You're Not Listening by Kate Murphy

You're Not Listening

At work, we’re taught to lead the conversation.On social media, we shape our personal narratives.At parties, we talk over one another. So do our politicians.We’re not listening.And no one is listening to us.Despite living in a world where technology allows constant digital communication and opportunities to connect, it seems no one is really listening or even knows how. And it’s making us lonelier, more isolated, and less tolerant than ever...

Details You're Not Listening

TitleYou're Not Listening
Release DateJan 7th, 2020
PublisherCeladon Books
GenreNonfiction, Psychology, Self Help, Personal Development

Reviews You're Not Listening

  • Paige
    How do feel when you leave a conversation feeling like the person really absorbed what you shared with them? How do you feel when you leave a conversation feeling like the person wasn’t paying attention or didn’t care what you were saying to them?This is one of the most impactful books I have read all year. The message of true listening in You’re Not Listening serves to emphatically renovate the way we interact with each other. Kate Murphy...
  • Brenda -Traveling Sister
    I am kicking off the new year here with my first review for one of the most eye-opening, powerful and important books I read in 2019. It's an easy, fast read with a lot packed into it. This was a Traveling Sister group read and one of the most valuable discussions we have had. I can't recommend this one enough!!The World is just too noisy for me with everyone talking and no one listening so I jumped at the chance to read and discuss this one with...
  • Debra
    This is an easily readable, enjoyable and thought-provoking book. I know some may look at the name and think "What? A book about listening or not listening. How can that be interesting?" Well, it is. Working in a field that is all about listening, I found that this book reinforced, most of what I already knew and had been taught in graduate school, but it was also an eye-opener for me in that I did not always utilize the skills I had been taught ...
  • Lindsay - Traveling Sister
    3.5 stars.Informative. Eye-opening. Thought-provoking. This was a well researched, enlightening read that made me sit and ponder many points. I love books that make me think! The author presents her research in an easy, well organized manner with chapters breaking down her theories. I liked how the information was presented.I found the beginning chapters more interesting than the latter chapters which felt a bit drawn out. However, there were cou...
  • Jon Nakapalau
    There are so many books on communication - so one can assume that it is a very important topic for many people in all walks of life. What Kate Murphy (KM) has done is nothing less than a 'distillation' of the process: looking at how the listening portion of communication is so often overlooked as we position our perspective as a platform: our mind-set already made up as we set in motion our 'values' to cascade down on others. KM gives us numerous...
  • Jeanette
    This book could change your life if you study it carefully and try to implement what you've read. As an avid reader, once I finish a book I tend to move quickly on to the next book. With this book, I'm not going to do that. I'm going to go right back to the beginning and read it again before writing a full review. That in itself is a glowing recommendation, because I usually wait at least a couple of years before re-reading any book.Publication d...
  • Diane S ☔
    3.5. One might think a book on this subject would be full of information that is just a matter of common sense. Quite possibly might consider themselves already good listeners. They would most likely be wrong. So few actually know what active listening entails and even more so in this techie age, where one wants to gather information as quickly as possible.The author explains how important listening is, to individual people, society as a whole. T...
  • marilyn
    Review to come
  • Barbara (The Bibliophage)
    Kate Murphy is a journalist who makes her living with her listening skills. No skills, no article. For the rest of us it’s not so straightforward. In her new book, You’re Not Listening: What You’re Missing and Why It Matters, she makes a case that listening is essential to communication. Of course, this seems obvious. One person talks and another listens. That’s communication. But Murphy explains why and how our listening skills are chang...
  • Terry ~ Huntress of Erudition
    This is a book that has a message which needs to be heard by everyone.Kate Murphy has interviewed many people and states that we are becoming more and more isolated, which leads to depression, which leads to a tragic rise in suicide rates all over the world.She believes that we do not really communicate effectively anymore, as a result of being overly connected to devices instead of each other. People are getting more used to texting than face to...
  • Janssen
    This was SO FASCINATING. I feel like it's one of those books every parent (really, probably every person) should read. Definitely talked Bart's ear off about this one.
  • Lorilin
    This book is about, duh, listening—why you should do it and how you can do it better. Don’t be put off by the somewhat self-aggrandizing intro. (Author Kate Murphy mentions that she writes for The New York Times no fewer than four times in the first two pages, ugh). But this little book actually does have some interesting points to share.After the intro, the book is divided into 16 sections, each one covering either advice on how to listen be...
  • Jordan
    A copy of this book was given by in exchange for review. All opinions stated are my own. What You're Missing and Why it matters You're Not Listening was an enlightening look into communicating effectively, its pros and cons, and where in the world society is geared in regards to this complex and critical skill.With many examples and oodles of research, this was a really interesting read that had me reflecting frequently on my own listening skills...
  • Lou
