Consent by Donna Freitas


In this "compelling and disturbing" true story (Rebecca Traister), a young woman's toxic mentor develops a dark, stalking obsession that disrupts her career -- and her peace of mind. Donna Freitas has lived two lives. In one life, she is a well-published author and respected scholar who has traveled around the country speaking about Title IX, consent, religion, and sex on college campuses. In the other, she is a victim, a woman who suffered and s...

Details Consent

Release DateAug 13th, 2019
PublisherLittle, Brown and Company
GenreNonfiction, Autobiography, Memoir, Feminism

Reviews Consent

  • Erin
    Thanks to Netgalley and Little, Brown &Company for a digital galley in exchange for an honest review. This is the type of non fiction that can be really difficult to rate. The author, Donna Freitas is detailing the lengthy pursuit of a stalker during her grad school time at Georgetown University. This happened in the 90's and as Donna takes us through the increasingly difficult situation that she lived in, it becomes increasingly clear how far he...
  • Anita Pomerantz
    Consent is a brilliantly rendered memoir authored by a woman, Donna Freitas, who dreamed of being a professor. Unfortunately, she encountered a huge hurdle to realizing her dreams when a professor, a priest no less, became obsessed with her. Let’s just say that the most compelling part of this book is the complete candor with which it is written, but that is closely followed by the beautiful use of language. Parts of the story are poetically re...
  • Jenna Bookish
    My thanks to Little, Brown and Company for sending me an advance copy of this book in exchange for an honest review. All opinions are my own and are not influenced by the publisher. Consent was a difficult read in some respects; it was difficult to see the author recount her trauma, but more than that, it was difficult to think about the excuses she internally made for her stalker before things escalated out of control. Most women have been the...
  • Emerald Stacy
    While not a fun read, this book is incredibly powerful. The author finds her voice to speak her truth, including the self doubt that comes from long term gaslighting. Absolutely incredible.
  • Rae
    Read this review and others on my blog: https://thriftybibliophile.comConsent: A Memoir of Unwanted Attention by Donna Freitas is Donna’s account of the stalking and unwanted attention she faced as a graduate in college.Donna is a well-published author, a scholar, and knowledgeable in her field, of sex, religion, and consent on college campuses. She’s a sought after speaker and thrives in academia.Donna is a doctor, a daughter, and a friend. ...
  • Steff Pasciuti
    Consent by Donna Freitas is a rough book to read. Detailing the account of a young woman pursuing a PhD in her early twenties as she is subjected to the unwanted attentions of a Professor in her program. It is a very personal story to the author and yet it is a story that, while some pieces are changed and some have come out worse than others, many women in the world have experienced at one point or another. Whether it is the case of a stalker, a...
  • Christina Billhartz
    This book is a testament to the voices of sexual harassment victims that are silenced every day!Freitas was a bright-eyed PhD candidate at Georgetown who was inspired and passionate about her future as a professor when her life started to take a dark turn. Eager to get the most out of her studies, she frequently attended her professors' office hours to further engage with the material. Professor L., a Catholic priest whose stature at the universi...
  • Janet
    I received a DIGITAL Advance Reader Copy of this book from #NetGalley in exchange for an honest review. From the publisher, as I do not regurgitate the contents or story of books in reviews, I let them do it.A powerful memoir about a young woman's toxic relationship with her mentor, an acclaimed professor, whose dark, stalking obsession altered her future forever.Donna Freitas has lived two lives. In one life, she is a well-published author and r...
  • Donna Hines
    While I appreciate the fact this is an intelligent young woman who experienced what she deemed as 'unwanted' actions from a man I cannot understand the notion of still classifying oneself as a victim.For those of us who lived through abuse as in my case with a malignant narcissist and with a MPA/CJ degree who was left for dead with three kids I can say the last word I'd use to describe myself is as a victim.If you survive abuse you are a survivor...
  • Jennifer
    This memoir is complicated for me to review. It tells a story of how the author's professor, who was also a priest, mentor and department chair, chose and stalked his prey, a young woman eager to learn. There were several insights about harassment and abuse that I gleaned from the book, and I've included those notes below. But the book was difficult to read in part because of the content but mostly because the author drags out parts of the story ...
  • Hectaizani
    This was a really difficult book to read and will be difficult to review. The author describes her experiences in graduate school where she was harassed and stalked by one of her professors. This professor, despite being an esteemed scholar, a department chair and a Catholic priest, took advantage of the author's naivety and relative innocence. She suffered in silence because he made her believe that it was all her fault.This is an incredibly pow...
  • freckledbibliophile
    Consent by Donna Frieitas is a must-read. In this case, the perpetrator was a professor, a teacher of the most eminent rank. With his social distinction, he taught Frieitas the meaning of how one moment of recollection leads to a recrudescence of the event and the pain that's associated with it.At the opening of the book, when the professor continued to harry Frietas about opening the package and reading his essay, I knew this was getting to be a...
  • Sonia Reppe
    The stalker-Priest/Professor didn't get violent or sexual in his harassment; yet it's crazy how he just didn't get it. Most people get the hint when someone stops returning your calls and keeps refusing your invitations; when someone avoids you, it becomes apparent that you should move on. But this guy, and intellectual person so does not get it. Even when Donna started saying "no," over and over, he refused to hear the no, and accused her of "be...
  • ashley lloyd spanton
    Review: I knew going into this it would be an emotional read, but it somehow escaped my knowledge at first that this was an actual memoir. Someone actually lived these words. That knowledge makes these words so much heavier.This was a memoir, but this was written like fiction and then like poetry and then like an academic essay and it was easy to forget that it was a true story. Freitas paints every detail very vividly and flourishes the prose in...
  • Noorilhuda
