The Manual by Steve Santagati

The Manual

How many times have you and your friends asked one another these questions without ever coming up with any good answers? Your girlfriends just tell you what you want to hear. At the end of the day, the only person who can give you insight into man problems is?that?s right?a man! But guys have hidden agendas. What guy would give up all his dating advantages by spilling the goods?Steve Santagati would. A self-confessed serial dater and Bad Boy, Ste...

Details The Manual

TitleThe Manual
Release DateMay 29th, 2007
PublisherCrown Archetype
GenreNonfiction, Self Help, Relationships

Reviews The Manual

  • Denelle Swaim
    Did I say Twilight was the worst book I'd ever read? I've changed my mind.
  • Katie
    This book was crap. It may give you insight into the mind of an 'asshole,' but that's about it.
  • rebekah
    I am kind of embarrassed that I liked this book, particularly since while I was reading it I was also reading the Body Myth which was all about not trying to be perfect and giving into the pervasive advertising culture that makes me value my appearance over all other aspects of the goddess that is I...but I gotta say, there was alotta truth ringing around this book. So now I am experimenting and trying to follow this fool's advice while dating, w...
  • Spencer
    This book was a big fat face slap to men and women everywhere. The advice could not have been worse. Ladies, if you want some good dating advice, unless you want to know how to date a tool, you will need to look elsewhere. Guys, if you want to feel nauseated and pissed, read on. Wonder why I'm so angry? Read my book blog post at:
  • gabrielle
    I can't remember where I read about this book, but somehow I came away with the impression that it was one of those "joke" self-help books, the kind with funny cartoons. I could use a laugh right now, especially in that department, so I requested this book from my library.Yes, it made me laugh - but in an "OMG, is this guy serious?" way. Santagati talks out of both sides of his mouth all the way through this, claiming that men love women, then in...
  • Anne
    If you want to know how do date a guy and fulfill all of his needs, and make sure that he will never commit to this book.
  • Katerina
    OK, so I am giving 3 stars as the book actually contains some very useful information (don't jump to conclusions here, read further on) even though the title is misleading.So the book is called:The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date, and Mate--And What Women Can Do to Come Out on Topbut in my opinion a more appropriate title might be:The Insight: A True Bad Boy Explains How Bad Men Think, Date, and Mate--And What Women Can Do to ...
  • Lindsay
    This book was a load of crap. All these tips he gives to give to get us to be able to weed out the bad guys and find the good guys, or just to get a guy to notice us just didn't make sense. He says that he often uses another girl to help him get the girl hes interested in. If I see a guy with a girl, I'm not going to hit on him. For all I know she's his girlfriend. No point in starting a cat fight. He also talked about playing games and following...
  • Christine
    This book started out ok, albeit shallow... I gues with a title like that you can't expect much more... What really threw me off though was that instead of perhaps peeling layers off and becoming more interesting, it became way way wayyyyy worse! I was particularly offended by the section on women's jobs and how they should NOT talk about their job, and how to get out ot talking about their work - oh, and that women who talk about work won't have...
  • Alicia
    Does Steve really speak for every man? I feel like I'll be great at picking up and keeping Santagati...but what about everyone else?!
  • Paisley
    Any person with an emotional age above 17 will find it hard to take someone seriously that judges the length of a relationship by the length of their lover's pubic/ under-arm/ chest hair. At the same time - some credit should be given for good intentions: Steve seems to sincerely try to give women the heads-up on the secret character traits that unite all those born with a y-chromosome. It's hard to fault him for the fact that his bad-boy banter ...
  • LeLe
    I thought this was an interesting, although not always inspiring look into a man's mind regarding the game of dating. The author gives some good insights into how men think, but he doesn't always offer women the solutions in a helpful mode of feminine understanding. He's hypocritical. He expresses how important a woman's physical appearance is to men, which is understandable. However, he says initially that women only need to be well-groomed and ...
  • Kerry
    Gives an insight on as to how a man thinks and acts with women. This has sure enlightened me with men. While it has put a different perspective on my views on men, after this read, I now know that many men do play games and expect the female to play along. It states how men are visual creatures and the woman truly does need to look her best, even at the grocery store. Even though the book sates to enjoy yourself, it seems there are still rules to...
  • Cassandra Sabako
    Dear Women, if you want to learn how to self-objectify yourself, this is the book for you!What made me give this book two stars, and what truly frightens me, is that the author is actually sincere. He thinks he's helping women when he's part of the problem. It's actually really sad. This book was recommended to me by an ex, and I can't wait to call him up and tell him what I think.
