Going Dutch by James Gregor

Going Dutch

Exhausted by dead-end forays in the gay dating scene, surrounded constantly by friends but deeply lonely in New York City, and drifting into academic abyss, twenty-something graduate student Richard has plenty of sources of anxiety. But at the forefront is his crippling writer’s block, which threatens daily to derail his graduate funding and leave Richard poor, directionless, and desperately single.Enter Anne: his brilliant classmate who offers...

Details Going Dutch

TitleGoing Dutch
Release DateAug 20th, 2019
PublisherSimon Schuster
GenreFiction, LGBT, Romance, Contemporary

Reviews Going Dutch

  • Larry H
    2.5 stars.There's often a tremendous amount of anxiety around being single. No one wants to be alone, especially when it seems as if all of their friends are coupling (or even throupling). But when date after date seems to go nowhere, how do we handle our feelings of jealousy, inadequacy, and fear that we're destined to spend the rest of our lives by ourselves?This is just one of the crises plaguing Richard, the protagonist of James Gregor's debu...
  • Dennis
    First and foremost, I see that there's a lot of mixed reviews for this title, so I must assume that either they aren't: a) queer folks who identify in the LGBTQ+ community; and/or b) never stepped foot in New York City—the premise of the book is dating in NYC and literally everyone dines out instead of cooks when your apartment is the size of a normal person's closet.I just had to state that clarifying statement before I began my review of Jame...
  • peachygirl
    Received an ARC from Netgalley in exchange for an honest review. I voluntarily read and reviewed this book. All thoughts and opinions are my own. Going Dutch was a decent enough read. But the protagonist was very unlikable. The only reason I didn't dnf this book was because of the extremely eloquent narrative style. The story revolves around a 20 something single gay guy pursuing his Doctorate in New York with a very low self-esteem and seemingly...
  • Theresa
    My favorite book I've read so far this year! I'm slightly disappointed that "Going Dutch" has been getting mixed reviews before its official release date (August 20, 2019). With that being said, I can understand why some readers might not be jumping for joy, especially when it comes to the ending. Usually I don't like reading about love triangles but this one was a riot! I like books that perfectly balance humor and heart. The dialogue is snappy ...
  • Bandit
    Always a pleasure to be the first to review the book and have nice things to say. I almost passed by this book, the dating woes of New York millennials didn’t seem especially alluring. But something did…enough to pick it up. And I ended up liking it considerably more than I expected, so let’s call this one a pleasant surprise. And also a most auspicious debut. The writing is, in fact, absolutely terrific, absolutely the shining star here, m...
  • Haley
    This was rather disappointing. Gay man (who may actually be bisexual, but that's a horribly bad word in this book, because how dare anyone actually be bisexual) squanders fellowship on expensive OKCupid dates and whines about it, then meets a well-off depressed woman and takes advantage of her but plays the victim when she thinks he cares more than he does. It's just wholly toxic. There's not a single healthy relationship in this entire book, and...
  • Tess
    GOING DUTCH is a super fun, super inside-baseball look at dating and academic life in NYC. I can’t deny that most of my enjoyment from the book was because I was delighted by all of the Columbia University references, restaurants and bars I know around the city, and my familiarity with the general vibe of the book. The main character, Richard, is extremely un-endearing. You probably won’t like him, and you should know that right off the bat. ...
  • Moony MeowPoff
    Hard HARD Pass.This was just a pain to read. I've seen some reviews who loves it and some who don't. For me this book had an okay writing style so it was pretty easy to follow, and that was technically the only thing i liked about it.What i didn't like about it? The Main character Richard goes around complainging and sulking because yes the dates dosen't go that well, he gets a writers block ect ect and that life isin't fair. But he complains all...
  • Jypsy
    Well, this story is...??? Going Dutch is deliberately infuriating on an epic level. Richard is the main character, and he's just a dolt. He's a grad student in NYC with a paper due so he can get paid, but he's got writer's block. Plus, his love life is in the toilet. He's gay and can't find a good man. Meanwhile, everyone else around him are happily dating, working, succeeding, etc. Money is no problem for them, yet Richard is broke. He's not as ...
  • Mel
    Though the writing was often too smart for its own good and many readers will likely find the tone and the main character himself altogether intolerable, I enjoyed this awkward look at Richard's overlapping love & professional lives and the many asides to how depressing and difficult dating in the NYC is. Pile on writer's block and the exhausting city summer and Richard is soon floundering. He is probably relying too much on his school colleague ...
  • Tuti
    intelligent, subtle, and fun to read love tringle story in nyc. graduate student richard has problems concentrating on his work in medieval italian literature, rooted in his doubts regarding the meaning of it all. he meets anne, a smart colleague in the department and befriends her. she helps him a lot with his work, and a relationship starts building between these two lonely people - even though richard is actually gay. he then meets blake, a la...
  • ronnie
    Rating: 2/5Queer: yep!ARC: I received an ARC from Netgalley in exchange for an honest review.Summary: A whiny gay man, Richard, disregards other peoples' feelings and somehow manages to get two people interested in him.Review:I reaaaaaaaaaaally wanted to like this, but I couldn't get into it. Richard was a hard main character to like, to be honest, and felt sort of like they were discounting bisexuality. I don't know. It didn't sit well with me. ...
  • Ryan
    ✦ 🆁🅴🆅🅸🅴🆆 ✦ • “Going Dutch” by James GregorThe love triangle is a romantic staple that is so tried or true, you almost can’t go wrong. Typically, a woman (sometimes a man) is forced to choose between two suitors, which is a device to show the protagonists true feeling, or growth. Scarlet, Katniss, Bella, Bridget, Joey, Ilsa: all chose one or the other. I’m thinking of my favorite love triangles: the musical “Cabar...
