Why We Can't Sleep by Ada Calhoun

Why We Can't Sleep

When Ada Calhoun found herself in the throes of a midlife crisis, she thought that she had no right to complain. She was married with children and a good career. So why did she feel miserable? And why did it seem that other Generation X women were miserable, too?Calhoun decided to find some answers. She looked into housing costs, HR trends, credit card debt averages, and divorce data. At every turn, she saw a pattern: sandwiched between the Boome...

Details Why We Can't Sleep

TitleWhy We Can't Sleep
Release DateJan 7th, 2020
PublisherGrove Press
GenreNonfiction, Feminism, Writing, Essays, Health, Womens, Psychology

Reviews Why We Can't Sleep

  • Elyse Walters
    Sleepy?Can’t sleep?Wonder about others sleeping habits? The author primarily focuses on Generation X women....but....if you find yourself awake in the middle of the night ....you won’t feel alone after reading ‘this’ book!Ha... I read this during the middle of the night.Ada Calhoun did her research!!!She interviewed thousands of women around the country. We get insights about what concerns Generation X women......single women - divorce wo...
  • Cari
    I was lucky to receive an early copy of this book from Edelweiss. I have read a lot of books about women in today's society, but never one that examined the problem from a generational lens. I did my master's research paper on generations in the workplace, specifically the library, and it was really interesting to get a new perspective on it. Calhoun is a member of Generation X, and so the book focuses mostly on that generation, but there is plen...
  • P.S.G. Lopes
    ***I cannot believe I was blessed to read this AMAZING book before it was formally released. I was invited to read this book through #NetGalley. ***Ada Calhoun’s Why We Can’t Sleep has become my bible, my battle cry, my feminist go-to book for women my age. I got so much out of reading this book. The very second I picked up this book I literally absorbed each and every word and got angrier (in the best possible way), more passionate, and more...
  • Leslie Lindsay
    A searing exploration of stresses that keep GenX women up at night (literally and metaphorically), I raced through this book, which completely resonated. So, so grateful to have received an early copy of WHY WE CAN'T SLEEP: Women's New Midlife Crisis (Grove Atlantic, 2020) by memoirist/journalist Ada Calhoun. I was feeling especially down the day it arrived--you know, that existential angst--and was immediately gleeful after reading the book's de...
  • Terry ~ Huntress of Erudition
    Every woman between 40 - 60 years old should read this book!It is so well researched, realistic and affirming - for all of us who feel we should not be allowed to be happy unless we are living perfect lives, having it all and doing it all correctly, at all times.Whew, such a relief not to be compelled to "self-help" in order to be perfect at everything - if we are feeling overwhelmed at times, maybe it's because that being overwhelmed is a sane r...
  • Sherri Thacker
    “You come to this place, midlife. You don’t know how you get here, but suddenly you’re staring 50 in the face!” Yes this was me 6 years ago when i turned the big 5-0 and I knew this book was written about me. Especially with the title as I have not slept good in YEARS!! But this book is more about the facts of being in the Generation X group of women which according to this book, I miss it by a year since I was born in 1963. I found mysel...
  • Angela
    "Boomers deserve full credit for blazing trails while facing unchecked sexism and macroaggressions and for trying to raise children while giving up their own dreams. But Gen Xers entered life with "having it all" not as a bright new option but as a mandatory social condition."Confession: being born in 1981, this classifies me as a (very old) Millennial and not a Gen Xer. But I figure I had a crush on Zach Morris as a kid, so, you know, I'm close ...
  • Janet
    When it is hot as heck outside and there is nothing cool to do but reading as everything else makes you end up a sweaty mess, it is the perfect day for a speed reader. I received a temporary digital Advance Reader Copy of this book from #NetGalley in exchange for an honest review. From the publisher, as I do not repeat the contents or story of books in reviews, I let them do it as they do it better than I do . When Ada Calhoun found herself in th...
  • Erin Bartels
    Witty, well-researched, and full of compassion, Ada Calhoun's book about Gen X women's midlife crises/issues/concerns hits home. If you're a Gen X woman, you will find here someone who watched all the same TV shows, listened to all the same music, and had all the same fears as you did growing up. She'll show you how growing up in the 1970s and 1980s affects some of the things you may be facing now that you're in your forties. And she offers strat...
  • Jocelyn
    OUT TODAY, thanks to Grove Press and NetGalley for the ARC! I found Ada Calhoun’s Why We Can't Sleep highly readable and valuable as a Millennial woman. This nonfiction examination of Gen X women's experiences with aging and managing their middle-aged years was incredibly interesting. I found myself unable to put it down, perhaps because I craved a fuller (and more honest) understanding of real women's experiences. Calhoun's writing was engagin...
  • Becky
    Reading Why We Can't Sleep by Ada Calhoun felt like I was reading a biography of my own life. The main premise of the book examines that current life trajectories of women from Generation X (born 1965-1980). Women in Generation X are the first to deal with new expectations, due to the great strides achieved by women of earlier generations. For example, the ability to work outside the home and have children was normalized, but for Gen X women the ...
  • Cathi
    I think this book works best as a mirror, and wasn't as resonant for me because there are a lot of mirrors out there for me. The title is fairly misleading - there is nothing about sleep in this book, nor is the case made for Gen X midlife crises being particularly unique. Calhoun breaks (largely) cis, middle and upper class Gen X women's lives and concerns into chapters (eg relationships, career, finances) with a final synthesis chapter. There i...
