The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown

The Gifts of Imperfection

New York Times best-selling author and professor Brené Brown offers a powerful and inspiring book that explores how to cultivate the courage, compassion, and connection to embrace your imperfections and to recognize that you are enough.Each day we face a barrage of images and messages from society and the media telling us who, what, and how we should be. We are led to believe that if we could only look perfect and lead perfect lives, we'd no lon...

Details The Gifts of Imperfection

TitleThe Gifts of Imperfection
Release DateAug 27th, 2010
PublisherHazelden Publishing
GenreNonfiction, Self Help, Psychology, Personal Development, Spirituality

Reviews The Gifts of Imperfection

  • Ed McKeogh
    I've read more than my fair share of "self-help" literature, so I can assert with conviction that this is not a self-help book. Instead, it's a revelation book. Each chapter triggered numerous "ah-Ha!" moments for me, because Dr. Brown goes a step (or two, or five) beyond the common way of looking at or framing an issue to reveal the interconnectedness of elements that stall or sabotage our efforts to live a more satisfying life. Instead of the "...
  • Bdalton
    I read this book after watching Brown's TED talk on vulnerability. The TED talk was shown as the last exercise for a leadership class at work. The talk was intriguing and I wanted to know more. Also, I noted that many of the comments regarding this fairly brief talk were often negative. I found the talk inspiring so I wanted to see if there was any validity to the negative comments.The question that I had in my mind was why was this shown at work...
  • Lara
    You may have noticed a theme in my last couple posts. I'm rundown, overwhelmed and I realize that, while my priorities are right in my head, they aren't in reality. So the book I'm reviewing today really came at a perfect time in my own personal crisis. In fact, as I was reading along yesterday (yes, I totally procrastinated reading it due to other books taking up my precious little reading time) I thought to myself, "This book could be companion...
  • Ann Lewis
    I had to mark this as read to get if off my list. Actually I had to abort the read. Just could not relate to a word of it at all. I feel like this author is speaking a different language. I have a hard time believing anybody really CARES that much about what others think about them. It's amazing to me. A Whole book telling you it's OK if you're not who someone wants you to be?? I feel like saying "GET A LIFE!"I also Really had trouble with the wr...
  • Dani (The Pluviophile Writer)
    Update: This book changed my life. Dramatic as it sounds, it's true. I wrote this on Brené's Facebook page:"Brené,I've just about finished your book "The Gifts of Imperfection" which I discovered after watching you speak on TED talks and I can honestly say that this book is helping me completely change my life. I suffer(ed) from a condition called Dermatillomania ( and I've tried everything from therapis...
  • Anna
    I really like Brene Brown--she gave a terrific and funny TED talk about her research concerning the importance of vulnerability, of imperfection, of failure, and so I read her book. I think her thesis is superb, her research about shame and wholeheartedness really interesting, and the message of the book necessary to modern life. But! I can't help it. I hoped for a little more "perfectionism" in the writing (and structuring! of the book as a whol...
  • Clumsy Storyteller
    She makes it feel and seem so easy!the main message here is: Let go of your insecurities,expectations, shame, guilt, discomfort. Happy people are happy because they make themselves happy, they are the ones who think of themselves as worthy of love. you're IMPERFECT Embrace it. “Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.” “When I let go o...
  • Mohammed Abbas
    نفس الهراء والنصائح المعلبة التي تجدها في معظم كتب تنمية الذات
  • Christy
    4 stars "Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It's about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen." non-fiction challenge
  • Matt Evans
    Listening to this book, I felt like I was being lectured to by the kind of person who concludes her cell-phone's voicemail with the word, 'namaste' -- a Hindi word that means 'I acknowledge the divine in you.' Actually, 'namaste" also signifies that its user knows an exotic Asian concept-word. (Total aside, but in my experience, chronic 'namaste' sayers tend to be impatient and prone to pedantic rages, when life hits them between the eyes with tw...
