms have not been studied...not clinically proven...or are yet to be proven clinically. Something that all women on the planet experience! As I start my own path this book provided a larger look at the world of experiences which helps to normalize instead ...
  • Valerie
    Not sure what I expected but it definitely wasn’t this narrative. However, I appreciated her cultural narrative and weaving together various concepts central around our cultural understanding of menopause. 3.5 stars
  • Monica
    Such an interesting read- I was fascinated with her study of female elder whales and their important roles in their communities. I feel Steinke’s rage and the ways in which menopause is addressed in medicine.
  • Carolee Wheeler
    a beguiling mixture of horror and empowerment, minute and broad. Essential reading.
  • Cristie Underwood
    This is one of the few books out there that discusses menopause honestly and openly. It has long been treated as a problem that should be ignored, so it is nice to have a book with honest information.
  • Sally
    I wish I read this years ago. Menopause is power and aging is sexy, beautiful and desirable.
  • Tara Ethridge
    Part science, part memoir, all honest and so refreshing. I especially loved the comparison between female humans and female killer whales.
  • Jenni Link
    I really wanted to like this book, having picked it up after reading a few thought-provoking excerpts and interviews. It has its insightful moments, but overall it’s just not very good. The author’s entitlement is a constant distraction, as are the cultural criticism contortions she puts various texts and situations through to underline her/our oppression. She obviously read widely on the topic before writing, but doesn’t engage much with t...