    Full of red flags (on both sides.)Thanks to the publisher for the ARC. All the best in life to the author.Memorable (frightening / disturbing / well-written) passages:- No amount of sexual liberation, freedom, confidence, intellectual talent, joy or voracity would save me from going through what I did with my mentor. When it happened to me, no amount of sexual empowerment could have prevented me from becoming the silenced, anxiety-ridden, nearly ...
  • David
    recaps from the distance of 20 years or so a shockingly persistent stalker [professor, big shot in her doctoral program, priest] from her grad school days, with lasting negative effects on her academic career. Secondary theme of how poorly the school handled the situation once she finally got the clarity needed to report the faculty member.She's not in touch with him [thankfully], so the "other side" so to speak wasn't presented, but i would have...
  • Madeline Nelson
    Quality of Writing: 6/10Pace: 5/10Plot Development: N/ACharacters: N/AEnjoyability: 5/10Insightfulness: 8/10Ease of Reading: 8/10Overall Rating: ⭐⭐⭐I thought about giving this book four stars. It is quite good. I just couldn't let go of the fact that it dragged after a while, and while I understand this is a memoir, there is only so much introspection I can take. After a while I would start to wish she'd move on to another topic besides her...
  • Samantha
    Rating: 3.5Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for providing me with an advanced copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.TRIGGERS: sexual abuse, stalking, PTSD“Consent” is a book about telling a woman’s truth. Donna Freitas suffered a form of sexual abuse in grad school and it destroyed her life as she knew it. She tells the reader exactly, step by step, how this person took a calculated measure to infect every inch of her w...
  • Alyssa
    I received this book as a giveaway from Hatchette book group, thank you to them and Donna Freitas! I would give this a 3.5 star review. The story’s backbone is completely horrific for Donna to have to experience, or anyone, for that matter. I commend her for telling her story, and for sticking up for herself and speaking out against her stalker and graduate school. It takes a strong person to bring a dark story to light.While I enjoyed the book...
  • Heidi | Paper Safari Book Blog
    I struggled through this book. While the story was engrossing I felt that Freitas went off on tangents that just went on and on. I don't really care how many people she kissed at prom nor does it really do much for a story about a professor's inappropriate behavior. It almost seems like she is trying to build a case for why his behavior is wrong which makes me sad. Stalking is brutal in the sense that it takes away your sense of security, you fin...
  • emmy
    (I was provided an ARC of this book by Netgalley.)This is a timely and important everyday horror story. It's a skillfully written book. I appreciated that there was no physical violence on the page, because it makes this book an accessible learning tool for anyone wanting to build awareness about the risks faced by people who are not men in everyday situations. Social awareness about how commonplace stalking and violence is seems to be increasing...
  • Tina Parmer
    Consent is a beautifully written memoir by a woman that was stalked by a professor who was also a priest during graduate school. This professor was her mentor and an integral part of her getting a PHd. Her dream was to also become a professor and this professor took this dream from her. This book made me feel so angry that this man continued to make her life so miserable for so long while she continued to wonder what “she had done”. She was y...
  • Avid (Maria) Reader
    This is a story based on the authors experience with sexual harassment by one of her professors. And not just any professor, but a priest, who by no means could not accept the author’s nos.The author provides the hurdles and obstacles she had to go through, at first to try and deal with this on her own for 1yr before speaking up. Not her family or friends knew anything that was going on. Second, not having that support system from the Universit...
  • Brian
    Donna is a doctorate student who encounters an older professor who is a celibate priest. At first, Donna and her Professor, named "L" have a nice interaction, but the interaction quickly turns to uncomfortable and then to stalking. Donna's memoir describes these interactions with this man and how it made her feel and the reception about the situation that she receives from the school that she went to. The book is very engaging and tells of a very...
  • Alexis Nascimento
    This book is difficult to review. On one hand, it’s an honest and troubling story of a young woman who terrorized by her professor, her mentor — a priest. It recognizes the infuriating actions of institutions like universities and the Catholic Church. On the other hand, it ate at me that the author never stood up for herself the minute lines were crossed. Never said anything to her family or peers. I guess that’s what makes the topic of con...
  • Chava
    Consent is a timely and important memoir. Frietas holds nothing back, and the result is a raw and unflinching read that may be quite difficult for some to get through without screaming at the top of their lungs about the injustices she and so many like her have endured. While I can't recommend this book to everyone due to its heavy subject matter, I do recommend it without any hesitation to anyone seeking to understand power dynamics, sexual harr...
  • Jim
    I won this book on Goodreads. This book is difficult to read but engaging at the same time. A stalker who never crosses the line in full on physical/sexual abuse but enough to become a menace. This is what makes it so difficult. His actions can be misconstrued as just being a friend, an obsessive one but just a friend. Clearly this is not the case, he is a compulsive stalker but he knows enough to plan things out to seem like someone who isn't. I...
  • Danny
    This story was a tough one to read but definitely a powerful one. There are so many women affected by harassment, unwanted sexual advances or attention everyday. It made me recall the "me too" movement we saw on social media not too far back. This is a very important story to tell and I appreciate the author telling her story. It's hard for me to give a rating to someone's personal life and story. It's also hard to say you enjoy the book with suc...
  • Virginia
    From my perspective as the grandmother of several future grad students, this strikes me as a true-life horror story. I held my breath from page 41 on for about 200 pages, relaxed for a few seconds when (view spoiler)[ Dr. H showed up (hide spoiler)], felt as I'd been dropped through a hidden trap door, and then encountered (view spoiler)[Tootsie. We've all worked with a Tootsie at some point - I can still feel that Henckel in my back (hide spoile...