  • Carmen
    This book is basically meaningless and worthless to me.Not due to any fault on Brown's part, but simply because I do not need or want self-help books. She seems to be focusing on a reader that is obsessed with her own flaws or who is a perfectionist and self-hater. I am none of these things.I just found the book extremely boring. That being said, I did find two passages I liked:Shame loses power when it is spoken.True. Talking about what makes yo...
  • Elyse Walters
    Update: I thought this book was 'fair'. The structure of the chapters was too repetitive. Plus, more personal stories needed to be added to make the book feel more human. Yesterday I started listening to "Rising Strong" by this same author. I had no idea she was the same author as this book, nor did I know that this book, and "Rising Strong", is part of a trilogy. I highly doubt that it matters. I'm getting much more enjoyment - with Brene Brown'...
  • Megankellie
    I read this after geeking out hard because of her TED talk. I think there is a certain point in some these books where you have to have a big fold out section that says in type as big as your face: DO YOU HAVE MONEY? and also DO YOU HAVE A FAMILY? and if you say no, the last 25% of the book will disintegrate or turn into dust. The first 75% was great, relevant, filled with good thoughts and information and quotable stuff. Then she gets to the "my...
  • Diane
    I had to read this for work, but even without the burden of assigned reading, I would not have liked this book. It feels slight, filled with padded stories about shame and vulnerability and the author's reaction to said shame and vulnerability. (And sometimes the author's reaction to her reaction to the shame. Sigh.)I shall now summarize the book's precepts: Feel Good About Yourself. Be Compassionate and Grateful. Blah blah Laugh Dance Love blah ...
  • Amin Dorosti
    من همیشه به کتابهایی از این دست بدبین بودهام؛ شاید به دلیل یک پیشداوری قدیمی و شاید هم به دلیل برخورد با کتابهای به اصطلاح «زرد» در حوزه روانشناسی و رشدفردی. با وجود این، چندی پیش همسرم به من مطالعۀ این کتاب را پیشنهاد داد. من از همان کودکی با مشکل «ک...
  • Hanne
    It’s true, I’m a sucker for social science research: the human mind just intrigues me like there is not tomorrow; and the emotional side even more so than the rational one. After accidentally seeing Brené Brown’s TED speech for a second time this week, I was intrigued enough to pick up her books. Unfortunately her book is nowhere near as exciting. First of all, for someone who claims to be an obsessive organizer, there is a remarkable lack...
  • Patty
    I am having a hard time writing this review, probably for two reasons. First of all, there is so much that I liked in this book that I know I will be reading it again. If the copy I read had been mine, I might have underlined most of the book.The second reason that I am struggling here is that I haven't done anything with what I have learned. I have now read two books by Brown; she has pointed out some things I need to be doing for myself and I a...
  • Kelly
    In addition to reading West, I've also been into a lot of mindfulness books/stuff that's related to mindfulness lately, like this one. I found and really liked her TED talk by chasing down some references from Buddha's Brain, so I decided to read her book after that. Overall, I think a lot of her points are well-taken. I also liked that she reiterates constantly that all of her ideas are research and statistics based, not something she just, like...
  • Mohammad
    یک کتاب فوق العاده عالی که به ما کمک می کنه با نواقصمون نه تنها کنار بیایم بلکه بتونیم احساس شادی داشته باشیم
  • Bill
    I think I stumbled across this on Goodreads, thought it looked good and gave it a try. I stopped being a sucker for drugstore psychology, Oprah Winfrey, self help books many years ago but I fell off the wagon on this one. Don't get me wrong, there are many wonderful points in this read but looking for solutions to life's most challenging issues in an Oprah empire endorsed and marketed self help tome is a recipe for disappointment.That being said,...
  • Monica Kim: Reader in Emerald City