    How often do you listen to someone properly? I mean REALLY listen? You're Not Listening is a book in which author Kate Murphy explains how important listening to others is in terms of creating and maintaining a good connection with them. I frequently encounter people who talk, talk, talk at you but when it comes to your turn to speak they are distracted and itching to talk over you. This is an important, necessary and interesting read and shows u...
  • Jaclyn Crupi
    This felt like a lot of stating the obvious interspersed with research backing up the obvious point. This book could really have been an article. There’s some food for thought of course but I prefer my non-fiction to be far more rigorous. In the age in which we live we’re all very aware that nobody is listening and this book does little to offer real, concrete ways we can change or improve that. The paragraph on supportive listening is the st...
  • Elvina Zafril
    This is the first time I've heard about Kate Murphy. I wasn't aware if she had another books before this. I felt intrigued when I heard the title. I thought, it must be something related to people and why they should listen or maybe why they are not listening. I also thought about maybe there are some tips to actually listen to people.Nowadays, people are getting distracted wiith gadgets and work. We are active in social media sharing our opinion...
  • OjoAusana
    *received a free copy from netgalley for honest review* This was a great interesting read, I've read more than one book on the subject so, like it says In the book, it's not really anything new but it's presented in a great way. Even so it was a great read and I will certainly be recommending it to others. The whole book was very fascinating and insightful, however I did find the parts about politics very simplified. I don't think you should cut ...
  • Darcia Helle
    When was the last time you felt like someone truly listened to you? And when was the last time you gave someone your full attention?Much of our world exists in a constant state of distraction, with phones in hands, laptops at coffee shops, and multitasking at work and at home. We shout our opinions on social media and hit 'like' on the posts with which we agree. We hear each other, but we aren't listening. And because of this, we're lonelier than...
  • Bianca
    Wouldn't you agree this was a good book? A simple question camouflaged as a shift response! I learned so much from this book, and it was a quite the reality check: I'm a terrible listener! Kate Murphy's work here was fascinating, and from it, I have found tips for making small, daily improvements to my listening habits moving forward. Big thanks to Celadon Books for the opportunity to read this ARC!
  • Bakertyl
    A series of anecdotes, well written, thought not the most actionable advice.As a high school teacher, I deal with students (and parents) who don't listen well... they hear just fine, but don't process what they've heard so they don't understand. Not all students of course, but enough that the pattern is an issue. I was interested in this book as a way to improve myself, to help model for my students.Murphy does a good job of identifying problems ...
  • Lisa
    3.5 starsThis was very easy to read and approachable. I feel like I learned a few things from this book and there were some things I already was aware of. Overall I enjoyed this book but by the last few chapters I found my attention waning and was ready to be done reading. I received this book free for review from Celadon Books. All thoughts and opinions are my own.
  • Katie
    “Nature hath given men one tongue but two ears, that we may hear from others twice as much as we speak.”I wasn’t expecting to receive an ARC for this book in the mail, but it couldn’t have been more perfectly timed. My boss had just transferred to a new job, and her boss asked to talk to me, or rather just wanted to tell me that he thought my new team would be better for my career. I’d mentioned to him that I was trying for a promotion ...
  • Dana
    "To listen well is to figure out what's on someone's mind and demonstrate that you care enough to want to know." - Kate Murphy Something that amazed me about myself while reading You're Not Listening is that I've always thought I was a good listener. Available to talk when a friend or family member needed me, to listen, lend an ear. What surprised me most about myself is the bad habits I have while listening ... checking the time, fidgeting, look...
  • Genevieve Trono
    “When all we crave is to understand and be understood, You’re Not Listening shows us how.”In You’re Not Listening, author Kate Murphy explains what listening truly is and isn’t, and how important it is to our connection with ourselves and one another. Not only is this book super fascinating but it is always making me rethink so many things!In our technology-filled world, there are so many new ways for us to interact, yet we are all long...
  • Sarah Obsesses over Books & Cookies
    First of all I am a horrible listener. It's not just that my mind wanders and I interrupt but I just dont know how and have not known how for so long it's like I can't control the words that escape my mouth and I take over the conversation and I hate it. Also my husband hates and probably everyone who talks to me. Having said that even if you're not a bad listener this book should be in everyone's hands. It is basically a life guide. Kate Murphy ...
  • Janet
    When it is snowy and cold outside, superspeed readers like me can read 150 - 200+ pages/hour, so yes, I have read the book … and many more today. LOLI requested and received a temporary digital Advance Reader Copy of this book from #NetGalley, and a hard copy of this book from the publisher and the author in exchange for an honest review. From the publisher, as I do not repeat the contents or story of books in reviews, I let them do it as they ...
  • Megan Creasey
    This book is fascinating - I started bookmarking and underlining passages that I found really relevant, but I had to stop or I would have underlined most of the book. The idea that good listening is revolutionary/life changing sounds kind of far fetched, but it's really changed the way I've approached conversations and examined my own assumptions about people. It's inspired me to try to talk and listen more to people I don't know - conversing is ...