Motherhood So White by Nefertiti Austin

Motherhood So White

In America, Mother = WhiteThat's what Nefertiti, a single African American woman, discovered when she decided she wanted to adopt a Black baby boy out of the foster care system. Eager to finally join the motherhood ranks, Nefertiti was shocked when people started asking her why she wanted to adopt a "crack baby" or said that she would never be able to raise a Black son on her own. She realized that American society saw motherhood through a white ...

Details Motherhood So White

TitleMotherhood So White
Release DateSep 20th, 2019
GenreNonfiction, Autobiography, Memoir, Race, Parenting, Feminism

Reviews Motherhood So White

  • LaToya King
    I received a DIGITAL ADVANCE READER’S COPY of this book from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.I recently read a tweet that identified white privilege as everyone learning to empathize and cater to whiteness. Unfortunately, we live in a society that does just that; we teach people to empathize and cater to whiteness in fairytales (think Goldilocks), in religion (white Jesus), and even in parenting. As a mother of two, I have seen the l...
  • Andre
    A book that will be a useful resource for Black women considering adoption........ Wasn’t it Toni Morrison who said, “if you can’t find the book you want to read, it’s your responsibility to write it.” Well that is exactly what Nefertiti Austin has done. Wanting to be a mother, Nefertiti found scant resources and texts available centered around Black women adopting Black children. So this book details her journey to motherhood through a...
  • Jenny (Reading Envy)
    This memoir of adoption and motherhood by Neferiti Austin also provides a much needed voice of black women adopting black children. She covers the process, dealing with birth families, dealing with new forms of mansplaining, and funny moments like teaching her son to pee standing up.I think the idea that unifies her experience with other experiences I've heard from adoptive parents is the importance of the community that emerges, which isn't alwa...
  • Mandi Grasmeyer
    Laughed, cried, and learned so much from this book. So very grateful people like Nefertiti choose to share their stories! See full review at:
  • Janet
    I received a DIGITAL Advance Reader Copy of this book from #NetGalley in exchange for an honest review. From the publisher, as I do not regurgitate the contents or story of books in reviews, I let them do it. When Nefertiti Austin, a single African-American woman, decided she wanted to adopt a black baby boy out of the foster care system, she was unprepared for the fact that there is no place for black women in the “mommy wars.” Austin set ...
  • Stacie C
    I remember what it was like being pregnant with my son, flipping through the pages of What To Expect When You’re Expecting and preparing my house for a newborn. I was overwhelmed and excited. Motherhood hadn’t been a dream of mine, but with my husband I wanted an addition to my family. I didn’t gravitate towards books about motherhood having helped raise my two nephews and being around younger children throughout my life. It’s now after b...
  • Jade
    I read quite a few parenting books when I was pregnant with my first child back in 2013, but quickly found that most of them followed a strict pattern, centering the middle class white American woman. I ended up resorting to searching for more relatable (to me) motherhood blogs, and also writing my own stories, because I couldn’t see myself in a lot of the content I was reading, and/or it made me feel as if I were failing motherhood in some way...
  • Nancy
    Advanced Reading Copies of Motherhood So White by Nefertiti Austin were provided to my library book club by the Book Club Cookbook through their Galley Match. Along with receiving copies of the book for all our regular book club members we also had a Skype visit with the author!Austin's experience as a single black woman adopting an African American boy inspired her to write her memoir. She discovered a dearth of books that spoke to her personal ...
  • Kayo
    So informative. Great information if your looking to foster or adopt . Loved the realness. Like to know an update on authors life now. Nice book. Thanks to author,publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free,it had no bearing on the rating I gave it.
  • Basma
    When I first saw the title I immediately requested an advanced copy because I realized out of all the books I read that deal with motherhood in any way; the experience of being a mother, of not being a mother, of choosing to be childfree, of choosing adoption..etc, non of the ones I read or the ones I am able to find and access as easily are written by Black or Brown women. I hope this books gets as hyped as the rest of the motherhood books becau...
  • Erica
    This book was recommended to me after I read All the Sweeter: Families Share Their Stories of Adopting from Foster Care by Jean Minton. Both books detail the experience of adopting through the U.S. Foster system, with a focus on California. However, Ms. Austin's book is a much more personal accounting of not only her journey into motherhood, but her own life story as a Black woman and the experiences that impacted her decision to adopt a Black bo...
  • Susie Dumond
    When Nefertiti Austin set out to adopt, she searched for resources for single Black moms of adopted children. She wasn't surprised by the dearth of materials. But she was surprised when she couldn't even find race-neutral resources. Based on the total lack of narratives like hers, she sat down to write the memoir/resource the world was missing. Motherhood So White is such an important book, and it will be crucial to many mothers and children that...
  • Viral
    Thanks to Sourcebooks for the ARC at BEA 2019, and to Nefertiti Austin for signing my copy!I really really loved this book. It was a powerful memoir from Austin about her childhood and journey into becoming a single adoptive parent, and seeing the inherent sexism, racism, and classism within the adoption system and community. Austin discusses at length how we have been conditioned to view motherhood as a white concept, something that is the domai...