  • Addy
    I hated everyone in this book, which I think is intentional.
  • Christine
    In all honesty, I had a hard time making progress through the book. The main character, Richard, is COMPLETELY unbearable. Self-absorbed, and all around, just a M E S S. This is why I'm giving this book 4 stars. Although the character is annoying at best (outright despicable at worst), the book gives you the satisfaction that his messy actions leads him to a deeper and deeper downward spiral he just can't get out of. Gregor's writing style is elo...
  • Julie Fogarty Oldbury
    This book is by far the most beautifully crafted, well-written novel I have read in a long time. Five (5) Stars on the writing. I thought this book would have been more of a rom-com story, but I was pleased that it was a more dramatic reflection on the internal contentment, desires, insecurities, and resentments one can have in their relationships with others (and themselves). The characters were raw, seemingly not designed to be any more than th...
  • Chris Marro
    One of my favorite aspects of this book was how well James Gregor integrated New York City into the narrative. It was almost as if New York City was a character in the book and as a millennial who is a life long New Yorker the city descriptions/integration really stood out to me. The main character, Richard, is often depicted as selfish and self-destructive which made him seem thoroughly unlikeable in my opinion. But it also seemed that this self...
  • Jodi
    I often read novels where someone's traveling through space, a vampire, or trying to solve a murder. Going Dutch offers none of these things; however, there is Richard, the protagonist, a spacy bloodsucker who will make some readers wonder why he has not yet been murdered. Going Dutch follows him through 6 eventful months of his life. When we meet Richard, he is a lonely 29-year-old graduate student in New York City who is suffering from writer's...
  • Kaleigh
    Going Dutch is the most accurate book I've read about what it's actually like to be in grad school. It tells the story of Richard, a scholar of the humanities, as he struggles to finish his thesis. He deals with all of the real things that often get left out of fiction about students: the meagre pay, the ever-looming pressure to complete competent work, and—most importantly—the disgusting need to compare ourselves to our peers, who always see...
  • Marissa
    5 stars for the writing style. 4 stars for the story. thank you to the Publisher and Netgalley for my early copy of this book, I have never read a book that depicts bad decisions and frustrating characters in a more beautiful and stylistic manner, James Gregor really has a gift for writing. Richard is the main character. A gay man living in New York and experiencing writers block while depending on his graduate funding. Richard is a hot mess who ...
  • Dominic
    Thanks so much to Simon and Schuster for providing an ARC in exchange for an honest review!In his debut novel, Going Dutch, published this August, James Gregor delves into the modern dating scene in all its awkwardness, leaps of faith, failures and deceits. Typical for this genre of storytelling, the characters are not entirely likable; and with all of the characters' privilege, I expected them (or wanted them) to have more foresight.That said, I...
  • Pablo Allen
    It started out decent enough as a critique of both the modern-day gay dating scene and academia. Gregor is a great talent and has a future ahead of him. I love his voice and style. However, despite this, he fails to create empathy or even likeablity for any of the characters, and I eventually found myself not even caring what happened to them. Yet I continued reading captivated by his style. I think I wanted to like this book more than I did. It ...
  • Lauren Archer
    I hate to write negative reviews, but this book was complete nonsense to me. I am sure there is a place for this book in the world, but not with this 40-something woman.Thank you NetGalley and Simon & Schuster for an Advanced Reader's Copy of this book for an honest review. For my full review please visit my blog at: http://obsessedbookaholic.com/2019/08... I hate to write negative reviews, but this book was complete nonsense to me. I am sure t...
  • Laura
    Contrived suckery
  • Kristina Leonard
    Cute enough romance following the perspective of a gay academic, but I was ready for it to end long before it did.
  • LS
    Going Dutch tells the story of a dysfunctional love triangle set in the modern world of online dating, fluid sexuality, and academia. Richard is a too-smart-for-his-own-good graduate student who is struggling with his finances and writer's block. Enter Anne, a depressed well-to-do woman who has as much insecurity as she does money. Richard basically uses Anne to finance his lifestyle. Then he becomes romantically involved with Blake, an actor/att...
  • Sunny !
    A pretentiously-written narrative detailing the complexities of a Grad student's dating life, as he explores his sexuality and fights off writers block.The writing slaps you in the face from the very first page. It's distinct, and attention-grabbing, warping you in with creative descriptors and try-hard phrasing. I think the writing is phenomenal. It has an academic flair to it, one that could make you love it or hate. But I personally loved it.W...
  • Claire Em
    I had moderate expectations for this book, but I actually found it insufferable. The main character, Richard, is behind on his doctorate deadlines and is facing a loss of funding. However, this book is written in third person but the vocabulary is so robust that it doesn’t make sense that this isn’t from Richard’s point of view. The vocabulary use and tone comes across as haughty, elitist, and pretentious because it’s written from Richard...
  • Sydney Adin
    Preorder Going Dutch now and then relish the subtle layers of wit as you consume a novel that poignant and uncomfortably defines the age we are living in. Going Dutch is witty and evocative, exploring the theme of self exploration against the backdrop of greed, list, and self preservation. Richard is a character who claims to desire doing everything possible to avoid “going dutch” - to, instead, be one half of a whole with someone, even if th...
  • Marie
    This is the story of our generation, where we are not capable of making a choice, because there is too much choice. It's the point of view of an moron, but I bet that we've all been in his place, or will be. Very decent first book, annoying characters making wrong choices but that we still like.