  • Ashley
    The sole reason as to why this book caught my attention was to see what a guy would write about the male thought process.I give this a flat-hand-with-twisting. Sure, his point of view MAY be true to the males who have the same thought process as him. Men who claim "All men think the same" are mostly speaking about guys like them. He has some good points.Good toilet reading.
  • Krista Martin
    Thanks for giving me this book, mom. My favorite part was possibly the advice to dress up & do my makeup & hair for work, because everyone (especially bosses!!1one!) appreciates the extra effort to look nice. And hey, maybe I'll snag myself a man!*gag*Donated this at the last book drive. Only now do I realize I shouldn't have passed it along to some unsuspecting 25 cent bargain hunter.
  • BookCupid
    Read this while doing research for a character. Personally I always thought bad boys were a lot of work. Sure, they are fun and you can attract one by following Steve's advice, but keeping one for a long term relationship is not easy. And would mean playing games until you tire and he runs.
  • Stephanie
    I want to give this book to a guy and see what he thinks about it.
  • Cory
    I find that I've been reading a lot of dating and diet books lately, which might make me look slightly pathetic, but I don't seem to care. Anyway, this is probably my second-favorite dating book. The tone is hip without being depressingly uber-cool, so I could get into the advice without getting depressed about the state of the universe. Santagati's advice is refreshingly specific--instead of the usual "Love yourself and then you will find a mate...
  • Mary
    I love a good bad boy, so this was a fun read for me. The author, a self-professed bad boy, uses a few too many puns in the name of fun to make me believe that he is a bad boy to the bone. However, he gives some interesting advice; although I think much of it was from his personal corner more than from men in general. Dating advice books give conflicting "advice" again and again--this book was no different, but it was mildly insightful to read hi...
  • Anuja
    I read an excerpt of this book online somewhere, and I decided to give it a try when I found it avaliable at the library. Ultimately, it's enlightening. It confirmed some things I already knew about men and their psyches, and listed new ones too. Advice in this book is something to think about. Certain suggestions, I admit, I would never do unless I was extremely desperate - yes, from my point of view, certain suggestions were a bit extreme. (For...
  • Eleanor Hopkins
    Def not politically correct or kind. It is brutally honest. Reading this book gave me insight into how men behave and think in the dating world. I do feel more empowered by reading this book and better equipped to deal with the dating world in a very pragmatic way. Dating and romance is a game for most men - and just because we women don't like it won't change that fact. This book confirmed and clarified a lot of the past behavior in previous par...
  • Anna
    The real question is, how much of this book is helpful to girls and how much is meant to groom his next perfect fling-chick? Some good points (ie, if he's a jerk, drop him; these are signs of a jerk), and some good glimpses into male reasoning, but makes the assumption (among others) that what you're after is a series of flings, that causal sex is always on the table, and that you want to spend a great part of your energy in a relationship on man...
  • Christa
    yes, i too can't believe i'm reading this book. my mom bought it for me and my sis a few years ago. i was already in a committed relationship so i was NOT interested. well, now that i'm back to being alone i figured why not? after i move on from mike's passing i know i have to put myself back out in that scary dating world. this tip is giving me a lot of pointers, things to consider, and what goes on in a guys mind when they first met someone. it...
  • Mary
    OK, I read this as part of the "Man Plan". Within the first few chapters, the author has a quiz to prove women love bad boys whether they want to believe this or not. I took the quiz. I do not love bad boys. I love the "boring" nice boys. It was an OK book. Some things were frustrating because I knew they were true, others were because it just seemed so juvenile. Honestly, I don't know that it'll help with the almost defunct "man plan", but we'll...
  • Susan
    A friend gave this to me after yet another break up. But what I realized is that I really don't want a "bad boy" so this manual doesn't really help me in my situation. My "bad boy" brother did think it was pretty accurate in some places. The part I really didn't like was the "relationship expiration dates" - Steve claims that men know how long they will stick aroudn right from the beginning. Wish I was given that information upfront.
  • Steph
    Honestly I got this at the library five years ago on a whim. I took the whole thing with a grain of salt and just enjoyed reading it. He's funny and for better or worse honest. I don't think you should take it so seriously--one look at the first couple pages and you get a pretty good idea of what it's going to be like...put down the book and get another...not to mention. he hardly seems like a bad boy as much as he seems like a douche.