  • Mehrsa
    I loved Calhoun's book about wedding toasts. This one felt forced to me. I could not relate more to a book--I am gen x also struggling with sleep. But I am not sure the answers in here are right--or at least new. There's a lot in here about structural issues like fair pay and second shift stuff and a lot of personal stories. She points out that wine drinking has become this generation's self-help philosophy. This seems true, but I'm not sure it's...
  • Kristine Olsen
    I found an article on the Huffington Post about this book and decided that it would be a read worth doing. The same article referenced an article the author wrote for O Magazine a while ago on the same topic. A quick search later and I found the original piece, which I had read a while ago. It was an article that I had found quite illuminating in that it wasn't just me entertaining the same concerns outlined in the text. That certainly provided m...
  • Laurie
    Not being from Gen X, I found some of the references unrelatable, but that did not detract from the number of things that are relatable to women from all generations. This book holds no answers to any of the Midlife Crisis angst and frustration felt by our gender, but it does give voice and power to the struggles in a unique and oddly healing way. I think most women would benefit in some way from reading it, and I have to assume those born into t...
  • Mary
    I had the opportunity to read an early release copy thanks to NetGalley in exchange for an honest review. I wasn’t sure what to expect from this book and kept pushing it to the bottom of my to read list. Once I began reading, it was difficult to put down. While I technically fall just out of the GenX range, being on the cusp, I could relate to virtually everything. From being a latch key, self-raising kid to the struggle with success, failure, ...
  • Jennifer
    3.5 I found this book to be thought provoking but also frustrating. The author takes a very surface-level approach to visiting Gen-Xers. I wanted more in-depth details about the women she interviewed. It’s also overwhelmingly about heterosexual women, to the point where I became distracted, wondering if we’d hear any stories about queer women. There was one, specifically. I suppose one could argue that this is not a necessarily relevant disti...
  • Sara Smith
    I received a free ARC of this book through Netgalley.From the title of this book, you might think it's about sleep, but really the focus is more on what are the biggest worries of the Generation X. The author is only a year older than me so being in the same cohort, it was reassuring to read that I am not alone in my anxiety. Financial concerns make up a large part of what keeps us up at night. An interesting read.
  • Emily Banks
    Rounding down. I nodded my head a lot and related to so much but it didn’t go beyond that. It’s a list of “here’s why we’re anxious and depressed” which, shockingly, only served to make me feel more anxious and depressed.
  • Jodi
    Ada Calhoun's "Why We Can't Sleep" offers several comforting ideas for Generation X women: We aren't alone, we aren't crazy, we really are dealing with a lot, and most importantly, somebody is noticing us! Generation X (roughly, born between 1965-1980) is a smaller cohort than either the Boomers who preceded us or the Millennials who came after us. However, we are entering middle age, and that is bringing us all many challenges. Calhoun interview...
  • Erin Logan
    I knocked this one down in two days. As a technical Millennial woman who feels I much more identify with GenX, this book really spoke to my soul. I needed this. This was definitely the right book at the right time for me.
  • Nichola Gutgold
    A bit too whiny for my tastes, but the author makes many good points about why today’s Gen X woman is overwhelmed. She quickly concludes on an optimistic note after bringing the reader through hundreds of negative pages. I don’t highly recommend but if you’re into these kinds of books about the current state of women, I recommend you read it. I don’t completely agree with her, but that might be the optimist in me.
  • Bruin Mccon
    Why Can’t We Sleep is a non-fiction book made for Gen X women who, as the title implies, really need some shut eye.I read an excerpt of this book in a magazine what feels like at least a year ago and I was very excited to get my hands on an advance review copy in exchange for an honest review. Honestly, this book rocks. It’s the catharsis you’ve been waiting for!“We’re the first generation of women raised from birth hearing the tired cl...
  • Megan
    Sometimes the right book comes into your life just when you need it. This was the book I didn't know that I needed and now I want to get copies of it for all of my friends who are middle-aged Gen-Xers. Heck, I want to get copies for my Boomer and Millennial friends, too, because we should all be talking about it! I cannot wait until its January 2020 release and hope that I get to discuss it with my friends soon after it is published. I'm not typi...
  • Rima
    Eh... I was interested in this book because I thought it would be relatable and intriguing to read about lack of sleep and to find other women to relate to. While some stories were relatable, I found myself skimming a majority of the book because there were quotes and lists of things that have already been shared ad nauseam. I would say this was just an ok read. I would like to thank NetGalley, the publisher, and the author for giving me the oppo...
  • Pet
    Hm. When I asked for the book I was sure it was a book calling for me. Very soon I learned it doesn't and wouldn't. Born in 1962 - I figured I'd be able to relate, somehow, but I couldn't. Interesting experience, though.Thanks to the publisher and Netgalley for providing a copy!
  • Eileen
    4.5 starsI took my time reading this book because I wanted to think about each of the chapters as I read them. When I requested this ARC, it was the title that caught my eye, because I don't sleep. So I thought it was going to be some sort of self-help book that might help me sleep better. But it turns out it's about the different generations (boomers, gen-x, millenials, etc.) and in particular about gen-x women and why life seems to be such a st...