    The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed To Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brene Brown -- Your Guide To A Wholehearted Life**Because the nature of the book, this review turned out be more like a summary than a review, and it ended up being much longer than I expected. Thank you for reading!I am forever grateful for Dr. Brene Brown -- her message, research, and work really makes sense to me and resonate with me. I have r...
  • Odette Knappers
    Een goed en fijn boek over minder moeten van jezelf.Wat ik jammer vind is dat de dingen waar voor mij de nadruk op mogen liggen of die erg bijdroegen aan zo een situatie verbeteren, dat die vrij kort behandeld werden. Vragen als - je moet dit van jezelf, maar waarom eigenlijk? werden maar kort behandeld, terwijl mij dat juist een groot inzicht gaf. Daar had ze wel meer aandacht van mij aan mogen besteden.De latere stukjes over zingeving en beziel...
  • Mike
    Brene Brown tries to distill her research and reporting what she found are the differences between "wholehearted" people and the rest of us running-scared-dogs. What she doesn't do is make it any easier for us to bridge the gap between where we are and where we'd like to be. She claims she made some serious attitude shifts through a year of intensive therapy, then wraps up each chapter with some easy (and unfounded in her research) platitudes and...
  • Iris
    Wat een fantastisch boek, precies wat nodig had! Bij sommige stukken had ik echt het gevoel alsof het voor mij was geschreven. Het leest niet als een typisch zelfhulpboek met praktische tips; de schrijfster deelt vooral persoonlijke verhalen en resultaten uit haar onderzoek (op een begrijpelijke/verhalende manier). Dat vond ik juist extra fijn en heel inspirerend. Doordat ze 'vage' begrippen die je op verschillende manieren kan opvatten goed uitl...
  • Froztwolf
    It is quite unfortunate how much the author seems to be stuck in the write style appropriate to blogs, because this book is horribly structured. Each of the chapters tackles a huge subject in a few pages. They have only a marginal connection to one another and there is no flow throughout the book, often leaving the reader confused. I say this is unfortunate not just because I spent my time reading the book, but because it contains a lot of good i...
  • Raven
    I came to this book after watching Brown's TED talk on vulnerability and seeing this book mentioned elsewhere online. The messages of this book are so very important and they really spoke to me. The idea that we are worthy: "The greatest challenge for most of us is believing that we are worthy now, right this minute. Worthiness doesn't have prerequisites." Some of the prerequisites she mentions are "I'll be worthy when I lose twenty pounds," "I'l...
  • Jeannine
    Some good points, but most of the suggested solutions are pretty obvious. (Relax, play, center yourself spiritually whatever that means to you, stop striving, do something creative, blah blah blah).It really annoyed me that she capitalized Wholehearted throughout the whole book. I would not be surprised to see a whole Wholehearted(tm) product line in stores soon. Journals! Notecards! Classes!Ah well. Whatever works for you.Cute slogans and catchp...
  • EJ
    A little disclaimer: The title isn’t fair to this book. It gives the Illusion this is a self help book. In my opinion its more about human behavior and embracing the life you have.After watching a Brene Brown TEDtalk I purchased her most recent book, Daring Greatly. Her authenticity or pursuit of it, is what kept my attention.A lot of authors who write self-help oriented books frustrate me with the façade of perfection. You can just see the wo...
  • Bryce
    I felt that the author's writing and insights were somewhat disjointed and scattered. The book didn't flow well from beginning to end and has a serious drop off in relevance in the final chapters. I did think a lot of the advice was truly useful and important, but this information was given in small snippets amongst a large amount of other information which was less useful and not very helpful.It bothered me that throughout the book that the auth...
  • Hesam
    یکم - به نظرم تلاش کتاب را میتوان در یک جمله خلاصه کرد: «تلاش برای نگریستن به مشکلات از نظرگاهی متفاوت. به اندازهای متفاوت که اغلب جای علت و معلول عوض میگردد.»دوم- مثلا می گوید: تلاش ما برای انکار و فرار از هیجانها و احساسات منفی (هم چون غم، ترس، شرم، نا...