  • Lara Lillibridge
    "Motherhood is so white and in need of a revolution."This memoir is situated in history, examining the effects of racism in Black families as well as telling one woman's story of becoming an adoptive single mama. It's an intelligent book—Austin is a US History college professor, and her book is incredibly nuanced—her story spans through generations in order to help us understand where we are today. But it's also heart-warming and funny. Austi...
  • Biography & Memoir
    Author and activist Nefertiti Austin (ETERNITY, ABANDON) recounts her struggles in childhood and her victories as a determined black woman who chose to adopt two children, presenting revelations about the subtleties of institutional racism as it affects black mothers and their kids.Austin was raised for a time by her parents, both of whom battled with poverty and addiction. When those demons got the better of them, she and her brother were taken ...
  • Lynn
    Today's post is on Motherhood So White: A Memoir of Race, Gender, and Parenting in America by Nefertiti Austin. It is 304 pages long and is published by Sourcebooks. The cover is white with a black mother and her child on the bottom left corner. The intended reader is someone who is interested in adoption, race, equality, and feminism in America. There is some mild foul language, no sex, and no violence in this book. There Be Spoilers Ahead.From ...
  • Megan
    This book could not have come at a better time. I have a friend going through the foster care/adoption process and I realized there was so little I knew about how it worked. Rather than constantly badgering her to explain it to me, I'm glad there is a book that can help do it for her - while also telling a compelling memoir of motherhood that is rarely available on shelves. Nefertiti is a singe, black woman who decided to adopt a black boy throug...
  • Crystal Arzu
    Motherhood So White, written by Nefertiti Austin, is a memoir about the journey of adopting her son August. The story starts with the all too common scenario of the broken African American household. Both of Nefertiti’s parents were in and out of her life and were never able to give her the unconditional love and stability that she and her brother needed. The siblings soon moved in with their grandparents and were given all the necessities that...
  • Kat (Why Read)
    Do not judge single black mother, Nefertiti Austin, by first appearances. She is a successful businesswoman able to upgrade cars every other year. She rose up from a childhood filled with changing homes of toxic parents and their drug abuse. Nefertiti has never been married and doesn't rely on a man for income. She has children but has never given birth. When she decided she wanted to be a mother she pursued a nontraditional route and her journey...
  • Olga Barnes
    Oh, how I loved this book! I don't even know where to start! I try to educate myself about the different ways that people experience life. I am an immigrant whose first language is not English. I am a single mother of two boys (not by choice). I am a public school employee which allows me just enough to support my family, There was a time in my life when I was a recipient of WIC and my child was on Title 19 insurance. I have never not have my own...
  • Angela
    I don't typically read memoirs, but I've been trying to branch out and read more books by and about women, especially women that have and are living lives that are different than mine. Nefertiti Austin's book fits that bill and then some."Black mothers lived in a different America from white mothers." This entire book is a study in love. She found so few written examples of single black women adopting black children that they were not directly re...
  • Susan
    Moving and eye-opening look at black motherhood. The author describes the cultural tradition of informal adoption in the African-American community and how though she herself was raised in such a family-she was raised by her grandparents- that mirrored a white middle class one it wasn't recognized as a true family. Feeling the desire to become a parent she trained as a foster parent. Discovering that black boys were the least likely to be adopted...
  • Cheryl Klein
    When Austin didn’t see her experience as a single Black adoptive mother reflected in the parenting or adoption canons, she did what writers and women of color have done for ages: She wrote it herself. She traces the havoc that slavery unleashed on Black families to a long history of open kinship adoptions within her community. She herself was adopted by her grandparents while she maintained a complicated relationship with her parents. None of t...
  • Maria Motley-Arnold
    Nefertiti Austin's Motherhood So White is a book I've been wanting ever since I became a mother. Although our lives are very different, I've yearned for books that spoke on motherhood from the perspective of women of color. Popular voices in motherhood are often white and people who address the issues unique to black and brown mothers are few and far between. .The parenting challenges I face with my white-presenting daughters are very different t...
  • Sharon
    3.5 starsMotherhood So White is a memoir of adoption by Nefertiti Austin, who offers her perspective as a single African American woman.Austin shares her personal experience of the process of adopting her two children. She comments on how she had to pave her own way, since most of the literature, research, and advice she found centered on white adoption, but precious little seemed to address the unique concerns that she would face.She rounds out ...
  • Becca Murray
    Wow! This was such an outstanding and thought provoking memoir. Nefertiti Austin’s incredible story of choosing to adopt as a single Black woman was not only beautifully written but a truly impactful treatise on raising Black boys and girls in America and the cultural biases that are placed upon single motherhood. It is probably going to be the book that I can’t stop recommending people read. Much like Angela Garbes Like a Mother: A Feminist ...